Overcome Narcissist Aftermath Your Grief Is Shared Fantasy, Too!
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the grieving process after narcissistic abuse, emphasizing that the grief is part of the shared fantasy and is not entirely real. He delves into the concept of fantasy, the dynamics of a relationship with a narcissist, and the stages of grief, including denial, anger, bargaining, depression, acceptance, and hope. Vaknin provides guidance on navigating the grieving process, emphasizing self-compassion, seeking support, and allowing oneself to experience and process emotions. He also encourages grounding oneself in the present and finding a new beginning after the shared fantasy.
What Narcissist Attributes to YOU
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses attribution theory and its application to narcissism. He explains dispositional and situational attribution, and how narcissists attribute motives to themselves and others. He delves into the narcissist’s inability to recognize the separate existence of external objects and the impact of grandiosity on their perception. Vaknin also explores the triggering of defense mechanisms such as splitting and paranoia in narcissists. He highlights the challenges of applying attribution theory to narcissists and suggests the need for a new psychology to understand their behavior.
Why Narcissist APPEARS So STUPID (Borderlines and Psychopaths, too!)
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the topic of narcissistic abuse and the intelligence of individuals with Cluster B personality disorders. He explains that while these individuals may possess high IQs, they often exhibit behaviors that appear foolish and self-defeating. Vaknin attributes this to factors such as grandiosity, lack of empathy, identity disturbance, and external locus of control. He argues that these individuals are ultimately disabled and ill-equipped to navigate life and human relationships, despite their intellectual abilities.
Why Do You Keep Repeating The Same Mistakes Repetition Compulsion!
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the concepts of fantasy, memory, and repetition compulsion in a series of three videos. He explains the differences between fantasy, daydreaming, wishful thinking, and dreams, and offers three techniques for self-reflection and planning for the future. He also delves into the role of memory in shaping identity and decision-making, particularly in individuals with certain personality disorders.
From Idealization To Discard, It Is All Abuse!
The text discusses the concept of the shared fantasy in narcissistic abuse. It explains how the shared fantasy triggers abusive behavior and why narcissistic abuse ceases only when the shared fantasy is definitively over. The narcissist’s abuse is reframed as tough love or a reaction to the partner’s behavior, and it is driven by the need to idealize the partner and avoid love, which is associated with negative outcomes. The abuse is intended to mold the partner to fit the narcissist’s idealized image, and it is emotionally infused with paternal or maternal feelings. The text also explains that the abuse stops when the shared fantasy is truly over and the partner’s internal representation in the narcissist’s mind loses its power. The cycle of abuse can be reactivated if the partner is re-idealized by
Two Ways To Injure A Narcissist Narcissistic (overt) Vs. Self Efficacy (covert) Injury
Sam Vaknin discusses the different ways covert and overt narcissists experience injury and self-regulation. He explains how covert narcissists self-supply and endure self-efficacy injury when failing to deceive others, while overt narcissists depend on external sources of supply and experience narcissistic injury when failing to deceive others. Vaknin also delves into the role of crisis and drama in narcissism, highlighting their use as defenses against depression and anxiety.
How Narcissist Deceives YOU ( Aggressive Mimicry Predator Faking Prey)
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the various forms of mimicry used by narcissists, focusing on aggressive mimicry. He explains how narcissists mimic other species or individuals to deceive and attract their prey, using signals to lure and captivate their victims. The mimicry involves deception, behavior modification, and selective advantage for the narcissist. The predatory behavior of narcissists is compared to mimicry in the animal kingdom, highlighting the impact on the prey and the model. Defensive mimicry and various types of mimicry are also explored in the context of narcissistic behavior. Mimicry is presented as a predatory strategy used by narcissists to manipulate and deceive their victims.
Parent Your Orphaned Self After Narcissistic Abuse
The text discusses the aftermath of narcissistic abuse and provides a four-stage process for self-parenting and healing. It emphasizes the importance of seeing oneself, creating boundaries with the internal parental figure, being one’s own secure base, and reintegrating with reality. It also highlights the significance of self-love based on self-awareness, self-acceptance, self-trust, and self-efficacy. The overall focus is on reclaiming one’s identity and well-being after narcissistic abuse.
13 Signs Of Mentally Ill Family
The text discusses 13 signs of mentally ill families, including enmeshment, emphasis on appearances, selective interface between internal and external realities, enforced narrative, competitive hierarchies, emphasis on the ambient, emotional blackmail, wrongful intimacies, past or future orientation, reinforcement of negative effects, role reversals, egodystonic members, and reification of insecure attachment styles and mental health issues. The author suggests scoring one’s own family and advises going no contact if the score is 10 or higher.
Get Parasite Narcissist Out of Your Colonized Mind
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the concept of shared fantasy as a form of paracosm, an alternative reality constructed by narcissists to manipulate and control their intimate partners. He delves into the intricate mechanisms of how narcissists hijack the minds of their victims through processes such as entraining and dissociation. Vaknin emphasizes the importance of memory recovery and the distinction between authentic emotions and those implanted by the abuser. He also explores the role of trauma and dissociation in perpetuating the effects of abuse.