Are Fathers Needed? Mothers Are, For Sure!
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the controversial topic of whether fathers are necessary for raising healthy, functional, and pro-social children. He argues that fathers are largely not needed, and the importance of the mother in the upbringing, shaping, and formation of children is more significant. He also discusses the impact of parental divorce on children’s mental health, family relationships, and education, and highlights that culture, context, and socioeconomic status matter. Additionally, he cites various studies that challenge the idea that father absence has a significant impact on children’s well-being, and argues that the major factors that affect children’s well-being have nothing to do with the father or with his absence.
20 WRONG Ideas About Therapy, Psychology
Psychology is a vast field that goes beyond therapy and mental health, encompassing various aspects of human behavior, cognition, and emotion. It is not a science, but rather a discipline with a rich body of literature and insights. Psychologists work in various settings, not just clinical ones, and can help people gain insights into their lives and behaviors. While some myths about psychology may hold a grain of truth, it is important to recognize the complexity and value of the field.
Therapist Your Father, Wife Your Mother: Transference as Flashback Light
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the concept of transference in psychology, comparing it to a “flashback light” where individuals project emotions and ideas from past relationships onto new figures in their lives. He explains how transference can lead to dysfunctional patterns of behavior and relational dynamics, particularly in individuals with certain attachment styles or personality disorders. Vaknin also delves into the concept of projective identification, where individuals try to force new people in their lives to conform to familiar, often unhealthy, relational patterns from the past. Ultimately, he views transference as a resistance and a repetition compulsion that seeks redemptive resolution but never materializes.
How to Become the REAL YOU (Interview, News Intervention)
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses his philosophy of nothingness in an interview with Scott Douglas Jacobson. He explains that nothingness is about choosing to be human, not a lobster, and putting firm boundaries between oneself and the world. Vaknin believes that narcissism is a cry for help and that nothingness is an antidote to it. He advises people to identify the only voice inside them that is truly them and to become authentic.
(Psychological) Resistance Not Futile, Just Bad FOR YOU
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the concept of resistance in psychology, which is the use of psychological defense mechanisms to cope with uncomfortable information about oneself. There are four groups of resistances: comfort zone preservation, resistance to dread and panic-inducing insights and interpretations, cognitive distortions, and resistances intended to cement and defend a narrative. Resistances can be both externalized and internalized, and are linked to negative affectivity, aggression, and mood. To better understand and change the way resistances shape our world, it is important to focus on understanding people and the deep processes behind these psychological phenomena, rather than just observing their externalized manifestations.
Narcissistic Autoerotic Dating (Talk with Genevieve DiNatale)
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses various topics in this series of transcripts, including narcissism, psychopathy, gender roles, and online dating. He explains that narcissism has a genetic component and can be caused by any breach of boundaries that denies the child separation from parental figures. He also talks about the sadomasochistic tendencies of narcissists and how they create self-justifying narratives. Additionally, he discusses the decline in sexual activity and childbirth rates in the younger generation, which he attributes to atomization, self-isolation, and technological empowerment. Finally, he talks about the phenomenon of online dating and social media infidelity, stating that men and women have different motivations for being on dating apps, and most interactions are for self-validation, entertainment, and filling time.
No “Wrong” Partner, Other Moronic Relationship Advice
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the concept of mate selection and attachment styles. He argues that individuals tend to select partners who resonate with their psychological makeup and attachment style, and that this is a result of an evolutionary process. Vaknin also emphasizes the importance of considering a partner’s past behavior as the best predictor of future behavior, contrary to the advice given by some self-help gurus. He warns against blindly following online advice and encourages individuals to be thorough in understanding their potential intimate partners.
Metaverse Sex and Gender: Sex Bots and AI (Artificial Intelligence)
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the future of sex and relationships, which he believes will be dominated by artificial intelligence and virtual reality. He presents two examples of ethical dilemmas that arise from this new normal, including the question of whether a woman using a haptic dildo is really a man and whether having sex with an artificial intelligence robot is cheating on a partner. Vaknin argues that these issues challenge the very fabric of reality and society’s organization by gender and sex, and that we are poorly equipped to cope with the Blade Runner era that is fast approaching.
Deprogram the Narcissist in Your Mind
Narcissists play the role of a good enough mother, adopting a maternal role and idealizing their victims. They regress their victims to infancy, merging and fusing with them, eliminating their individuality and appropriating their individuality. The narcissist creates an introject, an internal representation of the victim, which is muted and spews out words attributed to the introject by the narcissist. The victim has an introject of the narcissist in their head, which is fully active and talks a lot, becoming a second, harsh, sadistic inner critic. The current advice to recognize and embrace victimhood is counterproductive, as it freezes the emergent roles allocated by the narcissist, and the locus of control remains in the narcissist’s hands. Victims need to extricate
Women: Red Pill Nonsense Refuted
Professor Sam Vaknin’s lecture discusses the misconceptions and myths perpetuated by the manosphere community. He refutes the idea that the Pareto principle applies to dating and mating, stating that women prefer “beta males” over “alpha males” even for one-night stands. Vaknin also debunks the myth of hypergamy, stating that women have been marrying down in recent years due to increased education and income levels. Lastly, he addresses the myth that women do not consume as much pornography as men, explaining that women consume more text-based pornography than visual pornography.