Narcissistic Abuse? Do/Don’t Do! (Convo with Dr. Hema Bajaj)
Dr. Sam Vaknin discusses toxic relationships, emotional abuse, and narcissistic abuse. He explains the differences between toxic relationships, abuse, and narcissistic abuse. He emphasizes the importance of recognizing one’s own identity and boundaries in order to break free from abusive relationships. He also addresses the challenges of dealing with narcissistic abusers and the complexities of victimhood.
My Narcissist Cheats, Jealous, Unaware And Other Pearls
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses various myths about narcissists, including their self-awareness, cheating behavior, and possessiveness. He also delves into the concept of self-gaslighting and the reasons why narcissists hurt or abuse their partners. Additionally, he critiques the approach of interpersonal neurobiology and emphasizes the difficulty of changing the mind of a narcissist. The transcript concludes with a quote from anthropologist David Graber’s book.
Self Gaslighting Into Shared Fantasy
In this video, Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the concept of shared fantasy and self-gaslighting in the context of narcissistic behavior. He also delves into the dynamics of relationships with narcissists and the impact of their behavior on their intimate partners. Vaknin emphasizes the dissociative nature of narcissists and the challenges in capturing their essence. He also explores the psychological processes that lead to self-gaslighting and the complex dynamics of living with a narcissist.
Silencing Denying Your Pain Betrayal Trauma And Betrayal Blindness
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses betrayal trauma theory, which suggests that trauma is perpetrated by someone close to the victim and on whom they rely for support and survival. Betrayal trauma can lead to dissociation, attachment injury, vulnerability, fear, relationship expectations, shame, low self-esteem, communication issues, and barriers to forming new relationships. The section also explores the relationship between betrayal trauma and Stockholm syndrome, with the former being more common. Treatment for betrayal trauma is new, and relational cultural therapy may be the best approach. The section concludes with the idea that trust is essential in relationships.
NPD Narcissist, Or Merely Narcissistic Sick, Or Just A Hole
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the thorny issue of narcissism, distinguishing between narcissistic traits and narcissistic personality disorder. He provides insights into the rarity of NPD and the rise of diagnosed primary psychopathic women. He also delves into the DSM-5 criteria for NPD and the historical context of narcissism in society.
3 Authors on Killing (Empathy), Love, and Fear
In this transcript, Professor Sam Vaknin discusses empathy, love, fear, and the culture of fear. He reads excerpts from three books, including one that discusses the reluctance of soldiers to kill in combat due to an intense resistance to killing their fellow men. He also talks about the different types of love in Greek language and how empathy is the natural consequence of love. Finally, he discusses the disproportionate fear that societies have towards certain risks and how this fear is often driven by moral insecurities and symbolic substitutes. All of these topics are linked to narcissism.
Self Supply, Collapsed Source Of Narcissistic Supply
In this video, Professor Sam Vaknin discusses various aspects of narcissistic supply, including the concept of auto supply or self supply, and the different ways narcissists cope with a lack of supply. He also delves into the role of delusions, paranoid ideation, and masochistic behavior in maintaining narcissistic supply. Additionally, he explores the impact of deficient supply on the narcissist’s mental state and behavior. Finally, he mentions that the next video will feature excerpts from three books on empathy, love, and cultural fear.
All Your Answers Questioned: Wild Ride with Professor Vaknin
Sam Vaknin discusses a range of topics in these sections, including his theory of three types of narratives people use to relate to the world, the problematization of issues in society, his agreement with Jordan Peterson’s values but criticism of his claim of universal applicability, his treatment modality called cold therapy, his theory of narcissism and the inability to love, his theory of physics and language, his views on the COVID-19 pandemic and the government’s response to it, and his childhood as a child prodigy.
Søren Kierkegaard on Self, Love, and Self-love (Text in Description)
Kierkegaard believed that Jesus commanded us to love ourselves in order to love our neighbors, but Protestants believe that self-love is narcissism and a barrier to loving others. Kierkegaard believed that proper self-love makes us whole and complete persons, and that relationships constitute the self. He denied the possibility of an individual and said that to have a self is to immerse oneself in the totality of the human experience with all other people.
Shame and Mortification in Times of Pandemic (Intl. Webinar on Psychiatry, Alzheimer’s and Dementia)
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the topic of narcissistic mortification and its relationship to shame, particularly in the context of the current pandemic. He explains the psychological impact of the pandemic, the development of shame and narcissistic reactions, and the need for humility and social connection to address the impending mental health crisis. Vaknin emphasizes the importance of understanding and addressing the psychological effects of the pandemic on individuals and society as a whole.