Healing Narcissism: Cold Therapy Seminar (Part 1 of 11 – Link in Description), Vienna, May 2017
Professor Sam Vaknin introduces Cold Therapy, a new form of psychotherapy based on trauma-related techniques that has had beneficial results in the treatment of certain mood disorders, especially with narcissists. He proposes that pathological narcissism is not a personality disorder, but a post-traumatic condition, and suggests that narcissists are mentally children who should be treated with tools from child psychology. Vaknin also discusses cognitive distortions, attachment theories, and the magical thinking of narcissists.
Your Life Meaningless? Choose Nothingness! (ENGLISH from 02:01)
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the failure of modern society to progress meaningfully despite advancements in science and reason. He highlights the prevalence of wars, refugees, gender conflicts, and antisocial behaviors, indicating a collective and individual failure. Vaknin criticizes materialism and the prioritization of objects over human relationships, calling it a death cult. He advocates for self-reflection and the pursuit of solutions to the human condition, emphasizing the importance of questioning and addressing systemic failures. Vaknin introduces his “nothingness” philosophy, which involves peeling away layers of societal influence to reveal one’s true essence. He argues against the pursuit of material success and encourages a focus on personal growth and authenticity. Vaknin also discusses the dangers of societal norms that promote dominance, complexity, and certainty, and instead recommends embracing happiness, meaning, uncertainty, and the journey of life. He concludes by emphasizing the importance of self-awareness, self-acceptance, self-love, and self-regulation as components of a healthy, authentic existence.
Take Your Life Back, Own It
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses relationships and the importance of distinguishing between real and pseudo-relationships. He emphasizes the need for maintaining individuality and taking responsibility for one’s choices and decisions. He also provides seven rules for self-preservation and shares his perspective on happiness and life. The professor concludes with advice on embracing change and living a life worth remembering.
Why Narcissist Hates Your Unborn Child in Shared Fantasy
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses how narcissists react to pregnancy and childbirth. He explains that the changes in a pregnant woman challenge the narcissist’s control and idealized image of their partner, leading to feelings of abandonment and insecurity. The narcissist may devalue and discard their partner, feeling threatened by the loss of attention and control. The pregnancy disrupts the narcissist’s shared fantasy and triggers a desperate attempt to maintain the grandiose fantasy. Ultimately, the narcissist perceives pregnancy as a threat to their control and attempts to suppress any signs of independence or life in their partner.
Choose Intimacy, not Self-sufficiency: Response to Angry Women
Professor Sam Vaknin argues that modern feminism is a cult that has led to negative outcomes for both men and women. He claims that the hookup culture, which is often framed as empowering for women, has actually led to increased rates of depression, anxiety, and substance abuse. Vaknin believes that the only real empowerment for women can come from stable, loving, emotional, equal, and reciprocated relationships, which are not found in hookups or one-night stands. He also criticizes the idea that freedom of choice should extend to self-harm and harming others, as seen in the anti-vaxxer movement.
Why Narcissist Devalues YOU (Hint: Wants YOU “Dead”)
Narcissists devalue their partners as a form of self-defense and control. There are two types of devaluation: preemptive and reactive. Preemptive devaluation occurs when a narcissist is in a transitional state between overt and covert narcissism, and they devalue potential sources of supply to prevent the overt side from using them against the covert side. Reactive devaluation is a response to a perceived threat to the narcissist’s grandiosity or control. Both types of devaluation are harmful to the victim and serve to maintain the narcissist’s sense of power and control.
Parental Alienation is Lifelong (Andy Martens Show EXCERPT)
Narcissists and psychopaths are attracted to anyone who can provide them with attention and supply, regardless of their background or personality. Alienated children often grow up with emotional damage and may repeat dysfunctional patterns in their own relationships. Narcissists and psychopaths can change if they hit rock bottom and choose to redirect their negative energy into positive actions. They do not make distinctions between family and non-family members, treating everyone with contempt and manipulation.
Women, WAKE UP! Feminism Stole Your Personal Lives!
Sam Vaknin discusses the impact of modern societal norms on women’s behavior and psychology. He argues that women have been forced to adopt male values and expectations, leading to a shift in their behavior and self-perception. Vaknin also highlights the negative effects of casual sex and the influence of covert narcissists and psychopaths in victimhood movements. He urges a clear-eyed look at reality and a move away from political correctness.
End Times or Transitional Period?
Professor Sam Vaknin argues that we are not in a period of transition, but rather in a period of breakdown, meltdown, and disintegration of civilization. He provides five differential criteria to distinguish between transition and disintegration, including the emergence of new ideas and institutions, continuity amidst discontinuity, and the presence of empowering technologies. Vaknin also notes that gender roles shift and often become inverted during periods of disintegration, and that civilisations decline when multiple natural and man-made calamities coalesce and strike in tandem. He concludes that we are coping with multiple catastrophes on a global scale, and none of our institutions are held, leaving us alone, adrift, and atomized.
Abortion: Murder – or Human Right?
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the philosophical dimensions of abortion, including the rights and obligations of the mother and fetus, as well as the ethical implications of terminating a pregnancy. He explores the concept of contracts between the mother and fetus, and delves into the hierarchy of rights and moral dilemmas related to the right to life. Vaknin also addresses the distinction between killing and letting die, and the utilitarian theory in the context of abortion.