“Spiritual” Narcissist Casts Narrative Spell on YOU (with Dr. Lisa Alastuey)
Sam Vaknin discusses spiritual narcissism, where narcissists pretend to have spiritual functions, such as clergy, healers, or therapists, and claim a connection to a higher authority. He explains three types of spiritual narcissists: victim, godlike, and healer. He also delves into the role of narratives in spirituality and predicts a shift in power dynamics from men to women in the next 50 years. He advises individuals to create their own narratives and belong to themselves before affiliating with others.
When YOU Are In Charge Of Therapy: Client Centred Therapy
Carl Rogers noticed problems in therapy in the 1940s, such as therapist anxiety and victim blaming. He developed person-centered therapy, emphasizing the client’s role in leading therapy and the therapist’s empathy and acceptance. The therapy focuses on the client’s self-exploration and growth, with the therapist providing a nonjudgmental and supportive environment. The approach has evolved over time and is now practiced differently due to changes in societal norms and boundaries.
Narcissist’s Self-supply Techniques
Today’s video discusses self-supply in narcissists, where they generate supply from within to avoid collapse. Techniques include future orientation, exclusive reference, self-referential transcendence, self-audiencing, self-referential ideation, contemptuous withholding, and paranoid ideation. These techniques are used to maintain a sense of superiority and control. Self-supply can lead to delusional fantasies and paranoia, but it also reduces harm to others by making the narcissist self-sufficient. The focus of treatment should be on teaching the narcissist to self-supply in a benevolent manner.
Narcissist’s Relationship with God (True Story)
The text is a stream of consciousness narrative about the narrator’s experiences and interactions with various people, including a woman who cleans his apartment, a monk, and a bookstore owner. The narrator reflects on his search for meaning and salvation, including encounters with a Jesuit and a visit to a monastery. The text ends with the narrator preparing for a visit to Boston for an interview.
How Victims Soothe Themselves After Narcissistic Abuse (NEW VIDEO + Compilation)
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the topic of self-soothing for victims of narcissistic abuse. He emphasizes the fallacious narratives victims tell themselves and the need to take responsibility for their role in the abuse. He also highlights the importance of silencing negative internal voices before seeking therapy.
Narcissist’s Never-ending Vengeance (Redemption: A True Story)
The text discusses the narcissistic tendencies and destructive behavior of a character, as well as the dynamics of a patriarchal family. It tells the story of the character’s father and grandfather, and their relationships with their family members. The story also touches on themes of honor, duty, and estrangement within the family.
Narcissist’s False Self HATES, FEARS Your Intimacy!
The narcissist has a false self that competes with and obviates others. Both narcissists and borderlines have a false self, but the conception of narcissistic personality disorder and borderline personality disorder is changing. The false self compensates for inadequacy and protects the true self, preventing regression into borderline emotional dysregulation. It resists intimacy and healthy alternatives, and fights back against therapy and personal growth. The false self is a solipsistic construct that prevents the narcissist from interacting meaningfully with others and drives the narcissist to the verge of psychosis.
Never Forgive Infidelity, Cheating!
Public intellectuals and coaches who validate ignorance and biases for profit are criticized. The speaker argues that cheating in relationships is never therapeutic and reflects underlying psychological issues. They distinguish consensual non-monogamous arrangements from deceptive affairs, asserting that forgiving such betrayal indicates mental illness. Mentally healthy individuals are advised to end relationships after infidelity, and those who don’t are deemed mentally impaired. The speaker dismisses justifications for cheating and urges seeking therapy for considering staying in a deceptive relationship.
From Insight to Self-love, Self-care: 4 Conditions, 4 Steps
Personal change requires self-awareness, empathy, motivation, and emotions. Self-awareness involves understanding oneself without pretension. Empathy is crucial for fitting into society and motivating change. Motivation to change is influenced by interactions with others and the environment. Emotions, including love and negative feelings, drive personal growth. Self-love is based on self-awareness, self-acceptance, self-trust, and self-efficacy, and serves as a reliable compass in life.
Narcissist’s Manipulative Weapon: Projective Identification
Narcissists and psychopaths use mind control techniques, such as entraining and projective identification. Entraining involves synchronizing the victim’s brainwaves with the abuser’s through repetition of phrases and criticisms. Projective identification involves the narcissist projecting rejected traits onto the victim, who then identifies with and adopts these traits. In a world of conflict and uncertainty, it is important to prioritize self-awareness, authenticity, and self-sufficiency, and carefully consider the risks of engaging with others.