Threesomes: Why Narcissist Encourages Partner’s Infidelity
Narcissists may encourage their partners to be unfaithful, but this is not due to masochism or sadism. Instead, it serves as a betrayal fantasy, loyalty test, dare, validation of the narcissist’s negative view of the other sex, and a way for the narcissist to reassert control. The victim’s behavior is not coerced, but rather a reaction to the toxic environment created by the narcissist. This leads to atypical behaviors and a sense of alienation for the victim.
Codependent Love Story
The text describes the story of the author’s codependent grandparents, focusing on the grandfather’s devotion to his wife and his pushcart business. The grandfather’s love for his wife is portrayed through his daily routines and actions, and the story ends with the couple passing away and their belongings being disposed of.
Narcissist As Employee
Sam Vaknin discusses the behavior of narcissistic employees in the workplace. He explains how narcissistic traits manifest in the workplace, including bullying, conspiracies, and subversion. Vaknin emphasizes the contagious nature of narcissism and the need to remove such employees from the workplace to prevent the spread of toxic behavior.
Destroyed: Narcissist’s Brain and Mind (Infant Amnesia, Psychotic Grandiosity)
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses a new approach to understanding the formation of narcissism and the characteristics of narcissists. He suggests that flaws in spatial and language processing, induced by trauma and abuse in early childhood, lead to the development of narcissistic defenses and personality disorder. He also explores the impact of infant amnesia, language acquisition, and spatial processing on memory formation and identity development. Additionally, he delves into the neurological aspects of memory and spatial processing, and their connection to early childhood experiences.
Alzheimer’s Narcissist Dementias Of Absence
Dementia is a neurodegenerative disorder that leads to cognitive decline and memory loss. The impact of dementia on narcissistic individuals is particularly devastating, as it challenges their sense of self and exposes their vulnerabilities. The decline in cognitive function and the loss of narcissistic supply lead to withdrawal, depression, and aggressive behavior. Research suggests a link between narcissistic traits and an increased risk of developing dementia. Ultimately, dementia becomes a formidable adversary for the narcissist, leading to a profound sense of loss and despair.
Victim, Narcissist: Reality or Role-playing? (Role Theory)
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses role theory and its application to the dynamics of the shared fantasy in narcissistic relationships. He delves into the impact of role expectations, role confusion, and role diffusion on the victim’s identity and behavior within the shared fantasy. The discussion also touches on the Pygmalion Effect, behavioral confirmation, and exemplar theory in the context of narcissistic abuse.
Victim or Narcissist? Tell Them Apart!
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses how narcissists often claim to be victims and use manipulative techniques to garner sympathy and attention. He provides four key indicators to distinguish between real victims and narcissists posing as victims: splitting, non-discrimination, alloplastic defenses, and automatism. Real victims exhibit nuance, dignity, and introspection, while narcissists engage in black-and-white thinking, blame others, lack self-reflection, and use self-pity for manipulative purposes. These indicators can help identify narcissistic behavior in individuals who claim victimhood.
Narcissist: Confabulates, Gaslights, Or Lies?
Narcissists often make you doubt your sanity and perception of reality, but this is not gaslighting. Narcissists confabulate, creating false memories to bridge gaps in their memory, but they believe these fabrications are true and are not consciously trying to deceive others. Confabulation is a way for narcissists to maintain their grandiosity and protect themselves from the realization of their imperfections. It also helps them reconcile their internal and external worlds and allocate roles to people in their lives within the shared fantasy. Confabulation is a critical psychodynamic function in the economy of the narcissist’s mind.
Errors: Charlatan Self-styled “Experts” CORRECTED
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the differences between narcissistic collapse, narcissistic injury, and narcissistic mortification. He also addresses the misconceptions and misinformation about these concepts by self-styled experts. Additionally, he explains the significance of trauma, emotional dysregulation, and dissociation in psychology, and provides a simple test to identify genuine expertise in the field.
My Name is Sam Vaknin: Narcissists, Psychopaths, Abuse
Sam Vaknin discusses the prevalence of narcissists and psychopaths in society, their manipulative and dangerous nature, and the importance of recognizing and coping with them. He emphasizes the unique and pervasive nature of narcissistic abuse, and the necessity of implementing a comprehensive “no-contact” strategy to protect oneself from it.