Pandemics: COVID-19 and Life’s Meaninglessness (also in Abusive Relationships)
In this lecture, Professor Sam Vaknin discusses two pandemics: COVID-19 and the meaninglessness of life in abusive relationships. He argues that the COVID-19 pandemic is not growing exponentially, but rather in a linear progression, and that the pandemic is largely over. Vaknin also discusses the importance of meaningful interpersonal relationships and how narcissists, psychopaths, histrionics, and borderlines are incapable of having such connections. In abusive relationships, the abuser controls their victim by rendering their life meaningless and inconsequential, leading to self-destructive behavior and trauma for the victim.
Pandemics: COVID19 and Daddy Issues in Borderline-Narcissist Couples
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the twin pandemics of COVID-19 and borderline narcissistic couples. He addresses misconceptions and misunderstandings about COVID-19, such as confusing case fatality rate with mortality. He then delves into the dynamics of borderline narcissistic couples, where one partner is a narcissist and the other is a borderline. These relationships are characterized by power struggles, punishment, and emotional turmoil, with both partners fulfilling critical functions for each other, but ultimately being better off without each other.
COVID-19 Punishes Our Narcissism (Original Sin, WATCH 1st VID, Links in Description)
The coronavirus pandemic is seen by some as a solution to the ills of modern society, with the hope that it will restore solidarity, family, friendship, community, and harmony. However, this nihilistic state of mind has resulted in people violently castigating anyone who tries to restore calm and good sense to the conversation. The pandemic will be followed by a massive global but short recession that will probably last two quarters, but will be followed by a period of prosperity. The disruptive psychological effects of these health crises and the strain on interpersonal relationships will be felt long after the virus is gone, and possibly the greatest effect will be on the increasingly more atomized social fabric.
Borderline Woman: Partner Devaluation, Self-harm, Alcoholism
In summary, Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the psychology of borderline women, focusing on splitting, self-destructive behaviors, and substance abuse. Splitting is an infantile defense mechanism that leads to idealization and devaluation of others. Self-destructive behaviors can include risky sexual encounters, reckless behavior, and defiance. Substance abuse, particularly alcohol, can serve as a coping mechanism for negative emotions, restore self-confidence, lower inhibitions, and allow for the accomplishment of goals that would not be considered when sober.
Narcissist’s Partner Reacts to Narcissist’s Sexuality (ENGLISH responses)
Partners of narcissists often deny the signs of their sexual behavior, which can be pretty open, including consuming pornography, having lovers, and trying to convince their partner to participate in threesomes and group sex. The rejection of the narcissist’s sexual practices by the partner is often a weapon used against the narcissist in arguments, rather than a genuine issue. The rejection of the narcissist’s needs by the partner is a great pity and a great obstacle to the relationship, and partners should sit back and consider what they are willing to do and what they are not willing to do.
Borderline Triangulates with Rescuer to Silence Pain, Abandonment Anxiety
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) and its similarities to narcissism. BPD is currently thought to be a female manifestation of secondary psychopathy and involves dissociation. Borderlines often have a diffuse identity and rely on their intimate partners to regulate their internal environment. They may engage in dysfunctional attachment strategies, such as running away or triangulation, and experience dissociation during sex or other emotionally intense situations.
Borderline to Narcissist: I Will Abandon You First
Narcissists and borderlines have archaic wounds, and they cater to each other’s pathologies by activating or provoking these archaic wounds and then solving them. The borderline’s focus on her intimate partner constitutes narcissistic supply, and the borderline’s concentration, intensity, dedication, addiction, really, to her partner are irresistible to the narcissist. The dynamic unfolds in several stages, and the borderline goes through a phase where she becomes convinced that she had found the prince of her dreams, the knight in shining armor, the men. The borderline is obsessed with the issue of abandonment, and she has separation anxiety or abandonment anxiety.
Narcissistic Coronavirus for Narcissistic Civilization
The panic and mass hysteria surrounding COVID-19 is due to a confluence of factors, including ignorance, social media, distrust of authority, and narcissism. The virus itself is relatively harmless, with a case fatality rate of 0.7%, and has killed only a small number of people, mostly those with pre-existing conditions. The measures adopted by governments and individuals are far more dangerous and detrimental than the virus itself. The author hopes that we survive not the virus, but ourselves.
Narcissistic Woman’s Sex Narratives (ENGLISH responses)
Narcissistic women have different sexual fantasies than narcissistic men, with women focusing more on narratives and context, while men focus on body parts. Narcissistic women tend to have fantasies of domination and control, often involving violence and extreme BDSM practices. High-functioning narcissists and psychopaths often engage in unusual and uncommon sexual practices as a way to compensate for denying their true nature in their daily lives. However, this behavior can lead to their downfall if they lose balance and spend too much time engaging in extreme sexual activity.
Borderline Woman as Dissociative Secondary Psychopath
Borderline Personality Disorder and Psychopathy may not be as different as previously thought. Recent studies suggest that Borderline and Histrionic Personality Disorders may be manifestations of secondary type psychopathy in women. Survivors of Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (CPTSD) also exhibit psychopathic and narcissistic behaviors. Borderline Personality Disorder can be described as a subspecies of Dissociative Identity Disorder, with mood lability and emotional dysregulation being outward manifestations of changes in self-states.