Choose Intimacy, not Self-sufficiency: Response to Angry Women
Professor Sam Vaknin argues that modern feminism is a cult that has led to negative outcomes for both men and women. He claims that the hookup culture, which is often framed as empowering for women, has actually led to increased rates of depression, anxiety, and substance abuse. Vaknin believes that the only real empowerment for women can come from stable, loving, emotional, equal, and reciprocated relationships, which are not found in hookups or one-night stands. He also criticizes the idea that freedom of choice should extend to self-harm and harming others, as seen in the anti-vaxxer movement.
Why Narcissist Devalues YOU (Hint: Wants YOU “Dead”)
Narcissists devalue their partners as a form of self-defense and control. There are two types of devaluation: preemptive and reactive. Preemptive devaluation occurs when a narcissist is in a transitional state between overt and covert narcissism, and they devalue potential sources of supply to prevent the overt side from using them against the covert side. Reactive devaluation is a response to a perceived threat to the narcissist’s grandiosity or control. Both types of devaluation are harmful to the victim and serve to maintain the narcissist’s sense of power and control.
Parental Alienation is Lifelong (Andy Martens Show EXCERPT)
Narcissists and psychopaths are attracted to anyone who can provide them with attention and supply, regardless of their background or personality. Alienated children often grow up with emotional damage and may repeat dysfunctional patterns in their own relationships. Narcissists and psychopaths can change if they hit rock bottom and choose to redirect their negative energy into positive actions. They do not make distinctions between family and non-family members, treating everyone with contempt and manipulation.
End Times or Transitional Period?
Professor Sam Vaknin argues that we are not in a period of transition, but rather in a period of breakdown, meltdown, and disintegration of civilization. He provides five differential criteria to distinguish between transition and disintegration, including the emergence of new ideas and institutions, continuity amidst discontinuity, and the presence of empowering technologies. Vaknin also notes that gender roles shift and often become inverted during periods of disintegration, and that civilisations decline when multiple natural and man-made calamities coalesce and strike in tandem. He concludes that we are coping with multiple catastrophes on a global scale, and none of our institutions are held, leaving us alone, adrift, and atomized.
Women, WAKE UP! Feminism Stole Your Personal Lives!
Sam Vaknin discusses the impact of modern societal norms on women’s behavior and psychology. He argues that women have been forced to adopt male values and expectations, leading to a shift in their behavior and self-perception. Vaknin also highlights the negative effects of casual sex and the influence of covert narcissists and psychopaths in victimhood movements. He urges a clear-eyed look at reality and a move away from political correctness.
Abortion: Murder – or Human Right?
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the philosophical dimensions of abortion, including the rights and obligations of the mother and fetus, as well as the ethical implications of terminating a pregnancy. He explores the concept of contracts between the mother and fetus, and delves into the hierarchy of rights and moral dilemmas related to the right to life. Vaknin also addresses the distinction between killing and letting die, and the utilitarian theory in the context of abortion.
Watch, IF YOU DARE! Narcissist: Shocking New View (Part 2 of Interview with Sandy Ghazal Ansari)
In this lecture, Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the concept of narcissism in relation to Freud and Jung’s theories. He explains how narcissism is the defining feature of personality and how it is linked to the development of the self. Vaknin also delves into the dynamics of narcissistic abuse and the impact of childhood trauma and learning disabilities on the development of personality disorders. He also explores the concept of the true self and the false self, as well as the role of group dynamics in shaping individual identity.
Coming to Grips with Your Narcissist (with Coach Eleanor Schuyffel, Coaching Comeback)
The transcript is a conversation between Coach Eleanor, a therapist specializing in communication and relationships, and Professor Sam Vaknin, an expert on narcissism. They discuss various aspects of narcissism, including its development, the role of trauma, the grieving child within the narcissist, and the differences between narcissism and psychopathy. Vaknin explains the narcissistic cycle, the impact of narcissism on personal relationships, and the distinction between cerebral and somatic narcissists. He also touches on the cultural shift towards narcissistic and psychopathic traits being seen as positive adaptations.
Borderline or Covert Narcissist? (7th Intl. Conference on Psychiatry & Psychological Disorders)
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the differential diagnosis between borderline and covert narcissism. He explains that high-functioning borderlines can be misdiagnosed as covert narcissists due to their ability to regulate their emotions and control mood lability. However, he provides critical differences between the two disorders, including how they externalize aggression, experience separation insecurity, maintain object constancy, and view themselves. He also notes that paranoid ideation is common to both disorders but has different etiologies. Finally, he emphasizes the importance of uncovering all presenting signs and symptoms to make an accurate diagnosis.
How Borderlines, Narcissists Destroy Their Intimacy
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the dynamics of intimacy in relationships involving narcissists and borderlines. He explains how both parties fear intimacy for different reasons and engage in behaviors that undermine it. The discussion delves into the ways in which borderlines cope with abandonment and rejection, including avoidance and self-trashing. Additionally, Vaknin explores how both narcissists and borderlines push each other to abuse them, providing an excuse to break up and start over.