Signs You are Being Idealized or Devalued
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the narcissist’s internal processes of idealization, devaluation, and discard in relationships. He explains how the narcissist interacts with a snapshot of the partner in his mind, and how the partner is idealized, devalued, and eventually discarded. The narcissist’s need to separate from the partner is explored, along with the reversal of the idealization, devaluation, and discard sequence in the narcissist’s mind versus reality.
Good Mother Pushes Child Away and Other Answers Questioned
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the concept of the death drive and the impact of a mother’s choices on a child’s life. He also addresses questions about narcissists, their capability of love, laziness, intrusive thoughts, and the potential for narcissism in charitable behavior. He emphasizes the narcissistic tendencies and control issues in individuals who give as a substitute for love.
Cruelty Is Not Sadism Narcissism, Not Pleasure
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the topics of cruelty and sadism, differentiating between the two. He explains that cruelty is reactive and a form of narcissistic defense, while sadism is focused on pleasure and involves premeditation and creativity. Cruelty is situational and can be stopped, while sadism is a character trait that persists. Vaknin also delves into the psychological motivations and justifications behind both cruelty and sadism, emphasizing the internal and external aspects of each.
The Only 6 Rules You Need for a Better Life
The speaker shares their admiration for elephants and the wisdom they associate with the animal. They then proceed to outline six rules for living a balanced and healthy life, as imparted by their “Pachydermic friend.” The rules cover self-respect, advocating for oneself, skepticism, seeking advice, observing reactions to adversity, and personal growth. The speaker emphasizes the importance of respecting oneself, being assertive, and trusting one’s instincts. They also stress the value of time, the true nature of people, and personal growth through behavioral change.
Opposites No Longer Attract How Narcissism Corrupts Mate Selection
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses mate selection and the impact of narcissism on modern relationships. He argues that people now seek partners who mirror their own traits and beliefs, rather than complementing them. This shift is attributed to the rise of narcissism, which has led to a decline in diversity and a focus on seeking validation and narcissistic supply from partners. Studies show that similarities, especially in political and religious beliefs, play a significant role in mate selection, and opposites no longer attract in long-term relationships. The professor also suggests that narcissism has degraded the mate selection process and poses an evolutionary threat to the human species.
Hitchcock’s Halloween Treat (or Trick?): Psycho, or Embodied Introject
Norman Bates of Psycho fame is analyzed in relation to narcissistic mother identification. The film is a morality play where bad things happen to bad people. Norman is humorous and charming but has a harsh inner critic and is unable to say certain words. He has a misogynistic view of women and is deeply influenced by his mother’s introject. Norman’s actions and relationships are driven by his need to be seen and his hatred of women. He embodies his mother’s introject and is diagnosed with OSDD, not multiple personality disorder. Norman’s actions are driven by his need to be seen and his hatred of women, and he ultimately turns himself in to the police.
Psychology Of ( Israeli Palestinian) Conflict
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the Israeli-Palestinian conflict, delving into the psychological dynamics of the parties involved. He highlights the trauma, grandiosity, impaired reality testing, and the need for enemies to define one’s identity. Vaknin emphasizes the importance of empathy and the recognition of shared humanity as a means to resolve the conflict.
How Covert Narcissist Deceives Covert Borderline And He Loves It ( 2nd In Odd Couples Series)
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the dynamics of a relationship between a covert borderline and a covert narcissist. He explains the characteristics and behaviors of each type and how they interact in a relationship. The covert borderline is a hybrid of borderline and narcissistic traits, while the covert narcissist has a false sense of grandiosity and struggles with shame and inadequacy. The relationship between the two involves manipulation, envy, and a struggle for control, leading to a tumultuous and often destructive dynamic. The covert borderline seeks ideal love and is willing to deceive himself, while the covert narcissist provides a fantasy of perfection that the covert borderline becomes addicted to.
Incest, Emotional Infidelity, Reality therapy (RT), Our Introjects, Music Triggers
The text is a Q&A session on various topics related to narcissism, including the influence of the dual mothership principle on the narcissist’s sex drive, the impact of emotional cheating versus physical infidelity on narcissists, an overview of reality therapy, and a discussion on interjects and their role in relationships. Additionally, the text touches on the triggering effect of music on narcissists, linking it to early childhood experiences of verbal abuse and entraining.
Why Narcissists Cry at the Movies: Self-pity, not Empathy
Narcissists and psychopaths cry at movies due to a complex interplay of psychological factors. While there is a distinction between the two personality types, both can experience emotional reactions while watching films. For narcissists, the experience of watching a movie triggers a regression to infancy, leading to feelings of shame, grief, and a sense of loss of control. These emotions are not genuine empathy, but rather a form of self-pity and manipulation. The act of crying at movies serves as a way for narcissists to signal distress and seek validation from others.