Why Narcissists Cry at the Movies: Self-pity, not Empathy
Narcissists and psychopaths cry at movies due to a complex interplay of psychological factors. While there is a distinction between the two personality types, both can experience emotional reactions while watching films. For narcissists, the experience of watching a movie triggers a regression to infancy, leading to feelings of shame, grief, and a sense of loss of control. These emotions are not genuine empathy, but rather a form of self-pity and manipulation. The act of crying at movies serves as a way for narcissists to signal distress and seek validation from others.
“Spiritual” Narcissist Casts Narrative Spell on YOU (with Dr. Lisa Alastuey)
Sam Vaknin discusses spiritual narcissism, where narcissists pretend to have spiritual functions, such as clergy, healers, or therapists, and claim a connection to a higher authority. He explains three types of spiritual narcissists: victim, godlike, and healer. He also delves into the role of narratives in spirituality and predicts a shift in power dynamics from men to women in the next 50 years. He advises individuals to create their own narratives and belong to themselves before affiliating with others.
Victim’s Cruel Choice: Fantasy, No Reality (with Therapist Michele Paradise) (Starts 17:42)
Professor Sam Vaknin is an expert on narcissism and narcissistic abuse. He authored the book “Malignant Self-Love: Narcissism Revisited” and is considered a pioneer in the field of narcissistic abuse, having established the first website and support groups on the topic. He is a professor of psychology and has taught at various institutions. Vaknin himself was diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder and has studied the condition extensively. He emphasizes the importance of no contact with narcissists and the detrimental effects they have on those around them. Vaknin also discusses the difficulty in diagnosing narcissism and the need to observe the impacts on the narcissist’s close contacts. He advocates for facing reality, even if it involves grief, as a foundation for mental health.
Who is CRAZY and Who is NORMAL? (with Dr. Lisa Alastuey)
Dr. Sam Vaknin discusses the problems with labeling and diagnosing mental illnesses, emphasizing the need to focus on specific problems and issues rather than using diagnostic labels. He also highlights the influence of societal and cultural norms on the perception of mental health and the need to decouple psychology from social pressures.
Narcissistic Pet Owner And Animal Rights
Narcissists form unique bonds with pets, projecting their own traits onto them and finding a source of narcissistic supply. Pet ownership involves a mix of satisfaction and frustration, leading to a form of co-dependency. The discussion then shifts to the philosophy of animal rights, exploring the challenges of defining and attributing rights to non-human organisms. The text delves into the complexities of pain, morality, and the moral responsibility towards other species, ultimately questioning the distinction between humans and other organisms.
When YOU Are In Charge Of Therapy: Client Centred Therapy
Carl Rogers noticed problems in therapy in the 1940s, such as therapist anxiety and victim blaming. He developed person-centered therapy, emphasizing the client’s role in leading therapy and the therapist’s empathy and acceptance. The therapy focuses on the client’s self-exploration and growth, with the therapist providing a nonjudgmental and supportive environment. The approach has evolved over time and is now practiced differently due to changes in societal norms and boundaries.
Narcissist’s Self-supply Techniques
Today’s video discusses self-supply in narcissists, where they generate supply from within to avoid collapse. Techniques include future orientation, exclusive reference, self-referential transcendence, self-audiencing, self-referential ideation, contemptuous withholding, and paranoid ideation. These techniques are used to maintain a sense of superiority and control. Self-supply can lead to delusional fantasies and paranoia, but it also reduces harm to others by making the narcissist self-sufficient. The focus of treatment should be on teaching the narcissist to self-supply in a benevolent manner.
Narcissist’s Relationship with God (True Story)
The text is a stream of consciousness narrative about the narrator’s experiences and interactions with various people, including a woman who cleans his apartment, a monk, and a bookstore owner. The narrator reflects on his search for meaning and salvation, including encounters with a Jesuit and a visit to a monastery. The text ends with the narrator preparing for a visit to Boston for an interview.
PORTUGUESE SUBTITLES: Narcissists, Narcissistic Abuse Snippets (NarcisismocomMirna)
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the global war on narcissism and the need for security measures. He explains how boundary violations in childhood can lead to abuse and objectification. He delves into mind control techniques used by narcissists and the concept of projective identification. He also addresses the dynamics of relationships with narcissists and the concept of the dual mothership in the narcissist’s shared fantasy.
How Victims Soothe Themselves After Narcissistic Abuse (NEW VIDEO + Compilation)
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the topic of self-soothing for victims of narcissistic abuse. He emphasizes the fallacious narratives victims tell themselves and the need to take responsibility for their role in the abuse. He also highlights the importance of silencing negative internal voices before seeking therapy.