Scoop on Narcissism and Abuse (with Shayel Naava)
Sam Vaknin discusses the development of narcissism, its impact on relationships, and the challenges of treating it. He emphasizes the difficulty of intervening in early childhood and the ineffectiveness of traditional therapies. Vaknin also warns of the pervasive influence of narcissism in society and its potential for self-destruction.
Narcissist Invades, Replaces Your Comfort Zone, Boundaries (Lecture SF University)
Professor Sam Vaknin addresses students at Southern Federal University, Rostov-on-Don, Russian Federation, discussing the impact of the pandemic on education and the shift to online lectures. He then delves into the topic of therapy, focusing on comfort zones, personal boundaries, and the evolving role of therapists in today’s society. Vaknin emphasizes the challenges therapists face in a society characterized by loneliness, narcissism, and malpractice. He also explores the concept of shared fantasy and its impact on individuals in dysfunctional relationships. Vaknin concludes by discussing the prevalence of narcissism and psychopathy in modern society and the implications for psychotherapists.
Trusting After Narcissistic Abuse, Narcissism Reconceived, Treated: Cold Therapy (with Pi Winslow)
In this interview, Professor Sam Vaknin discusses narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) and its treatment. NPD is a result of trauma and abuse in early childhood, and narcissists create a false self as a defense mechanism. Treatment for NPD is difficult, as narcissists often do not see their disorder as a problem. Cold therapy, a treatment modality developed by Vaknin, involves re-traumatizing the narcissist to weaken the false self. However, even with treatment, some narcissistic traits will remain. Vaknin advises those living with a narcissist to avoid labeling them as such and to leave abusive relationships.
Narcissism’s Loose Ends
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses various topics in different sections. In the first section, he talks about the technicality of glass being an amorphous solid, which is actually a liquid. In the second section, he discusses gold diggers and their relationship with narcissists, arguing that faking is a form of virtue signaling and that narcissists do not have an ego. In the third section, he talks about the rise and fall of narcissism in American society and emotional reasoning. In the fourth section, he discusses why some narcissists are successful while others are not, destructive narcissism, and the fallacy of assuming a universal human nature. Finally, he warns about the pursuit of meaning, addiction to hope, and aversion to risk leading to extinction as a species.
Body Taboos and Water Sports (ENGLISH responses)
In this transcript, Professor Sam Vaknin discusses BDSM and its potential use as an anxiety-reducing tool for narcissists. He also explores the taboo surrounding urine and feces in sexual practices, arguing that these prohibitions are relatively new and have no clinical or biological basis. Vaknin suggests that constriction of sexual behaviors is harmful and that the rebels who engage in BDSM and other taboo practices represent true and healthy sexuality.
Narcissist-Borderline: Take My Shadow, Give Me Love
Professor Sam Vaknin reads and reacts to comments on his YouTube channel, discussing the experiences of individuals in relationships with narcissists. He delves into the psychosexual behaviors of narcissists, their resistance to change, and their inability to maintain long-term relationships. He also explores the concepts of object constancy, ego incongruency, and the dynamics of borderline and narcissistic relationships.
Covert Borderline: Narcissist or Psychopath (Primary, Secondary) ( Differential Diagnoses)
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the concept of covert borderline personality disorder, a diagnosis he proposes based on extensive literature. He explains the differences between covert borderline, narcissism, and psychopathy, emphasizing the complex and overlapping nature of personality disorders. He also delves into repetition compulsion and the cognitive style of covert borderlines. Vaknin advocates for a unified approach to understanding and categorizing personality disorders.
Are YOU The Narcissists Fantasy
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the concept of shared fantasy in narcissism, which is a form of paracosm, an imaginary world that is very detailed and often originates in childhood. The shared fantasy is a form of mysticism that is founded on femininity, and it involves the exploration of forbidden psychosexual realms, such as homosexuality. Narcissists create shared fantasies and paracosms as a creative effort, which is an indicator of high intelligence and creativity. Narcissists create shared fantasies with their partners, which invariably lead to betrayal, cheating, and heartbreak.
No Narcissist Without YOU as Ego and Self
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the role of internal objects in the narcissist’s fantasy life, the connection between the narcissist’s latent homosexuality and autoeroticism, and the significance of imagination and creativity in the narcissistic experience. He delves into the psychological aspects of fantasy, its impact on personal development, and its connection to sexuality and frustration.
Codependent-Narcissist Co-idealization Dance, Borderlines too! (Convo with Daria Żukowska)
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses various aspects of narcissistic personality disorder, including its connection to dependent personality disorder, the mechanism of trauma bonding, and the self-awareness of narcissists. He explains that both disorders are solutions that a child chooses when confronted with a dysfunctional family, abuse, and trauma. Narcissists are indiscriminate and promiscuous in their pursuit of narcissistic supply, and they do not care about the identity, traits, or qualities of their supply source. The strongest love and intimacy come after a period of no love or intimacy. Therapy can modify some antisocial and abrasive behaviors of narcissists, but it is impossible to touch the core of narcissism.