How Narcissist Experiences His Collapse (Grandiosity Bubbles and Delusional Solutions)
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the collapse of narcissists when they are unable to obtain supply. He explains the internal dynamics and various solutions narcissists adopt in response to this deficiency, such as delusional narratives, antisocial behavior, paranoid schizoid tendencies, and masochistic avoidance. The narcissist’s withdrawal symptoms are compared to those of a drug addict, and the role of magical thinking in their behavior is explored.
Is Your Child a Psychopath, Borderline, Narcissist? (Turnu Severin Intl. Conference on Psychology)
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the signs of emerging personality disorders in children and adolescents, emphasizing the importance of early intervention. He also notes the prevalence of self-harm and substance abuse in those with emerging personality disorders and the effectiveness of psychotherapy in treating borderline personality disorder. In the lecture, Vaknin provides ten warning signs to look out for in children and adolescents, including attachment disorder behaviors, emotional dysregulation, and disturbed object relations with peers. He also discusses the importance of distinguishing healthy adolescent behaviors from signs of personality disorders.
How Good Parents Turn Bad (ENGLISH 1:33, Turnu Severin Intl. Conference on Psychology)
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the concept of the “dead mother” and how it relates to dysfunctional parenting. He explains that good enough mothers allow their children to separate and experience pain, frustration, and disappointment. Good enough mothers provide safety, structure, order, predictability, and prepare their children for reality. Vaknin suggests that psychological evaluation should be mandatory for those wishing to have children, and that those with certain mental health issues should not be allowed to have children.
Interrogate Your Partner: Their Past is Your Future
Professor Sam Vaknin advises that when considering a potential intimate partner, it is important to learn everything about their personal and sexual history. He suggests that you have the right to ask anything and everything, and your partner does not have the right to refuse to provide you with any information of a personal nature. Vaknin warns that people do not change, and the best predictor of future behavior is past behavior. Therefore, it is crucial to interrogate your potential partner thoroughly and methodically to protect yourself against future nasty surprises.
Vaknin to Youth: Life Sucks, You’re On Your Own (Turnu Severin Intl. Conference on Psychology)
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the concepts of normality, madness, and the shifting landscape of mental health. He critiques the reliance on societal norms to define what is considered “normal” behavior, pointing out that societal norms can be flawed, as evidenced by historical examples like Nazi Germany. Vaknin argues that psychology and psychiatry are not sciences but rather systems of classification and control, and he emphasizes the importance of self-reliance, self-love, and personal power. He advises against giving others power over oneself and stresses the need for self-awareness, self-acceptance, self-trust, and self-efficacy as the foundation for mental health. Vaknin’s message is one of self-empowerment and the recognition that life is inherently challenging, but individuals have the internal resources to cope and thrive.
2 Keys to Unlimited Success! Money back Guarantee!
In this transcript, Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the two keys to success: stupidity and mental health pathologies. He argues that in a civilization comprised of stupid and mentally unwell people, being an intellectual is a negative adaptation. Stupid people are more attuned to the needs of a civilization comprised mostly of brain-addled or mentally unwell consumers. Successful entrepreneurs often exhibit a lack of regard for risks and impaired reality testing, which are considered mental health pathologies. These pathologies are positive adaptations in an increasingly narcissistic and psychopathic world, where they bring to the top the scum and generate elites of flotsam and jetsam.
Metaverse: Conspiracy or Heaven? (With Divya Thakur)
Summary: In this conversation, Sam Vaknin discusses the concept of the metaverse, its potential impact on society, and the need for regulation to mitigate its negative effects. He highlights concerns about addiction, mental health, climate impact, and labor issues. He emphasizes the importance of grassroots activism, particularly by parents and women, to push for legislative measures to control the metaverse and protect society from its potential harms.
Where Capitalism Went Wrong and How to Fix It (with Maria Morais of Circklo)
Sam Vaknin discusses the adverse outcome of addiction to innovation as consumers, planned obsolescence, and the asymmetry of power in business. He also talks about the emergence of tech startups and the failure of corporate institutions to embrace this type of talent. Vaknin suggests that the financing industry needs to be reconstructed using algorithms and reverting from hierarchy to network. Finally, he discusses the failure rate of startups and how it has been the same since the 80s, unlike the success rate of innovations in the 18th and 19th centuries.
30 Reasons to STAY in Abusive Relationship? NOT!
Professor Sam Vaknin explains why people stay in abusive relationships, including fear, laziness, nostalgia, emotional blackmail, aversion to failure, and a belief that they cannot find anyone better. However, he emphasizes that these reasons are not good enough to stay in an abusive relationship and that people should prioritize their own well-being and happiness. Apologies and promises are not enough to sustain a healthy relationship, and may even be a form of gaslighting if they are intended to skew your perception of reality. Ultimately, the only question to ask is, “Am I happy?” If the answer is no, walk away and don’t look back.
Are You Normal? Check This List!
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the concept of normalcy and mental health, arguing that there is no clear definition of what is normal. He suggests that mental health consists of the ability to function and being happy with who you are, with self-love being the most important aspect. Vaknin also criticizes the medicalization and pathologization of human behavior, stating that mental health practitioners should focus on treating distress and helping patients regain functioning and contentment rather than conforming to an idealized concept of normalcy. He believes that mentally ill individuals should self-isolate and focus on other areas of their lives to avoid causing harm to others.