Shy/Quiet Borderline “Diagnosis”, Reality vs. Phantasy/Fantasy
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the book “A Little Life” and emphasizes the importance of relying on scientific evidence rather than personal anecdotes. He rejects the proposed diagnosis of “shy or quiet borderline” and explains the differences between narcissistic and borderline fantasies. He also delves into the psychodynamics of narcissistic and borderline personality disorders, highlighting their distinct etiologies and behaviors.
Narcissist: Til Uniqueness Do Us Part
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the concept of uniqueness and its relation to narcissism. He explains how narcissists struggle with their own sense of uniqueness and seek external validation to confirm it. He also delves into the distinction between the basic and complex components of uniqueness, as well as the role of societal judgment in determining an individual’s uniqueness. Additionally, he explores the narcissist’s reliance on external feedback to maintain their sense of uniqueness and their tendency to compare themselves to historical figures to bolster their self-worth.
Narcissistic Abuse Inside Out: Charles Bowes-Taylor Interviews Compilation
Sam Vaknin discusses his work on narcissism, emphasizing that he is not the originator of the term “narcissistic supply,” but he has redefined and adopted terms from other psychological disciplines to describe narcissism and narcissistic abuse. He explains that narcissists lack a true self and ego, relying on external input to regulate their internal environment and self-perception. Vaknin also describes narcissism as a positive adaptation in modern society, where narcissistic traits can lead to favorable outcomes. He distinguishes between overt and covert narcissism, explaining that covert narcissists are more dangerous due to their hidden nature and passive-aggressive tendencies. Vaknin suggests that narcissism is not just a personality disorder but also a post-traumatic condition and a form of dissociation, similar to multiple personality disorder. He advocates for treating narcissism with approaches used for childhood disorders, trauma-related disorders, and multiple personality disorders, which he has integrated into his cold therapy treatment.
Is your DATE a NARCISSIST? (EXCERPT with Conor Ryan, Eyes Wide Open Podcast)
Trust your instincts and observe the man’s behavior for signs of narcissism, such as boundary breaches, controlling behavior, and rapid relationship progression. Pay attention to how he treats others and his speech patterns. Narcissists create a shared fantasy and regress their partners to a dependent state. Women have caught up with men in exhibiting narcissistic traits, and female narcissists may also display histrionic behavior.
Narcissistic Parents Possessive: Envy, Destroy Their Children, Offspring
Narcissistic parents view their children as extensions of themselves and seek to control and manipulate them to fulfill their own needs. This can lead to children feeling insecure, codependent, and prone to repeating dysfunctional relationship patterns as adults. Narcissistic parents may interfere with their children’s love lives and sabotage their relationships to maintain control and a constant supply of admiration and attention. The impact of narcissistic parenting can be profound and long-lasting, affecting the child’s sense of self and ability to form healthy relationships.
War as Narcissistic Fantasy (with Trisha Goddard on TALKTV)
Sam Vaknin discusses the dehumanization of the enemy in war, emphasizing the psychological defense mechanism of splitting and the role of war in creating a new order. He also delves into the language of war as a fantasy defense and its impact on perception of the enemy. Vaknin draws parallels between war and narcissistic behavior, highlighting the antisocial and psychopathic aspects of war.
Narcissistic Supply – How Does It FEEL?
Narcissistic supply is essential for the narcissist’s self-regulation and maintaining a sense of grandiosity and perfection. It is a form of external regulation that stabilizes the narcissist’s self-worth, moods, and emotions. The narcissist’s dependence on narcissistic supply is akin to an addiction, providing a rush and sense of omnipotence. The pursuit of narcissistic supply involves idealizing sources of supply and is a crucial element in the narcissistic pathology.
Overprotective Parents And Manipulative Helplessness
The text discusses the negative impact of overprotective parents on their children. It explains how overprotective parents prevent their children from experiencing reality, growth, and separation, leading to lifelong consequences. The text also delves into the behavior of narcissists and the dynamics of relationships between overprotective parents and their children as well as between dependent partners and primary partners. It highlights the detrimental effects of overprotection on the child’s development and the perpetuation of dysfunctional behaviors in adulthood.
Narcissism: A Talk Across the Generations (with Nicolas Martin)
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses his expertise in narcissistic personality disorder, the interconnectedness of personality disorders, the impact of trauma on personality development, the influence of philosophers and psychologists on his thinking, the rise of narcissistic tendencies in modern society, the impact of digitalization on mental health, the relationship between psychology and politics, the future of psychology, and advice for young psychologists. He also shares his views on the possibility of a third world war and the direction of the field of psychology.
How Trauma Destroys Your Sense of Self (PTSD Literature Review)
Neuroscience studies support the idea that narcissistic and borderline personality disorders are post-traumatic conditions due to disruptions in the formation of the self. Trauma, especially in early childhood, leads to dissociation, depersonalization, and derealization, affecting the sense of self. The default mode network in the brain is implicated in these disruptions. PTSD and CPTSD are reactions to single or repeated traumatic events, with EMDR and cognitive behavior therapy as recommended treatments. Medication options for PTSD include paroxetine, sertraline, and alpha 2 receptor antagonists, while benzodiazepines and certain other drugs are not recommended.