How Borderline, Covert Narcissist React To & Spin Rejection, Abandonment
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the fear of rejection and abandonment in individuals with borderline and covert narcissistic personality disorders. He explains how rejection is perceived as total and abandonment as irreversible, leading to extreme reactions and defense mechanisms. He also delves into the role of drama, entitlement, and the aggressive and passive-aggressive techniques used by these individuals to cope with rejection and abandonment. These techniques are often destructive and rarely lead to the desired outcome, ultimately causing further rejection and isolation.
Odd Couples: Codependent-Codependent, Narcissist-Narcissist (1st in Series)
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses various types of hellish relationships, including those involving covert and overt narcissists, codependents, and different types of narcissists. He explains the dynamics and challenges of these relationships, emphasizing that narcissists of the same type cannot maintain stable relationships, while those of opposing types can. Additionally, he delves into the characteristics and behaviors of somatic and cerebral narcissists, as well as inverted narcissists, and their potential couplings.
When Hoovering Fails, Narcissist Fakes
The text discusses the narcissist’s reaction when someone refuses to conform to their idealized image. When rejected, the narcissist experiences cognitive dissonance and resolves it by rewriting history and reality. They re-idealize the rejected person and then devalue them if they persist in rejecting the narcissist. The narcissist’s internal representation of the rejected person persists in their mind, and they dedicate their life to forcing others to conform to this idealized image.
Survive 6 Stages of Grief After Narcissistic Abuse (EXCERPT)
The text discusses the six stages of grief: denial, anger, bargaining, depression, acceptance, and hope, with a focus on the unique experience of grieving a shared fantasy with a narcissist. It emphasizes the importance of self-compassion, validation of emotions, and seeking support from others in the healing process. The stages are described in detail, and the text encourages individuals to grieve in their own way and take the time needed for healing. It also highlights the significance of grounding oneself in life and finding hope for the future.
How Narcissist Man Child Self Supplies
The narcissist is a ghoulish and sinister hybrid, an adult grafted onto a child. The narcissist is often described as a “man child”, but he is actually neither. The narcissist juxtaposes wrongly, becoming an adult where he should have been childlike and vice versa. This misappropriation and misallocation of roles render him monstrous and freakish. The narcissist resorts to self-supply when external sources are depleted, using techniques such as reframing reality, creating an inflated self-perception, and converting negative supply to positive. Self-supply is a crucial maintenance phase in the narcissist’s cycle of existence and is a mechanism of self-regulation that appears to be external regulation. It involves elements of hyper-reflexivity and magical thinking, reminiscent of certain dynamics in childhood
How Narcissist Falls Apart (Compilation)
The transcript is a compilation of various lectures and discussions by Professor Sam Vaknin, an expert on narcissism. He delves into the behaviors and reactions of narcissists when they are deprived of narcissistic supply, comparing their withdrawal symptoms to those of drug addicts. Vaknin explains that narcissists consume admiration and attention to sustain their self-esteem, and when these are lacking, they experience a state he terms “narcissistic deficiency dysphoria,” which can lead to depression, mood swings, and aggressive behavior. He also discusses how narcissists may resort to delusional narratives, antisocial behavior, or paranoid ideation as coping mechanisms. Additionally, Vaknin touches on the concept of “collapsed narcissists” and “collapsed histrionics,” who are individuals that have failed to maintain their narcissistic or histrionic facades and have retreated into more covert or self-destructive behaviors. He emphasizes the importance of understanding these dynamics for both therapeutic interventions and personal interactions with individuals exhibiting such traits.
Overcome Narcissist Aftermath Your Grief Is Shared Fantasy, Too!
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the grieving process after narcissistic abuse, emphasizing that the grief is part of the shared fantasy and is not entirely real. He delves into the concept of fantasy, the dynamics of a relationship with a narcissist, and the stages of grief, including denial, anger, bargaining, depression, acceptance, and hope. Vaknin provides guidance on navigating the grieving process, emphasizing self-compassion, seeking support, and allowing oneself to experience and process emotions. He also encourages grounding oneself in the present and finding a new beginning after the shared fantasy.
What Narcissist Attributes to YOU
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses attribution theory and its application to narcissism. He explains dispositional and situational attribution, and how narcissists attribute motives to themselves and others. He delves into the narcissist’s inability to recognize the separate existence of external objects and the impact of grandiosity on their perception. Vaknin also explores the triggering of defense mechanisms such as splitting and paranoia in narcissists. He highlights the challenges of applying attribution theory to narcissists and suggests the need for a new psychology to understand their behavior.
Why Narcissist APPEARS So STUPID (Borderlines and Psychopaths, too!)
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the topic of narcissistic abuse and the intelligence of individuals with Cluster B personality disorders. He explains that while these individuals may possess high IQs, they often exhibit behaviors that appear foolish and self-defeating. Vaknin attributes this to factors such as grandiosity, lack of empathy, identity disturbance, and external locus of control. He argues that these individuals are ultimately disabled and ill-equipped to navigate life and human relationships, despite their intellectual abilities.
Why Do You Keep Repeating The Same Mistakes Repetition Compulsion!
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the concepts of fantasy, memory, and repetition compulsion in a series of three videos. He explains the differences between fantasy, daydreaming, wishful thinking, and dreams, and offers three techniques for self-reflection and planning for the future. He also delves into the role of memory in shaping identity and decision-making, particularly in individuals with certain personality disorders.