When You Are Their Sex Prop: Exhibitionism, Autoeroticism, Masochism
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses auto-eroticism, exhibitionism, and submissiveness in sex, particularly in relation to narcissism and psychopathy. Auto-eroticism is when someone regards themselves as their own sex object, and it is often found in narcissists and psychopaths. Exhibitionism is becoming sexually aroused by being observed, which is also a form of narcissism. Self-trashing is a behavior found in narcissists and psychopaths, where they engage in degrading sexual acts as a form of self-punishment. There is a difference between self-trashing and being submissive in BDSM, as self-trashing individuals maintain control and defiance, while submissives relinquish control to their dominant partner.
Masochism: Borderlines, Psychopaths Self-trash
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses sexual masochism among people with borderline personality disorder and psychopathy. He explains that sexual masochism is a form of self-trashing and describes four types of sexual contexts that lead to trashing and sexual arousal. Borderlines and psychopaths engage in cheating, substance abuse, and choosing inappropriate mates as ways of self-trashing that cause sexual arousal. Self-trashing is compulsive and masochistic, while promiscuity is impulsive and empowering.
Warning Young Folks: Silence When We Are All Gone
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses his concerns about the younger generation, noting their lack of emotions, meaningful relationships, and intellectual pursuits. He believes that the focus on action over emotion and cognition is leading to a culture of nihilism and disconnection. Vaknin argues that positive emotions should drive actions, as negative emotions lead to destructive outcomes. He concludes that the current state of the younger generation is a mental suicide, and that a shift in focus towards emotions, cognition, and meaningful connections is necessary for a better future.
Go to Your Desert, Listen to Your Inner Silence
Professor Sam Vaknin advises people to go to their mental desert, listen to their inner silence, and create a mental cave or mountain top to escape the distractions of modern civilization. He suggests that in the desert, people can face themselves and listen to the voice of God, which speaks through silence. By being passive and emptying themselves, people can become a vessel for the message of the silence to flow through them and receive the gift of healing.
Evil Rubs Off: Cleanse Yourself!
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the concept of evil and how it is multifaceted. Evil can be found in power plays, self-contempt, self-loathing, self-hatred, and emotional dysregulation. Negative emotions such as fear, envy, hatred, and greed pave the road to evil. Evil is contagious and can infect and possess you. To avoid evil, you must cleanse yourself and avoid it at all costs.
When Loved Ones Murder YOU (English Interview Ukrainian TV)
The text discusses the complexities of domestic violence, including the reasons victims may stay with their abusers, the psychological dynamics of abuse, the legal and cultural aspects of domestic violence, and the distinction between victims and survivors. It also addresses the rare instances when victims may resort to violence against their abusers and the potential consequences.
Sex, Love with “The Other”: Singlehood, Heterophily, and Exogamy
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the impact of disrupted object relations on the sex drive and the decline in sex as a language of communication. He also talks about the shift in gender roles and the rise of narcissism and psychopathy among women who have been subjected to abuse and complex trauma. Vaknin notes that men have become more effeminate, while women prefer better males who are submissive, kind, empathic, and nice. He predicts that technology will eventually provide people with artificial synthetic sex partners, leading to the end of human relatedness and communication.
Why We Hate to Work (Narcissism Epidemic)
In the past, people took pride in their work and identified with their professions, but today, work is often seen as a necessary evil to be avoided. The rise of narcissism, globalization, and the decline of education and social cohesion have contributed to this shift in attitude. Additionally, the disintegration of the educational system, the rise of irrational beliefs, and the focus on short-term profits over long-term customer loyalty have further eroded the work ethic. The pandemic is likely to accelerate these trends, leading to an even greater disconnect between consumers and producers.
Why Cerebral Narcissist Chooses YOU
Cerebral narcissists choose sexually incompatible partners for six reasons: 1) to maintain a morally superior victim stance, 2) to test their partner’s unconditional love and allegiance, 3) to control their partner through guilt and shame, 4) to legitimize their defiance and contempt for their partner, 5) to forgive their partner and feel like a benevolent figure, and 6) to give their partner freedom while maintaining their own schizoid lifestyle. Cerebral narcissists are repelled by physicality and only engage in sex when hunting for a new partner to embed in a shared fantasy.
How We Ended Up in This Mess (Documentary Excerpt)
The Enlightenment project has failed due to the metastasis of its core values, leading to malignant individualism, malignant egalitarianism, malignant tolerance, and malignant reasoning. Malignant individualism has resulted in the breakdown of institutions and increased alienation, while malignant egalitarianism has led to destructive envy and the rise of narcissism. Malignant tolerance has given way to moral relativism, political correctness, and the erosion of academic rigor. Lastly, malignant reasoning has prioritized ideas and concepts over people, leading to the rise of pseudosciences and the confusion between technology, science, and civilization.