Two Inner Children Parentified In Narcissist’s Shared Fantasy
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the concept of the inner child in the context of narcissistic relationships. He explains how narcissists regress their partners to a childlike state and then coerce them to parent the narcissist. This dynamic leads to dysfunctional behaviors and mental illness. The professor also criticizes psychology as a pseudoscience and emphasizes the importance of maintaining a connection with the inner child while avoiding regression.
Study: Narcissists Cheat MORE? Only Partly True! (And Why They Cheat)
A study on narcissism and infidelity found that grandiose narcissistic women are more likely to have favorable attitudes towards infidelity, while their male partners are less likely to cheat. Vulnerable narcissists, both male and female, are more likely to have favorable attitudes towards infidelity. Additionally, the number of premarital partners is linked to higher rates of divorce and infidelity, with those having nine or more partners being at a higher risk. Narcissists cheat for reasons such as seeking narcissistic supply, avoiding intimacy and commitment, and asserting control. They may also use infidelity as a way to rejuvenate their primary relationship.
Narcissist Needs You to Fail Him, Let Go (with Azam Ali)
In this conversation, Sam Vaknin discusses the concept of narcissistic abuse and the dynamics of narcissistic relationships. He explains the narcissist’s need for existence and the victim’s hunger for love and intimacy, highlighting the irreconcilable nature of these two needs. He also emphasizes the importance of insight and empathy in understanding oneself and others.
Why Dating Narcissists is Addictive (With Diana and Mari)
The conversation is a recording of a discussion with professor Sam Vaknin about narcissism. The participants express gratitude for his insights and discuss their experiences with narcissistic abuse. Vaknin explains the inability of narcissists to love and the complexities of relationships with them. He also discusses the concept of narcissistic abuse and its increasing prevalence in society.
“Bipolar” Narcissist Euphoric, Dysphoric Fantasies
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the role of fantasy in regulating the moods of narcissists, distinguishing between euphoric and dysphoric fantasies. He explains how cognitive distortions protect the narcissist’s fantasy defense mechanism and delves into the connection between narcissism and post-traumatic conditions. Additionally, he announces a new channel with translations of his videos into Portuguese and provides links to other translated channels.
Taker, User Narcissist Feels Loved, Vindicated
Narcissists and psychopaths are users and takers due to their upbringing in environments where they learned to give minimally and conditionally. They lack positive emotions and empathy, so they view relationships as transactional and seek to maximize their returns while minimizing their investment. They perceive taking as a substitute for love and feel entitled to receive love through material goods, services, and power. They exploit and devalue others, using them until they have nothing left to offer, then walk away. The narcissist deludes themselves into believing their shared fantasy is real, while the psychopath is fully aware it’s a manipulation. Both lack empathy and use others for their own gain.
12 Reasons to Divorce
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the complexities of divorce, including the historical dynamics of the couple, the rise of divorce as an exit strategy, and the impact of modern societal trends on relationships. He reviews 12 common reasons for divorce, such as communication issues, lack of love or intimacy, lack of partnership, and infidelity. Vaknin emphasizes the importance of redefining love and addressing issues such as addiction, domestic violence, and financial problems in relationships. He also highlights the impact of fatigue, lack of emotional support, and changes in self-identity as contributing factors to divorce.
Toxic positivity, Toxic Gratitude, Malignant Optimism: Self-gaslighting
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the concept of “self gaslighting,” where individuals deceive themselves into believing that they cannot trust their own understanding of reality. He explores three forms of self gaslighting: toxic positivity, toxic gratitude, and malignant optimism. He emphasizes the negative impact of denying one’s true emotions and the need to accept and address negative feelings. Vaknin also highlights the prevalence of self-gaslighting in society and its contribution to rising rates of depression and anxiety.
Competitive Victimhood: Dark Triad ADHD Activists ( Literature Review)
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the subversion of public discourse by victimhood movements and identity politics. He argues that many social and political activists are mentally ill, particularly narcissistic and psychopathic, and that victimhood has become a competitive identity. He reviews several studies that link virtue signaling to dark triad personality traits and explores the consequences of the tendency for interpersonal victimhood. Vaknin also discusses the surprising political activity of individuals with ADHD and the impact of victimhood on social and political dynamics. He warns of the dangerous implications of victimhood and calls for a collective fight against it.
Why Narcissist Must Win, Be Right ( Psychopath, Too!)
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the reasons why narcissists always feel the need to win and be right. He explains that narcissists and psychopaths interact with the game, not with the players, and define winning as a win-lose situation. They engage in preemptive winning and are willing to pay a heavy personal price to maintain their grandiosity. Their insistence on winning and being right is a defense of their fragile self-image and a rejection of reality and everyone in it.