Narcissists Uses You In Unfinished Mommy Splitting
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the concept of splitting in psychology, specifically ego splitting and object splitting. Narcissists and borderlines use splitting as a defense mechanism, but when faced with a mother who is all bad, splitting becomes inverted and the child splits themselves into a true self and a false self. Narcissists have no ego and outsource ego functions, leading to a dissociative and dysfunctional state. They also use projective identification to gain an illusion of control over objects and gain vicarious satisfaction from their activities.
Silencing Denying Your Pain Betrayal Trauma And Betrayal Blindness
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses betrayal trauma theory, which suggests that trauma is perpetrated by someone close to the victim and on whom they rely for support and survival. Betrayal trauma can lead to dissociation, attachment injury, vulnerability, fear, relationship expectations, shame, low self-esteem, communication issues, and barriers to forming new relationships. The section also explores the relationship between betrayal trauma and Stockholm syndrome, with the former being more common. Treatment for betrayal trauma is new, and relational cultural therapy may be the best approach. The section concludes with the idea that trust is essential in relationships.
Søren Kierkegaard on Self, Love, and Self-love (Text in Description)
Kierkegaard believed that Jesus commanded us to love ourselves in order to love our neighbors, but Protestants believe that self-love is narcissism and a barrier to loving others. Kierkegaard believed that proper self-love makes us whole and complete persons, and that relationships constitute the self. He denied the possibility of an individual and said that to have a self is to immerse oneself in the totality of the human experience with all other people.
Narcissist Entrains Codependent, Borderline Brainwash, Regulate, Repeat
Narcissists do not have a special gaze or eyebrows, despite myths and pseudoscience. However, victims’ claims of feeling brainwashed by narcissists and experiencing depersonalization and derealization are likely true. Narcissists use techniques such as intermittent reinforcement, trauma bonding, and verbal abuse to induce a dissociative hypnotic trance in their victims, a process called entraining. Entraining involves modifying brainwaves to a desired frequency, and the narcissist’s speech can change the rhythms of the victim’s brain. This can cause feelings of amnesia, depersonalization, and derealization, leading to massive dissociation in the victim.
Normal? Mentally Ill? Not in My Culture!
Mental health diagnoses and treatments are influenced by culture and societal norms, which change over time. Examples include the zar, a culture-bound syndrome in Africa, where people believe they are possessed by demons, and homosexuality, which was considered a mental illness in the West until 1980. The concept of mental health is evolving as society becomes more accepting of diverse behaviors and orientations. This raises questions about the validity of certain mental health diagnoses and whether they are truly illnesses or simply society’s judgment of certain people.
Dr. Vaknin Experiments on Human Subjects (aka Students)
The professor discusses the concept of shared psychosis and how it is impossible to convince someone or a group that a hallucination is not real. He uses an example of two people feeling wet to explain that people cannot know if they experience things the same way. The professor concludes that people are not identical machines and that it is impossible to know if someone experiences things the same way as you do.
Narcissistic Buffet Answering Your Questions ( Well, Sort Of)
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses various topics in this section, including his message of “nothingness,” the fear of success, shadow banning, the Hallow Effect, and the controversy surrounding IQ tests. He also talks about the Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACE) study, which revealed that traumatic life experiences during childhood and adolescence are much more common than previously thought and linked childhood trauma with health and social problems in adulthood. The study also found that addiction and obesity are solutions, not problems, and that child abuse is the greatest medical issue in the world. The professor emphasizes the importance of protecting children from adverse influences and the critical role of mothers in personal development and growth in the first two years of life.
How Narcissist Experiences/Reacts to No Contact, Grey Rock, Mirroring, Coping, Survival Techniques
Narcissists are victims of post-traumatic conditions caused by their parents, leading to ontological insecurity, dissociation, and confabulation. They have no core identity and construct their sense of self by reflecting themselves from other people. Narcissists have empathy, but it is cold empathy, which is goal-oriented and used to find vulnerabilities to obtain goals. Narcissism becomes a religion when a child is abused by their parents, particularly their mother, and not allowed to develop their own boundaries. The false self demands human sacrifice, and the narcissist must sacrifice others to the false self to gratify and satisfy it.
Our Public “Intellectuals”: Avarice, Malice, Grandiosity
Public intellectuals are not teaching people how to develop empathy, compassion, care, and love towards their fellow beings. Instead, they are teaching people how to make maximal use of their natural endowments and to fake, lie, and pretend to obtain whatever they can for themselves. The view of public intellectuals today is that the world is a win-lose situation, and they are not different from Donald Trump’s jungle, Darwinian view of the world.
Abuse Victims, Beware Common Sense Is Harmful Nonsense ( 12 Myths Debunked)
Professor Sam Vaknin debunks several myths in this transcript, including the idea that venting is good for you, empathic people read others well, and positive psychology works. He also discusses the link between gender identity, autism, ADHD, and other mental health disorders. Additionally, he argues that group brainstorming can lead to anchoring, groupthink, and pressure, and that personality and IQ are not stable in adulthood. Finally, he disputes the myth that people use only 10% of their brain capacity.