Narcissistic Abuse? Do/Don’t Do! (Convo with Dr. Hema Bajaj)
Dr. Sam Vaknin discusses toxic relationships, emotional abuse, and narcissistic abuse. He explains the differences between toxic relationships, abuse, and narcissistic abuse. He emphasizes the importance of recognizing one’s own identity and boundaries in order to break free from abusive relationships. He also addresses the challenges of dealing with narcissistic abusers and the complexities of victimhood.
My Narcissist Cheats, Jealous, Unaware And Other Pearls
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses various myths about narcissists, including their self-awareness, cheating behavior, and possessiveness. He also delves into the concept of self-gaslighting and the reasons why narcissists hurt or abuse their partners. Additionally, he critiques the approach of interpersonal neurobiology and emphasizes the difficulty of changing the mind of a narcissist. The transcript concludes with a quote from anthropologist David Graber’s book.
Self Gaslighting Into Shared Fantasy
In this video, Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the concept of shared fantasy and self-gaslighting in the context of narcissistic behavior. He also delves into the dynamics of relationships with narcissists and the impact of their behavior on their intimate partners. Vaknin emphasizes the dissociative nature of narcissists and the challenges in capturing their essence. He also explores the psychological processes that lead to self-gaslighting and the complex dynamics of living with a narcissist.
What Can Twins Teach Us About Narcissism? (Webinar on Addiction Psychiatry and Human Resilience)
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the lack of studies on twins in the field of psychology, particularly in relation to narcissism. Twins provide an ideal case study for understanding individual effects on personality disorders, but research in this area is scarce. Vaknin suggests that being a twin does not seem to be a significant predictor of developing Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) later in life. Instead, age and sex appear to be more important factors in the development and progression of NPD.
Connie Portrait Of A Cyberpath Con Artist
The article discusses the concept of a cyberpath, a psychopath who uses the internet to find, stalk, and exploit others. It explores whether psychopaths have a single self-state or multiple self-states, and whether they have a conscience or are delusional. The article also examines the possibility that psychopathy is a brain disorder, as psychopaths have been found to have pronounced brain abnormalities. In summary, the article suggests that psychopaths may have cluster B psychodynamic problems superimposed on a defective brain, which differentiates them from narcissists.
Contemptuous Narcissist, Contemptible You, Psychopath Celebrates
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the triggers of contempt in narcissists, including weakness and perceived inferiority. He explains that the need to feel superior is hardwired in narcissists, and they will hunt for mistakes and contradictions to bring others down to their level. Vaknin also reads two excerpts from literature that he uses as allegories for narcissism, encouraging listeners to replace “color blind” with “narcissist” and discussing an art installation that creates a disorienting cosmos in which mirrors and LED lights combine to create a multitude that repeats itself to infinity.
Are Autistic People Narcissists? (READ DESCRIPTION) ( Webinar on Psychosomatic Medicine, Oct 2020)
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the differences between autism spectrum disorder and certain personality disorders, particularly narcissistic personality disorder. He explains that autism spectrum disorders are often misdiagnosed as personality disorders, and provides pointers for differential diagnosis. While the Asperger’s disordered patient is self-centered, like the narcissist, the autistic patient is not anti-social, but rather a-social. The use of language is another differentiating factor, with the narcissist being a skilled communicator and manipulator of language, while the autistic patient has a complicated relationship with language. A good diagnostician should never misdiagnose autism spectrum disorders as personality disorders, and vice versa.
Narcissists Uses You In Unfinished Mommy Splitting
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the concept of splitting in psychology, specifically ego splitting and object splitting. Narcissists and borderlines use splitting as a defense mechanism, but when faced with a mother who is all bad, splitting becomes inverted and the child splits themselves into a true self and a false self. Narcissists have no ego and outsource ego functions, leading to a dissociative and dysfunctional state. They also use projective identification to gain an illusion of control over objects and gain vicarious satisfaction from their activities.
Silencing Denying Your Pain Betrayal Trauma And Betrayal Blindness
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses betrayal trauma theory, which suggests that trauma is perpetrated by someone close to the victim and on whom they rely for support and survival. Betrayal trauma can lead to dissociation, attachment injury, vulnerability, fear, relationship expectations, shame, low self-esteem, communication issues, and barriers to forming new relationships. The section also explores the relationship between betrayal trauma and Stockholm syndrome, with the former being more common. Treatment for betrayal trauma is new, and relational cultural therapy may be the best approach. The section concludes with the idea that trust is essential in relationships.
Abuser In Your Mind Self Stalking
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the concept of self-stalking and the issue of idea-rism, where his work has been plagiarized and idea-rised by others. He also talks about the importance of fathers in the development of children and the aftermath of narcissistic abuse, where victims may internalize abusive voices. In another section, he discusses the difficulty of dealing with the voices in the head of victims of narcissistic abuse and how introjects affect different parts of the victim’s personality. Finally, he talks about the concept of introjection, which is a defense mechanism against neglect, abuse, trauma, and abandonment, mainly in early childhood.