Borderline Mislabels Her Emotions (as do Narcissist, Psychopath)
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the emotional and cognitive deficits in individuals with Cluster B personality disorders, such as narcissists, borderlines, psychopaths, histrionics, and codependents. These individuals have deformed, mutated forms of empathy, and their emotional regulation is not healthy. They do not have the basic tools to understand and label emotions in themselves and others, and instead, they use cognitive emotion, analyzing their emotions rather than experiencing them wholeheartedly. Coping strategies in all these personality disorders involve self-soothing, which is dysfunctional. Many of them switch from self-soothing to repetition compulsions.
Love Your Narcissist? Make Him Stay, Depend on You (Tips, Resolutions)
In a relationship with a narcissist, it is important to know what not to do and what to do to maintain the relationship. Avoid disagreeing, contradicting, or criticizing the narcissist, and never offer intimacy or challenge their self-image. To make the narcissist dependent on you, listen attentively, agree with everything they say, offer something unique, be patient, and be emotionally and financially independent. It is also crucial to know yourself and set personal boundaries, treating yourself with dignity and demanding respect from others. If the relationship becomes abusive, consider going no-contact and ending the relationship for your own well-being.
Social Values and the Healthcare System (Webinar on Health Care, Health Economics, and Policy)
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the issues of equity, efficiency, and solidarity in healthcare systems, particularly in light of the COVID-19 pandemic. He argues that privatizing public goods, such as healthcare, leads to market failures and inefficiencies, and that public goods must remain public to be efficient in the long term. Vaknin also emphasizes the importance of redesigning healthcare systems to better serve the poor, disenfranchised, women, and minorities.
Embrace Nothingness: Antidote to narcissism
Professor Sam Vaknin argues that reality is harsh and people react by developing functional psychosis, narcissism, or embracing nothingness. He claims that anyone offering solutions, cures, or systems for a better life is a con artist seeking money and adulation. Vaknin suggests that people should accept their insignificance, lack of control, and the hopelessness of their situation, as hope leads to expectations, frustration, and mental illness. He advises focusing on experiencing life, living in the moment, and letting others live without judgment or interference.
Narcissistic Termites and Our Hunter-gatherer Future
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the impact of the pandemic on society, including the stages of grief people are experiencing and the rise of conspiracy theories. He also explores the concept of organic institutions and how they have shaped human history, arguing that we are currently in the midst of a second organic revolution that will lead to a reversal of societal structures. Vaknin predicts a transition from nation-state capitalism to neo-feudalism and eventually to hunter-gatherer societies, but warns that each phase will be accompanied by anomic and suffering. The pandemic has accelerated these trends, leading to a loss of structure and detachment in society.
Covert Borderline, Classic Borderline – Psychopaths?
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the proposed new mental health diagnosis of covert borderline, which is more typical of men. He compares and contrasts the covert borderline with the classic or dysregulated borderline. Both types have mood lability and emotional dysregulation, but the classic borderline dissociates from emotions, while the covert borderline rationalizes emotions and becomes a primary psychopath. Many anti-racism activists are covert narcissists and covert borderlines who obtain indirect attention and self-gratification through their activism.
Narcissistic Youth Sexlessness: Porn and Relationships in a Dying World
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the decline in sexual activity and satisfaction, particularly among younger generations, attributing it to rising narcissism, inhibitions, distractions, and environmental factors. He notes that casual sex is less satisfying than relationship sex, and that women are avoiding bad sex. The consequences of this decline include a collapse in birth rates and a rise in single adults living without partners. Additionally, pornography is reducing the desire for real-life sex, and dating apps are inefficient.
Boomers Pandemic, Millennials Cost, Bubble World – Part 1 of 2
The COVID-19 pandemic has forced people to retreat into bubbles, exposing the fault lines and fractures in society. The pandemic has created an intergenerational conflict between the old and the young, with the younger generations paying the price for the failures of the older generations. The pandemic has led to the normalization of mental health pathologies and the loss of value of common goods that rely on cooperation and social conventions. Millennials and zoomers have experienced slower economic growth, lower earnings, and delayed home ownership, leading to economic scarring that will last a lifetime.
Narcissism, Demonic Possession as Morality Plays
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses demon possession and its similarities to narcissism, as well as the concept of possession in different religions and cultures. He argues that pathological narcissism is the source of all personality disorders and that narcissists and psychopaths lack empathy and emotions, making them not human in any sense of the word. Vaknin also discusses the false self in narcissists and how it becomes dominant, leading to a loss of identity. He also talks about the structural abnormalities in the brains of individuals with narcissistic personality disorder and the therapist’s role in reconstructing a functional self.
From Borderline to Psychopath to Narcissist: Abuse of Language and Self States
Sam Vaknin discusses the concept of personality disorders, particularly cluster B disorders, as facets of an underlying dissociative process. He suggests that these disorders may be self-states or alters of each other, all stemming from a common dissociation. Vaknin also explores the role of language and speech in these disorders, as well as the development of false selves and the transition between different personality disorders. He proposes that all known personality disorders, especially cluster B disorders, are forms of malignant self-love, and that ultimately there is only one cluster B personality disorder.