From Idealization To Discard, It Is All Abuse!
The text discusses the concept of the shared fantasy in narcissistic abuse. It explains how the shared fantasy triggers abusive behavior and why narcissistic abuse ceases only when the shared fantasy is definitively over. The narcissist’s abuse is reframed as tough love or a reaction to the partner’s behavior, and it is driven by the need to idealize the partner and avoid love, which is associated with negative outcomes. The abuse is intended to mold the partner to fit the narcissist’s idealized image, and it is emotionally infused with paternal or maternal feelings. The text also explains that the abuse stops when the shared fantasy is truly over and the partner’s internal representation in the narcissist’s mind loses its power. The cycle of abuse can be reactivated if the partner is re-idealized by
Two Ways To Injure A Narcissist Narcissistic (overt) Vs. Self Efficacy (covert) Injury
Sam Vaknin discusses the different ways covert and overt narcissists experience injury and self-regulation. He explains how covert narcissists self-supply and endure self-efficacy injury when failing to deceive others, while overt narcissists depend on external sources of supply and experience narcissistic injury when failing to deceive others. Vaknin also delves into the role of crisis and drama in narcissism, highlighting their use as defenses against depression and anxiety.
How Narcissist Deceives YOU ( Aggressive Mimicry Predator Faking Prey)
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the various forms of mimicry used by narcissists, focusing on aggressive mimicry. He explains how narcissists mimic other species or individuals to deceive and attract their prey, using signals to lure and captivate their victims. The mimicry involves deception, behavior modification, and selective advantage for the narcissist. The predatory behavior of narcissists is compared to mimicry in the animal kingdom, highlighting the impact on the prey and the model. Defensive mimicry and various types of mimicry are also explored in the context of narcissistic behavior. Mimicry is presented as a predatory strategy used by narcissists to manipulate and deceive their victims.
Parent Your Orphaned Self After Narcissistic Abuse
The text discusses the aftermath of narcissistic abuse and provides a four-stage process for self-parenting and healing. It emphasizes the importance of seeing oneself, creating boundaries with the internal parental figure, being one’s own secure base, and reintegrating with reality. It also highlights the significance of self-love based on self-awareness, self-acceptance, self-trust, and self-efficacy. The overall focus is on reclaiming one’s identity and well-being after narcissistic abuse.
Are You a Pathological Gambler? Test Yourself!
The professor shares a test to determine if you are a compulsive gambler or a professional gambler. He lists 24 questions and provides a key to interpret the results. He warns that if you answered positively to specific questions, you are likely a compulsive gambler or at risk of becoming one. The test is not a recognized psychological test and is based on the professor’s observations. He advises people to stay away from gambling as the house always has the advantage.
13 Signs Of Mentally Ill Family
The text discusses 13 signs of mentally ill families, including enmeshment, emphasis on appearances, selective interface between internal and external realities, enforced narrative, competitive hierarchies, emphasis on the ambient, emotional blackmail, wrongful intimacies, past or future orientation, reinforcement of negative effects, role reversals, egodystonic members, and reification of insecure attachment styles and mental health issues. The author suggests scoring one’s own family and advises going no contact if the score is 10 or higher.
Get Parasite Narcissist Out of Your Colonized Mind
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the concept of shared fantasy as a form of paracosm, an alternative reality constructed by narcissists to manipulate and control their intimate partners. He delves into the intricate mechanisms of how narcissists hijack the minds of their victims through processes such as entraining and dissociation. Vaknin emphasizes the importance of memory recovery and the distinction between authentic emotions and those implanted by the abuser. He also explores the role of trauma and dissociation in perpetuating the effects of abuse.
Protecting Us From Ourselves Defense Mechanisms
Insight from psychoanalysis suggests that we are our own worst enemies due to our capacity for self-deceit. Defense mechanisms are widely thought to be the main instruments of self-deceit, and they serve to separate internal reality from external reality in order to reduce anxiety. These defenses can be successful or unsuccessful, and they play a role in normal psychic structure formation. Additionally, there are various types of defenses, and they can evolve and transform as the ego matures.
Silent Treatment What Is It, How To Tackle It
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the concept of silent treatment, distinguishing it from other social behaviors and highlighting its characteristics and consequences. He explains that silent treatment is a form of abuse, and provides strategies for coping with and addressing it, including setting boundaries, using “I” statements, practicing self-care, and seeking help. He also emphasizes the damaging effects of silent treatment on both the giver and the receiver, and the importance of not taking it personally.
“Near Death Experiences (NDEs)” of Narcissist, Borderline
The speaker discusses near-death experiences and a recent study on gamma wave activity in dying brains. They then compare near-death experiences to the constant state of near-death experienced by narcissists and borderlines, discussing their lack of ego and identity. The speaker also delves into the experiences of abused and traumatized children who later become narcissists and borderlines. They conclude by comparing the experiences of near-death patients, narcissists, and borderlines, emphasizing the lack of hope for the latter two.