90 Seconds, 15 Aspects of Narcissism, Narcissistic Abuse (Shadowdeangelis)
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the concept of triangulation and narcissistic snapshotting in relationships. Triangulation is used by narcissists to weaken and control their victims by involving third parties and creating insecurity. Narcissistic snapshotting refers to the narcissist’s idealized and unchanging perception of their victim, leading to anxiety and discomfort when the victim deviates from this idealized image. The lecture also covers the dual mothership model, the impact of narcissistic abuse, and the importance of healing and understanding the narcissist’s mindset. Additionally, it addresses common misconceptions about narcissists, the role of anger and rage in narcissistic abuse, and the concept of confabulation in the narcissist’s delusional mindset.
Narcissist’s Extrinsic Values How You Adopt The Fantasy Ratchet
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the concept of values, which are a confluence between how we view ourselves and the world ideally and how we think the world should conduct its affairs. Values are shaped by socialization and acculturation and can be intrinsic or extrinsic. Narcissists possess extrinsic values, which are associated with lower empathy and a focus on power and status. Societies with extrinsic values tend to be unequal and lack solidarity. The elites in such societies use fear, new frames of thought, and the values ratchet to manipulate the population. In individual situations, narcissists induce fear, redefine reality, and normalize the abnormal to control others. Values in the hands of narcissists are powerful instruments that reshape individuals and perpetuate fantasy as a substitute for reality.
Is Dan Guilty of Murder? Identity and Memory (Film Review: Shattered)
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the concept of self-identity and its relation to memory and responsibility using the movie “Shattered” as an example. He explores the idea that memory is necessary but not sufficient for possessing a self-identity, and delves into the implications of memory loss on criminal responsibility. Vaknin raises thought-provoking questions about the nature of self-identity and its connection to memory, ultimately arguing that without a continuous personal history, one’s self-identity is compromised, and therefore, they cannot be held responsible for actions they do not remember committing.
Jokes, Humor: Sadistic, Cruel, Weaponized (Excerpt)
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the nature of jokes and humor, emphasizing three key elements: lack of empathy, sadism, and therapeutic value. He explains that jokes often involve the absence of empathy and a sense of superiority over the subjects of the joke, leading to a form of sadism. Additionally, he suggests that jokes serve as a therapeutic outlet for socially unacceptable impulses and provide a safe space to express dark or aggressive thoughts. Vaknin views humor as a form of legitimate sadism and a social glue that creates intimacy and bonding among people.
Serial Killers: Intimacy of Dead Bodies (with Melissa Rondeau, LMHC, MBA)
In this lecture, Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the topic of serial killers. He emphasizes that there is no common motivation for serial killers and that they are not all clones of each other. He highlights the importance of relying on the National Center for the Analysis of Violent Crimes in the FBI for accurate information about serial killers. Vaknin also delves into the psychological profile of serial killers, discussing their motivations, behaviors, and the prevalence of psychopathy among them. He also touches on the concept of grandiosity and its role in the mindset of serial killers. Throughout the lecture, Vaknin provides insights into the complex and disturbing world of serial killers, shedding light on their behaviors and motivations.
Signs of SWITCHING in Narcissists and Borderlines (Read PINNED comment)
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the phenomenon of switching in dissociative identity disorder, borderline personality disorder, and narcissistic personality disorder. He explains that switching is a common regulatory mechanism in these disorders and is triggered by stress, anxiety, and environmental cues. Vaknin describes the signs of switching, including emotional dysregulation, changes in body posture, and dramatic shifts in identity and behavior. He also emphasizes the impact of switching on relationships and the need for partners to adapt to the changing identities of individuals with these disorders.
Creative Individual As Dark Personality
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the connection between creativity and mental illness, suggesting that mental illness may be a harbinger of creativity rather than intelligence. He explores the strategies that creative geniuses use to fit in with society, delves into the affinity between mental illness and creativity, and examines the shared genetic vulnerability framework of creativity and psychopathology. Vaknin also discusses the impact of the environment on creativity and mental illness, as well as the potential positive adaptation of mental illness for the species. He concludes by proposing that mental illness should not be stigmatized, as it has contributed to the advancements in science, art, and utility.
Mortified Narcissist, Borderline Switch Places: New Ideas for Therapy? (and Supply)
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the concept of narcissistic modification and its effects on the narcissist’s psyche. When a narcissist experiences modification, their defense mechanisms shut down, leading to emotional dysregulation and a sense of shame. This process can lead to a temporary transition to a borderline personality organization. The restoration of the narcissistic state hinges on narcissistic supply, which is preceded by a phase of self-supply. The lecture also explores the mirror image of this process in borderline personality disorder and suggests therapeutic implications for both conditions.
Narcissist’s Retroactive Jealousy Of Your Past Relationships
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the concept of romantic jealousy, particularly focusing on retroactive jealousy in narcissism. Retroactive jealousy is a cognitive process that involves fear of loss and is irrational. In narcissism, retroactive jealousy is linked to the inability to idealize and infantilize the partner, leading to anxiety and control issues. The narcissist’s fear of losing the idealized version of the partner and the inability to control the partner’s past contribute to retroactive jealousy. This jealousy is characterized by obsessive information gathering, devaluing the partner’s past, and a sense of insecurity and inferiority. Retroactive jealousy in narcissism is a built-in feature and is a sign of the progression towards devaluation and separation in the shared fantasy.
Schizoid Personality and Schizoid Narcissism Bible (Compilation)
The schizoid personality is characterized by a preference for solitude, a lack of interest in social relationships, and a limited range of emotions. Schizoids are often perceived as aloof, indifferent, and uninterested in both sexual and social interactions. They are typically self-contained and may be seen as emotionally cold or flat. While some individuals may choose a schizoid lifestyle as a rational response to modern society’s demands, for others, it may be a manifestation of a pathological condition. The schizoid personality should not be confused with narcissism, although both may share certain features, such as disrupted object relations. However, the schizoid recognizes the externality of objects but has difficulty emotionally investing in them, while the narcissist does not perceive objects as external and instead forms relationships with internal objects. Schizoid behavior can be reactive and is sometimes misdiagnosed as narcissism. The schizoid’s detachment can be misconstrued as a cry for help or a sign of helplessness, and their self-sufficiency can be misinterpreted as strength. Relationships with schizoids can be challenging due to their asexuality and emotional detachment.