BEWARE! “Healers” of Narcissism Ignorant or Swindlers, No Cure
In this video, Professor Sam Vaknin answers questions from viewers about narcissism. He explains that narcissists often sexually gray rock women, and that the schizoid cerebral narcissist seeks an arrangement where they are the child and their partner is the mother. Vaknin also argues that narcissism cannot be cured, only managed, and that anyone claiming to cure narcissism is either ignorant, a con artist, or a fake expert. He cites several authoritative sources to support his argument.
Future of Personality Disorders: ICD Revolutionary, DSM Craven
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the revolution in understanding personality disorders, with the ICD-11 leading the way in revising and reforming the way personality disorders are regarded. The ICD-11 proposes a single general personality disorder severity rating and a five-domain dimensional trait model. However, the DSM-5 failed to make a similar shift due to special interest groups and is now considered behind the times compared to the ICD-11. The DSM-5 committee’s lack of courage and intellectual integrity led to a messy and confusing manual that still relies on the outdated categorical model.
Narcissist’s Give and Take with Intimate Partner (Cheating on Cerebral Narcissist Schizoid)
In this video, Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the behavior of schizoid and cerebral narcissists in relationships. He explains why they allow their partners to cheat and how they react to it. Vaknin draws from his database of narcissists and his personal experience as a schizoid cerebral narcissist to support his points. He also delves into the reasons behind the narcissist’s behavior and the impact on their partners.
Sorry State of Psychology: NOTHING AGREED! (38th Global Psychiatry & Mental Health Conference)
Professor Sam Vaknin argues that psychology is not a true science due to its lack of agreement on fundamental concepts, ethical limitations in experimentation, the psychological uncertainty principle, and the uniqueness of psychological experiments. He believes that psychological theories are more akin to art or literature than science, and that using mathematical language does not make a discipline scientific.
Dangerous Shared Fantasies: Coercive Control and Collusive Infidelity
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses shared fantasy, object constancy, mortification, enabling in codependency, toxic masculinity, and coercive control. Coercive control is a pattern of controlling behaviors that create an unequal power dynamic in a relationship, resulting in physical violence. Projective identification and collusive infidelity are also discussed. Vaknin suggests that a state legislature could create a new offense based upon the fraud-like nature of coercively controlling behavior.
“Twin Flames” and Their “Empaths”: Danse Macabre
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the dangerous dynamics of the “twin flame” relationship, warning that those who believe they have found their twin flame are likely being manipulated by a narcissist or psychopath. He explains how the twin flame idealizes and controls the individual, leading to a state of merger and fusion that compromises personal autonomy. Vaknin also criticizes the self-aggrandizing label of “empath,” cautioning against falling into a pattern of grandiosity and dependency. He emphasizes the detrimental effects of allowing the twin flame to control one’s emotions and thoughts, leading to isolation and paranoia.
Expose Narcissist’s Secret Speech
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses how narcissists use code and a cipher to manipulate others, including various techniques such as counterfactuality, victim language, projection, gaslighting, and passive aggression. He advises ignoring the hidden message and not responding to the occult message when communicating with a narcissist. He also discusses the evasiveness of narcissists and psychopaths, their competitive nature, and their use of alloplastic defenses to shift blame and deny responsibility for their actions. Finally, he explains that mentally ill people cannot be reasoned with, and their speech acts and decisions need to be deconstructed.
Relationships Inauthentic, Will Always Fail (Sartre’s “Being and Nothingness”, SECOND LECTURE)
The text discusses Sartre’s views on desire, consciousness, and freedom. Sartre introduces the concept of desire as motivated by a lack or absence, and discusses the inherent contradiction in desire. He also delves into the nature of consciousness and the limitations of freedom. The text explores Sartre’s ideas on authenticity and ethics, and his belief that values are auto-generated through individual choices. The author reflects on Sartre’s contributions and his impact on philosophical discourse.
Personality Disorders: Child’s Defense Against Madness (Schizotypy and Neoteny)
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the relationship between schizotypy and personality disorders. He explains that schizotypy is a spectrum that includes both positive and negative traits, such as creativity, cognitive disorganization, and impaired reality testing. He suggests that there are two types of psychopaths: primary psychopaths who are grandiose and impulsive, and secondary psychopaths who have access to emotions and empathy but are low on narcissism. He also explains that schizotypy is not a mental illness but a personality theory that suggests that everyone has some degree of disorganization and chaos.
Narcissist’s Internal Family System: Parts in Conflict
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the concepts of pseudo-identities, self-states, and complexes in individuals with mental health disorders. He explains the differences between these concepts and how they affect a person’s behavior, emotions, and thoughts. He also discusses the Internal Family Systems (IFS) model and its three types of parts: managers, exiles, and firefighters, and how they interact with each other. Ultimately, without treatment, personality disordered people can withdraw into a schizoid phase, disappearing externally as they had always been absent and void internally.