12 Reasons to Divorce
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the complexities of divorce, including the historical dynamics of the couple, the rise of divorce as an exit strategy, and the impact of modern societal trends on relationships. He reviews 12 common reasons for divorce, such as communication issues, lack of love or intimacy, lack of partnership, and infidelity. Vaknin emphasizes the importance of redefining love and addressing issues such as addiction, domestic violence, and financial problems in relationships. He also highlights the impact of fatigue, lack of emotional support, and changes in self-identity as contributing factors to divorce.
New Light on Victims of Narcissistic Abuse (With Macy Nelson)
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the dynamics of narcissistic abuse and cluster B personality disorders. He emphasizes the prevalence of victimhood as a proxy for identity politics and the need for self-accountability. Vaknin delves into the psychological defenses of victims and abusers, the cycle of idealization and devaluation, and the challenges of forgiveness and self-forgiveness. He also highlights the inherent inability of cluster B personalities to experience empathy and emotional resonance.
Message to Mentally Ill: You are Doing the Best You Can!
Mental illness is a pervasive, consuming, and defining force that affects individuals and their relationships. It is a constant companion, overwhelming and debilitating, leading to self-loathing and self-defeat. The mentally ill face stigma, ostracization, and ridicule, as they struggle to fit in and make others happy. Despite the challenges, they continue to strive for success and self-acceptance, embracing defeat and failure as part of their journey.
Covert Narcissist’s Abuse= Coercive Control?
Today’s lecture covers covert narcissistic abuse and coercive control. Covert narcissists engage in passive-aggressive abuse, creating networks of people to target and manipulate others. Coercive control, a rare phenomenon, involves intimidation, social isolation, invasive monitoring, and deprivation of basic needs. It is a premeditated, goal-oriented strategy that is not the result of mental illness and should be fought against. This type of control is distinct from typical abuse and reflects a power asymmetry.
What’s Wrong with Our Dystopian World (Starts at 05:56)
The text is a rant about the state of the world, discussing various societal issues and expressing dissatisfaction with the current state of affairs. It covers topics such as internet stickiness, narcissistic behavior, societal norms, censorship, and the decline of traditional values. The author expresses a bleak outlook on the future of humanity and the world.
How To Think Like A Narcissist
The text discusses how to think like a narcissist and the reasons for wanting to do so. It delves into the dissonant thinking of narcissists and how they resolve contradictions in their thoughts and emotions. The text also explores the use of defense mechanisms and the impact of dissonance on the narcissist’s psyche. Additionally, it touches on the narcissist’s fear of mortification and their self-administered exposure therapy.
WARNING: Don’t Join Narcissist’s Death Cult (Narcissist Forgets, Recalls You DAILY)
Narcissists view others as external objects, separate and threatening due to their autonomy and agency. The narcissist dissociates from the external object and interacts with an internal representation of it. When the external object asserts independence, the narcissist feels threatened and may seek to eliminate it. The narcissist’s interactions are driven by a desire to take over and destroy the other person, reflecting a focus on death and a lack of empathy.
Narcissist As Social Misfit
The text discusses the narcissist as a social misfit, focusing on their failure in social interactions, roles, and learning. It delves into the concept of narcissistic collapse and the impact of social learning theory on the narcissist’s predicament. The text also touches on the narcissist’s lack of empathy, social deficits, and their use of anchoring as a way to interact with others. Additionally, it explores the narcissist’s inability to engage in social comparison and their focus on death and destruction.
Mental Health Dictionary – Letter B
Sam Vaknin discusses the letter B in his Mental Health Dictionary series. He covers topics such as blocking, borderline personality disorder, and the Borderline Personality Organization Scale. He provides detailed descriptions of the symptoms and behaviors associated with BPD, including unstable relationships, impulsive behavior, and mood swings. Vaknin also mentions his plans to continue the series with the letter C.
Mental Health Dictionary – Letter A
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses his work on mental health definitions, which he has contributed to various online encyclopedias and apps. He has compiled these definitions into a Mental Health Dictionary, which is available on his website. Additionally, he plans to create videos for each letter of the alphabet, eventually combining them into a single Mental Health Dictionary video. He covers various definitions, including those for acting out, affect, ambivalence, amnesia, anhedonia, anorexia, antisocial personality disorder, anxiety, aphonia, and avoidant personality disorder. He encourages viewers to collect the definitions from his Instagram account or website.