Embarrassing Narcissist
Narcissists lack self-awareness and are only intimate with their false self, which is constructed from years of lying and deceit. Their overpowering sense of entitlement is rarely commensurate with their accomplishments in real life or with their traits. They often make inflated and inane claims about their sexual prowess, wealth, connections, history, or achievements. This failure of the reality test can have serious and irreversible consequences, as narcissists may make life and death decisions in fields they are academically unqualified for.
Narcissists Hate Love
Narcissists hate being told “I love you” because it threatens their sense of uniqueness, they believe love is an all-consuming and dangerous pursuit, and they know deep down that they are a con artist and a fraud. They also hate seeing love demonstrated between others, such as a spouse and children, and view it as an assault on their emotional welfare and balance. Attempting to cure a narcissist with love and acceptance is futile, as only a severe narcissistic injury or life crisis can bring about transformative healing.
Narcissist’s Accomplices
Narcissism is prevalent in Western society and is encouraged by individualism, materialism, and capitalism. Narcissists are aided by four types of people and institutions: adulators, blissfully ignorant, self-deceivers, and those deceived by the narcissist. The narcissist rarely pays the price for their offenses, and their victims pick up the tab. The abused often believe they can rescue, heal, cure, or change the narcissist with their love and empathy, but this is a grandiose fantasy.
Women Narcissists
Male and female narcissists differ in the way they manifest their narcissism, with women focusing on their body and traditional gender roles. However, both genders are chauvinistic and conservative, as they depend on the opinions of those around them to maintain their false self. Women are more likely to seek therapy and use their children as a source of narcissistic supply, while men may view their children as a nuisance. Ultimately, there is no psychodynamic difference between male and female narcissists, as they both choose different sources of supply but are otherwise identical.
Sadistic Narcissist
Narcissists are sadistic in their pursuit of narcissistic supply, and they enjoy inflicting pain on others who they perceive as intentionally frustrating and withholding. They are not full-fledged sadists in the psychosexual sense, but they are adept at finding the vulnerabilities and frailties of their victims. The narcissist’s sadistic acts are often disguised as an enlightened interest in the welfare of their victim, and they are so subtle and poisonous that they might be regarded as the most dangerous of all variants of sadism. However, the narcissist’s attention span is short, and they usually let their victims go before they suffer irreversible damage.
Narcissist’s False Modesty
False modesty is a defense mechanism used by narcissists to protect their grandiosity from scrutiny and to extract narcissistic supply from others. The narcissist publicly chastises themselves for being unfit, unworthy, lacking, and not formally schooled, but this is only to hedge their bets and secure adoring, admiring, approving, or applauding protestations from the listener. False modesty is a bet, and having received the narcissistic supply, the narcissist feels much better. The narcissist is a pathological liar, and with false modesty, they seek to involve others in their mind games and manipulate them.
Communal, Prosocial Narcissist as Compulsive Giver
Compulsive givers are a type of narcissist who feel superior to those they give to, and feel exploited when they have to pay for the needs of others. They are people pleasers and co-dependents who force themselves on others and have unrealistic expectations of gratitude. They have alloplastic defenses with an external locus of control, meaning they rely on others to regulate their self-worth and blame the world for their failures. They keep a mental ledger of what they give and receive and use false asceticism and fake modesty to prove their nearest and dearest are ingrates.
Prodigy Narcissist
Child prodigies are often dehumanized and instrumentalized by their parents, who see them as fulfilling their own dreams and wishes. This can lead to the child feeling entitled to special treatment and lacking in empathy, compassion, and social skills. As adults, they may become narcissistic and misjudge the extent of their accomplishments, leading to strained relationships with others. This creates a vicious cycle of hurt and resentment.
Indifferent Narcissist
Narcissists lack empathy and are only interested in people as instruments of gratification. They lose interest in people who cannot provide them with narcissistic supply and proceed to devalue and discard them. The narcissist’s emotional and physical absence from relationships is a form of aggression and defense against their own repressed feelings. Narcissism is a form of post-traumatic stress disorder that got ossified and fixated and mutated into a personality disorder.
Narcissist: Psychotic?
Narcissists are not full-fledged psychotics, as they are aware of the difference between true and false, real and make-believe, and are in full control of their faculties and actions. Narcissists are efficient instruments for the extraction and consumption of human reactions, and they resonate with their audience, giving it what it expects, wants, and demands. Narcissists are hypersensitive and hypervigilant, alert to every bit of new data, and continuously rearrange their self-delusions to incorporate new information in an egosyntonic manner. Narcissistic Personality Disorder is insufficient grounds for claiming a diminished capacity or insanity defense, as narcissists are never divorced from reality and crave it to maintain the precarious balance of their disorganized, borderline psychotic personality.