7 Signs of Abusive Relationship: Ask DAILY (Intimate Partner Abuse)
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses abusive relationships and provides seven questions to ask oneself to determine if they are in an abusive relationship. The questions include whether one treats themselves with dignity, sets clear boundaries, tolerates abuse and aggression, is assertive, knows themselves, treats others the way they want to be treated, and if they are habitually disrespected. Vaknin emphasizes the importance of honest communication, self-preservation, and self-love in relationships.
Is Physics the New Mysticism? (with Benny Hendel)
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the concept of multiverse in physics and how it differs from the multiverse in the Matrix. He explains that the Copenhagen interpretation of quantum mechanics suggests that the observer determines the universe, while the many worlds interpretation suggests that the universe simply splits into many universes. Vaknin proposes a theory that reconciles these two interpretations by considering the universe as a filter that presents only the collapsed states and keeps out the noise. This theory suggests that the observer creates the filter, but not the universe itself, and that the universe dictates certain outcomes to the observer.
Muddle Intimacy, Emotions, Attachment Style, Sex
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the confusion between intimacy, emotions, sex, and attachment. He argues that intimacy is not necessarily connected to emotions and that emotions, such as love, require intimacy. Attachment styles should match for relationships to work, and mate selection should be informed by attachment style. However, attachment style is not an integral part of mate selection. Flat attachment style is a type of attachment style where people are incapable of bonding or relatedness to others. Confusing these concepts has led to blurring lines and wrong conclusions in the field of gender studies and sexology.
Controversial P Factor Unifying Mental Illness
The P factor is a controversial concept in psychology that suggests a common denominator to all mental disorders. It challenges the traditional approach of diagnosing people based on lists of symptoms or behaviors. The debate surrounding the P factor raises questions about the usefulness of labels and the need for customized treatments. Early intervention is key to preventing severe mental illness later in life.
Why Won’t They Change? Insight and Personal Transformation
Insight is a crucial concept in psychology, but it is not always easy to obtain. Introspection is a blunt tool, and people often go to therapists to secure insights. However, narcissists and psychopaths are not amenable to insights because they are emotionally invested in their disorders and do not see any reason to change. Insights require the involvement of four factors: cognitions, emotions, motivations, and actions. Insights are useful mostly with healthy people, as they are more likely to manage it, assimilate it, react to it emotionally without fear, and then change themselves, their behaviors, and actions.
Monetizing Suffering: Victimhood Capitalism (Atlantico Interview)
Narcissism is on the rise, particularly among young people, and technology both reflects and enhances it. Society is becoming more narcissistic, and it is a positive adaptation as it can lead to success. However, the confluence of victimhood and narcissism is dangerous, as it can lead to a lack of empathy, entitlement, and exploitativeness. To combat this, it is important to redirect public discourse away from compensating for victimhood and towards overcoming it, emphasizing triumph and resilience.
Narcissist’s Hypnosis And Hypnotherapy
Hypnosis is a phenomenon that remains largely unexplained, with various theories suggesting it is either a special state of mind or a people-pleasing behavior. Professor Sam Vaknin proposes that hypnosis is an extreme form of empathy, where the subject and hypnotist synchronize their minds and become one. Hypnotherapy has shown some medical value, but its efficacy in treating mental health conditions is limited. Despite the mystery surrounding hypnosis, it should be treated with respect and investigated further as a potential treatment for mental illness.
Transhumanism: Culture Replaces Evolution (with Benny Hendel)
Dual inheritance theory, or gene-culture co-evolution, suggests that humans develop both genetically and biologically, as well as through culture or civilization. Culture, as the totality of human creativity, is a form of evolution that can shape humans and their offspring. This control over evolution through culture allows humans to adapt to diverse habitats and environments. However, the future of human evolution could be influenced by the choices made in using culture and technology, potentially leading to a more narcissistic and psychopathic society.
Entitled Victims Turn Violent (Excerpt courtesy Michael Shellenberger)
Victim-mode movements are dangerous and pernicious developments that are threatening to society. Certain people are prone to adopt victim-mode as an identity, which endows their life with meaning and makes sense of the world. Victim-mode movements are one of the most threatening developments, and they have the potential for aggression and even violence. The potential for aggression and violence in victim-mode movements is much larger than in the general population, and it’s equal to psychopathic movements like the Nazi movement.
3 Phases of Borderline’s Rollercoaster
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the regulatory cycle of the borderline personality disorder. The borderline seeks an intimate partner to provide her with a sense of inner peace, stability, and safety. The intimate partner becomes an extension of the borderline’s inner turmoil, and the borderline creates a shared fantasy with the partner. The cycle has three phases: shared fantasy, disillusionment, and transactional regulatory valley. The cycle is inevitable and ineluctable, and the borderline will try to recreate a shared fantasy with the partner or an ex-partner or become sexually self-trashing.