Take Your Life Back, Own It
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses relationships and the importance of distinguishing between real and pseudo-relationships. He emphasizes the need for maintaining individuality and taking responsibility for one’s choices and decisions. He also provides seven rules for self-preservation and shares his perspective on happiness and life. The professor concludes with advice on embracing change and living a life worth remembering.
Why Men Abuse Modern Women, Degrade Them Sexually
Women are now more educated and financially successful than men, leading to a shift in traditional gender roles. However, in sex and interpersonal relationships, women are less empowered than ever, as men use these areas to assert their dominance and punish women for their success. This has led to an increase in infidelity, toxic masculinity, and dark triad personalities in both men and women. As a result, commitment in relationships is declining, and the battle between the sexes is becoming increasingly destructive.
Choose Intimacy, not Self-sufficiency: Response to Angry Women
Professor Sam Vaknin argues that modern feminism is a cult that has led to negative outcomes for both men and women. He claims that the hookup culture, which is often framed as empowering for women, has actually led to increased rates of depression, anxiety, and substance abuse. Vaknin believes that the only real empowerment for women can come from stable, loving, emotional, equal, and reciprocated relationships, which are not found in hookups or one-night stands. He also criticizes the idea that freedom of choice should extend to self-harm and harming others, as seen in the anti-vaxxer movement.
Why Narcissist Devalues YOU (Hint: Wants YOU “Dead”)
Narcissists devalue their partners as a form of self-defense and control. There are two types of devaluation: preemptive and reactive. Preemptive devaluation occurs when a narcissist is in a transitional state between overt and covert narcissism, and they devalue potential sources of supply to prevent the overt side from using them against the covert side. Reactive devaluation is a response to a perceived threat to the narcissist’s grandiosity or control. Both types of devaluation are harmful to the victim and serve to maintain the narcissist’s sense of power and control.
Women, WAKE UP! Feminism Stole Your Personal Lives!
Sam Vaknin discusses the impact of modern societal norms on women’s behavior and psychology. He argues that women have been forced to adopt male values and expectations, leading to a shift in their behavior and self-perception. Vaknin also highlights the negative effects of casual sex and the influence of covert narcissists and psychopaths in victimhood movements. He urges a clear-eyed look at reality and a move away from political correctness.
Loving My Narcissist HURTS so much!
Loving a narcissist is a painful experience due to their lack of empathy, idealization followed by devaluation, and inability to truly connect with their partner. The narcissist’s inaccessibility and indifference can be devastating, as they often discard their partners without any emotional reaction. This experience can leave the partner feeling shattered, questioning their own judgment and ability to trust themselves and others. Ultimately, the pain of loving a narcissist comes from grieving the loss of who they used to be and the potential of what could have been in the relationship.
Abortion: Murder – or Human Right?
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the philosophical dimensions of abortion, including the rights and obligations of the mother and fetus, as well as the ethical implications of terminating a pregnancy. He explores the concept of contracts between the mother and fetus, and delves into the hierarchy of rights and moral dilemmas related to the right to life. Vaknin also addresses the distinction between killing and letting die, and the utilitarian theory in the context of abortion.
Watch, IF YOU DARE! Narcissist: Shocking New View (Part 2 of Interview with Sandy Ghazal Ansari)
In this lecture, Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the concept of narcissism in relation to Freud and Jung’s theories. He explains how narcissism is the defining feature of personality and how it is linked to the development of the self. Vaknin also delves into the dynamics of narcissistic abuse and the impact of childhood trauma and learning disabilities on the development of personality disorders. He also explores the concept of the true self and the false self, as well as the role of group dynamics in shaping individual identity.
Psychologists Wrong to Discard Earlier Wisdom (Part 1 of Interview with Sandy Ghazal Ansari)
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the state of psychology education and the shift towards quantitative and statistical approaches in the field. He emphasizes the importance of maintaining a textual and qualitative approach to psychology, and laments the loss of wisdom from earlier psychological schools. Vaknin also delves into his personal journey with psychology, his admiration for Freud, and his eclectic approach to integrating various psychological theories. He critiques the concept of the individual and the ego, and advocates for a more grounded and flexible understanding of psychological constructs.
Coming to Grips with Your Narcissist (with Coach Eleanor Schuyffel, Coaching Comeback)
The transcript is a conversation between Coach Eleanor, a therapist specializing in communication and relationships, and Professor Sam Vaknin, an expert on narcissism. They discuss various aspects of narcissism, including its development, the role of trauma, the grieving child within the narcissist, and the differences between narcissism and psychopathy. Vaknin explains the narcissistic cycle, the impact of narcissism on personal relationships, and the distinction between cerebral and somatic narcissists. He also touches on the cultural shift towards narcissistic and psychopathic traits being seen as positive adaptations.