Why Do You Trust Learn To Trust Again! ( Bonus Rant)
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses various topics in these sections, including malignant egalitarianism, lying, the psychology of trust, and the importance of trust in relationships. He argues that people today think they are experts on everything without bothering to educate themselves or research properly, which undermines expertise and intellectual authority. He also warns that people should be cautious of those who claim to be empathic and selfless but ask for payment for their services. Additionally, he emphasizes the need to be alert and vigilant but not hypervigilant in relationships, and provides markers to distinguish true friends from fake friends.
Codependents And Narcissists Wooden Puppets And Cruel Puppetmasters
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the story of Pinocchio as a metaphor for the struggles of abused children. He explains that Pinocchio’s desire to become human and escape his puppet existence represents a death wish, as abused children often feel they don’t exist or are unsure of their own essence. To cope with their abusive environment, these children may become narcissistic, borderline, or codependent, either emulating or merging with their abusive parent. This leads to a life of conflict, power play, and fantasy, as they constantly seek to escape their puppet-like existence.
Narcissist: Your Pain is his Healing, Your Crucifixion – His Resurrection
Narcissists need their victims to suffer to regulate their own emotions and feel a sense of control. They keep a mental ledger of positive and negative behaviors, with negative behaviors weighing more heavily. Narcissists need counterfactual statements to maintain their delusion of being special and superior. The grandiosity gap is the major vulnerability of the narcissist, and they are often in denial about their limitations and failures.
Narcissist’s Credo And My Minnie Relationship
The text is a transcript of a speech by Professor Sam Vaknin about the beliefs, tenets, and credo of a narcissist. He describes himself as a narcissist and explains that he is superior, opinionated, and entitled to be grandiose. He also states that he cannot be changed and that his playmates must accept him as he is, forgive him unconditionally, and love him regardless of his conduct. He emphasizes that he is the one who decides which game to play and that his playmates must adapt to his whims.
COVID-19: 1st Narcissistic Pandemic (Webinar on Psychiatry, Psychology, & Public Health, Aug 2020)
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the psychological impact of the COVID-19 pandemic, including signs of mass psychosis and hysteria. He highlights the cultural aspects of how different societies view the body and how this affects their reactions to the pandemic. Vaknin also discusses the negative impact of social media on mental health, suggesting limiting usage to encourage more meaningful interactions and reduce negative emotions. He expresses concern about the trend towards atomization and the over-reliance on technology, and suggests changing the parameters of social media usage to encourage more interpersonal interactions.
Sam Vaknin: Through My Poetry (link in description)
In this video, Professor Sam Vaknin takes the viewer on a tour of his narcissism through his poetry. He warns that the imagery may be disturbing and triggering, and that his experiences are typical of narcissists. He discusses his childhood abuse, his protective instincts towards his siblings, his private religion, and his relationships with women. He also reflects on his age and his life, and ends with a poem about loneliness and beauty.
4 Paths of Trauma Release and Reactance (International Summit on Depression, Anxiety and Stress Management)
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the connection between trauma, including external shocks such as the pandemic, and reactants, or disproportional reactions to daily triggers. He reconceives personality disorders as post-traumatic conditions, with all personality disorders in cluster B starting as trauma and abuse in early childhood. Trauma imprinting is the core of post-traumatic stress disorder and complex trauma, and triggers are places, people, smells, sounds, circumstances, dates, and objects that are reminiscent of the same classes of stressors involved in the original trauma. The pandemic has touched upon every dimension of existence, making it difficult to recover from, and there is a risk of a secondary pandemic of mental health, with millions of people developing personality disorders.
Narcissist: Don’t Touch My Narcissism
Narcissism is a choice that can be influenced by genetics and environmental factors, such as childhood trauma. It serves as a role play and narrative that helps individuals make sense of their lives and the world around them. In modern society, narcissism is often rewarded, making it difficult for individuals to give up their narcissistic behaviors. As a result, narcissism has become a pervasive aspect of society, functioning as an organizing principle and explanation for various aspects of human behavior.
If You Love a Narcissist, This is For You
The text describes a relationship with a person who is emotionally unavailable and causes pain and rejection. The person craves love and intimacy but pushes the other person away and hurts them first. The relationship is described as a form of self-harm, but the other person cannot let go. The relationship is a mix of good times and bad times, and the person is described as fleeting and penumbral.
Your Empathy as Narcissistic Injury: Narcissist Never Learns, No Insight
Narcissists reject empathy and intimacy because it challenges their grandiosity, and they become paranoid and aggressive when someone tries to be intimate with them. Narcissists lack empathy and access to positive emotions, leading to a truncated version of empathy called “cold empathy.” Narcissists are self-aware but lack the incentive to get rid of their narcissism, and therapy is more focused on accommodating the needs of the narcissist’s nearest and dearest. Cold Therapy is experimental and limited, as it removes the false self but does not develop empathy or improve the narcissist’s interpersonal relationships.