Embrace Nothingness: Antidote to narcissism
Professor Sam Vaknin argues that reality is harsh and people react by developing functional psychosis, narcissism, or embracing nothingness. He claims that anyone offering solutions, cures, or systems for a better life is a con artist seeking money and adulation. Vaknin suggests that people should accept their insignificance, lack of control, and the hopelessness of their situation, as hope leads to expectations, frustration, and mental illness. He advises focusing on experiencing life, living in the moment, and letting others live without judgment or interference.
Narcissistic Termites and Our Hunter-gatherer Future
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the impact of the pandemic on society, including the stages of grief people are experiencing and the rise of conspiracy theories. He also explores the concept of organic institutions and how they have shaped human history, arguing that we are currently in the midst of a second organic revolution that will lead to a reversal of societal structures. Vaknin predicts a transition from nation-state capitalism to neo-feudalism and eventually to hunter-gatherer societies, but warns that each phase will be accompanied by anomic and suffering. The pandemic has accelerated these trends, leading to a loss of structure and detachment in society.
Alcohol+Covert Narcissist=Antisocial Grandiose Narcissist
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the effects of alcohol on covert narcissists. He explains that alcohol can transform a covert narcissist into an overt narcissist, leading to reckless and psychopathic behavior. He argues that alcoholism is a choice, not a brain disorder, and that alcohol affects empathy, disinhibits behavior, and distorts perception of attractiveness. He also delves into the psychological reasons why covert narcissists turn to alcohol and the impact of alcohol on their behavior and self-perception.
YOUR Aftermath as Your Narcissist’s Fantasy , Delusion, Matrix
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the delusional nature of narcissism and its impact on victims. He explains how narcissists create a delusional universe and how victims can become enmeshed in shared psychosis. He also delves into the stages of grief and denial that victims may experience after leaving a narcissistic relationship.
Classifying Narcissists: Sanity and Masks
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses typologies of narcissists, including the elitist, amorous, unprincipled, and compensatory narcissists. He also delves into the concepts of sanity, hypersanity, and the mask of sanity. Additionally, he explores the distinctions between cerebral and somatic narcissists and the traits of the inverted narcissist. Vaknin emphasizes the complexity and multivariate nature of narcissism, cautioning against misinformation and urging reliance on academic literature for understanding.
Doormat Covert Narcissist Turns Primary Psychopath
In this video, Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the covert narcissist and their potential for change. He explains that the covert narcissist can transform into a primary psychopath under stress, and that they experience identity disturbance and difficulty in maintaining relationships. He also touches on the concepts of switching and modification in the context of covert narcissism.
COVID-19: Will We Become Psychotic Narcissists? (37 Int. Conf. Psychiatry & Psychosomatic Medicine)
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the psychological impact of the pandemic, focusing on habituation and habit forming. He suggests that the disruption of familiar environments leads to dissociation, freezing, and attempts to form new familiarity. Vaknin argues that this disruption can lead to a drop in self-efficacy, increase in dissociation, and ultimately a disjointedness and discontinuity in existence, akin to psychotic disorders. He also explores the link between habits and identity, and the potential for the pandemic to lead to a pandemic of psychotic disorders with narcissistic features.
Narcissist’s Rant: I Want to Go Home
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the negative impact of narcissism on society, stating that as the world becomes more narcissistic, it becomes more difficult for narcissists to thrive. He argues that the world is becoming increasingly grandiose, malignant, and psychopathic, with women becoming more narcissistic and psychopathic than men. Vaknin also highlights the decline of relationships, the rise of entitlement, and the increasing atomization of society. He concludes by expressing his discomfort with the current state of the world and his desire to “go home.”
Test Yourself: Mortification, Hoovering, and Attraction Scales
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses two tools he has developed based on his database of people diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder. The first tool, the Heartbreak and Recovery Scale, helps gauge mortification and predicts how long it will take a narcissist to recover from a traumatic breakup or infidelity. The second tool, the S1-S2 score, measures promiscuity and self-efficacy, and helps identify traits that make a potential partner irresistible to a narcissist. These tools are not peer-reviewed or vetted but are based on Vaknin’s extensive research and analysis of his database.
Is It OK to Cheat on My Narcissist?
In summary, Professor Sam Vaknin discusses three types of cheating in relationships with narcissists: cheating to preserve the shared fantasy, cheating to exit the shared fantasy, and cheating to mortify the narcissist. Cheating to preserve the shared fantasy does not provoke romantic jealousy in the narcissist, as long as it is done discreetly and respectfully. Cheating to exit the shared fantasy provokes extreme romantic jealousy, as it challenges the idealized version of the partner and threatens the shared fantasy. Cheating to mortify the narcissist forces them to confront their true selves and destroys their grandiosity, ultimately leading to the end of the relationship.