Should YOU Trust the Narcissist? Is He Authentic or Fake? (COMPILATION)
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the issue of trusting narcissists. He explains that while sometimes it may seem possible to trust a narcissist, it is ultimately advised to never trust them due to their grandiosity, cognitive distortions, and inability to distinguish between fantasy and reality. The narcissist’s deceptive nature is rooted in their belief that they are human, despite lacking a core identity. The professor also delves into the concepts of mimicry in nature, the challenges of authenticity in a world filled with fear and uncertainty, and the mind control techniques of entraining and projective identification used by narcissists and psychopaths.
Repentant Narcissist, Therapist Must Accept Diagnosis ( 12 Steps Of Narcissists Anonymous)
Therapists are hesitant to label and stigmatize their patients, but the narcissist must accept their diagnosis for any chance of growth and healing. The 12 steps of Narcissist Anonymous are outlined as a way for narcissists to come to terms with their condition and limit the damage they cause to themselves and others. The steps involve admitting powerlessness over narcissism, making amends, and seeking to improve conscious contact with the false self. While narcissism cannot be cured, these steps offer a way to contain its effects.
Narcissist’s False Self HATES, FEARS Your Intimacy!
The narcissist has a false self that competes with and obviates others. Both narcissists and borderlines have a false self, but the conception of narcissistic personality disorder and borderline personality disorder is changing. The false self compensates for inadequacy and protects the true self, preventing regression into borderline emotional dysregulation. It resists intimacy and healthy alternatives, and fights back against therapy and personal growth. The false self is a solipsistic construct that prevents the narcissist from interacting meaningfully with others and drives the narcissist to the verge of psychosis.
Narcissist and Victim: Daddy or Mommy Issues? (See link in description)
The text discusses the concept of the dual mothership in the Narcissist shared fantasy, where the narcissist and their partner seek maternal figures for unconditional love and acceptance. It explains the roles of mothers and fathers in personal development and the impact of unresolved conflicts with them. It also delves into the concept of “daddy issues” and how they manifest in seeking care, protection, and validation from older figures. The text emphasizes the distinction between issues related to the mother and the father, and how they can affect relationships and behavior.
How Narcissist Disables Your Alarm System ( Zombies, Zimbos, Contagion)
Victims of narcissistic abuse experience complex trauma, CPTSD, complex post-traumatic stress disorder. Narcissistic contagion leads to victims developing narcissistic traits and behaviors. The concept of “Zimbos” is introduced, referring to individuals who are behaviorally indistinguishable from humans but lack an inner experience. The lecture delves into philosophy of mind, discussing zombies, qualia, and the uncanny valley, and explores the impaired affect, cognition, and conation in narcissists. The tripartite model of attitudes is used to explain how narcissists are unable to develop appropriate attitudes towards attitude objects. The lecture concludes by warning about the contagious nature of narcissistic abuse and its long-term effects on victims.
Threesomes: Why Narcissist Encourages Partner’s Infidelity
Narcissists may encourage their partners to be unfaithful, but this is not due to masochism or sadism. Instead, it serves as a betrayal fantasy, loyalty test, dare, validation of the narcissist’s negative view of the other sex, and a way for the narcissist to reassert control. The victim’s behavior is not coerced, but rather a reaction to the toxic environment created by the narcissist. This leads to atypical behaviors and a sense of alienation for the victim.
Narcissist As Employee
Sam Vaknin discusses the behavior of narcissistic employees in the workplace. He explains how narcissistic traits manifest in the workplace, including bullying, conspiracies, and subversion. Vaknin emphasizes the contagious nature of narcissism and the need to remove such employees from the workplace to prevent the spread of toxic behavior.
Destroyed: Narcissist’s Brain and Mind (Infant Amnesia, Psychotic Grandiosity)
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses a new approach to understanding the formation of narcissism and the characteristics of narcissists. He suggests that flaws in spatial and language processing, induced by trauma and abuse in early childhood, lead to the development of narcissistic defenses and personality disorder. He also explores the impact of infant amnesia, language acquisition, and spatial processing on memory formation and identity development. Additionally, he delves into the neurological aspects of memory and spatial processing, and their connection to early childhood experiences.
Alzheimer’s Narcissist Dementias Of Absence
Dementia is a neurodegenerative disorder that leads to cognitive decline and memory loss. The impact of dementia on narcissistic individuals is particularly devastating, as it challenges their sense of self and exposes their vulnerabilities. The decline in cognitive function and the loss of narcissistic supply lead to withdrawal, depression, and aggressive behavior. Research suggests a link between narcissistic traits and an increased risk of developing dementia. Ultimately, dementia becomes a formidable adversary for the narcissist, leading to a profound sense of loss and despair.
Victim, Narcissist: Reality or Role-playing? (Role Theory)
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses role theory and its application to the dynamics of the shared fantasy in narcissistic relationships. He delves into the impact of role expectations, role confusion, and role diffusion on the victim’s identity and behavior within the shared fantasy. The discussion also touches on the Pygmalion Effect, behavioral confirmation, and exemplar theory in the context of narcissistic abuse.