Is Sam Vaknin a Misogynist (Woman-hater)?
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the negative impact of casual sex and the Stold Revolution, where women are rejecting feminine aspects and defining themselves in masculine terms. He argues that this trend is leading to an androgynous unigender state and a decline in relationships between genders. Women are conforming to male stereotypes of sexually emancipated sluts, claiming empowerment, but this is belied by the male double standard. Casual sex has adverse impacts on mental and physical health, and women have a tendency to select inappropriate males for breeding. The missing skills required to maintain intimacy in relationships are the ability to compromise, set boundaries, be vulnerable, tolerate frustration, give space, trust, and cooperate.
Borderline Lies, Narcissism Myths
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the misconceptions and myths surrounding lying in individuals with cluster B personality disorders, such as narcissism, borderline, and antisocial personality disorders. He explains that these individuals often confabulate, or create plausible narratives to fill memory gaps, rather than intentionally lying. Vaknin also highlights the different types of lies and their functions, emphasizing the importance of understanding the reasons behind the lies and creating a safe environment for individuals with cluster B disorders to share the truth.
Trauma Bonding as Fantasy Defense (World Psychiatrists and Psychologists Conference, November 2021)
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the role of fantasy in personality disorders, particularly in Cluster B disorders. Fantasy serves as a defense mechanism, allowing individuals to function by creating a safe space and a barrier between themselves and reality. This is seen in various forms, such as trauma bonding, identity disturbance, and shared fantasies. Dismantling these lifelong fantasy defenses is extremely difficult, as they provide a sense of safety and legitimacy for the individuals involved.
Narcissist as Grieving Infant
In this video, Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the concept of prolonged grief disorder and its connection to narcissism. He explains that narcissists are like traumatized children trapped in adult bodies, and they experience profound sadness and depression as a result of their childhood experiences. He also references a recent study that links childhood maltreatment to depression, insecure attachment styles, and difficulties in maintaining intimate relationships in adulthood.
Overt+Covert Narcissist in One Person: Self-supply (44:17), Binary Narcissism
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the concept of a binary system in narcissism, where both overt and covert narcissistic self-states coexist within an individual. This rare condition occurs when the overt narcissist collapses and fails to transition into a covert narcissist, resulting in both self-states being active simultaneously. This creates internal conflict and dissonance, as the overt self-state attacks the covert self-state, generating self-supply for both. The educational sublimatory channel, which encourages humility, healthy supply, self-esteem, honest communication, and empathy, can be used as a potential healing mechanism in therapy for individuals with this binary system.
Anti-vaxxers: Mentally Ill Victimhood Conspiracists (References in Description)
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the ethical obligation to get vaccinated and criticizes anti-vaccine sentiments. He delves into the psychology of anti-vaxxers, conspiracy theories, and victimhood movements, attributing these beliefs to mental illness and grandiosity. He emphasizes the dangers of conspiracy theories and the need for reliable sources of information. Vaknin also highlights the prevalence of mental illness and the impact of conspiracy beliefs on society.
Privacy, Opposite of Narcissism
In this video, Professor Sam Vaknin discusses privacy and its relationship with narcissism. He explains that privacy is the opposite of narcissism, as narcissists do not have a private life and overshare everything. The erosion of privacy has massive implications for the rise of narcissism, and the encroachment of the public is inexorable. The successful defense of one’s privacy sustains one’s self-esteem, and the invasion of privacy provokes an upwelling of shame, indignation, and a diminished sense of self-worth. Ultimately, the real coinage of the realm is our mental health.
Narcissism – Quo Vadis? (with Anwesh Satpathy)
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the differences between narcissism, narcissistic style, and narcissistic personality disorder. He explains that narcissism is a natural developmental stage but can become pathological if it persists into adulthood. He also touches on the fluidity of cluster B personality disorders and the potential for a unified model of personality disorder. Vaknin criticizes the field of psychology, calling it a pseudoscience, and discusses the impact of social media on society, advocating for regulation of technology but not content. He also reflects on the role of elites in society and the potential for a society without elites.
Myth of Fearless Psychopath
Psychopaths are often misunderstood due to the fact that they have different brain and physiological responses to fear and risk. They experience anxiety and fear, but their reactions are subdued or absent altogether. Psychopaths misinterpret internal and external cues and often mislabel and misattribute their emotions. They are impulsive, reckless, and often paranoid, but they perceive their behavior as cautious and informed. Psychopaths are often charming and witty, but they are dead inside and out, treating their bodies and lives as if they were decomposing trash.
Narcissist Needs to Break Your Spirit (Narcabuse TV on IGTV)
Sam Vaknin discusses his personal journey with narcissistic personality disorder (NPD), his role in developing the language and understanding of narcissism, and the impact of his work on society. He explains that in 1995, he invented a new language to describe the internal dynamics of narcissism due to a lack of existing literature or terminology. Vaknin’s work has been pioneering in the field, and he has coined many terms that are widely used today. He also discusses the difference between narcissistic style, narcissistic personality disorder, and malignant narcissism, as well as the societal trends that have led to an increase in narcissistic behaviors, especially among the young. Vaknin emphasizes the importance of no contact as the only effective strategy for escaping the damaging effects of a relationship with a narcissist or psychopath. He also touches on various topics such as victimhood, boundaries, addiction, triangulation, gaslighting, and self-destruction.