Two Ways To Injure A Narcissist Narcissistic (overt) Vs. Self Efficacy (covert) Injury
Sam Vaknin discusses the different ways covert and overt narcissists experience injury and self-regulation. He explains how covert narcissists self-supply and endure self-efficacy injury when failing to deceive others, while overt narcissists depend on external sources of supply and experience narcissistic injury when failing to deceive others. Vaknin also delves into the role of crisis and drama in narcissism, highlighting their use as defenses against depression and anxiety.
13 Signs Of Mentally Ill Family
The text discusses 13 signs of mentally ill families, including enmeshment, emphasis on appearances, selective interface between internal and external realities, enforced narrative, competitive hierarchies, emphasis on the ambient, emotional blackmail, wrongful intimacies, past or future orientation, reinforcement of negative effects, role reversals, egodystonic members, and reification of insecure attachment styles and mental health issues. The author suggests scoring one’s own family and advises going no contact if the score is 10 or higher.
Silent Treatment What Is It, How To Tackle It
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the concept of silent treatment, distinguishing it from other social behaviors and highlighting its characteristics and consequences. He explains that silent treatment is a form of abuse, and provides strategies for coping with and addressing it, including setting boundaries, using “I” statements, practicing self-care, and seeking help. He also emphasizes the damaging effects of silent treatment on both the giver and the receiver, and the importance of not taking it personally.
“Near Death Experiences (NDEs)” of Narcissist, Borderline
The speaker discusses near-death experiences and a recent study on gamma wave activity in dying brains. They then compare near-death experiences to the constant state of near-death experienced by narcissists and borderlines, discussing their lack of ego and identity. The speaker also delves into the experiences of abused and traumatized children who later become narcissists and borderlines. They conclude by comparing the experiences of near-death patients, narcissists, and borderlines, emphasizing the lack of hope for the latter two.
5 Reasons To Grieve, Mourn: Varieties Of Grief And Mourning
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the different types of grief and their underlying causes. He explains that grief can be triggered by unrealized potential, the discrepancy between fantasy and reality, catastrophizing, irretrievable loss, and the loss of identity. He emphasizes that grief can become prolonged and pathological, leading to conditions such as narcissism and borderline personality disorder. Vaknin also highlights the role of shame in exacerbating grief and the profound impact of early childhood abuse on fostering lifelong grief disorders.
Intimate Partners Who Were Sexually Abused in Childhood
Julian Ford discusses the unique dissociative symptoms of sexual violation in complex post-traumatic stress disorder. He describes the conflict between the need for touch and intimacy and the intense disgust or terror experienced by individuals with a history of childhood sexual abuse. Victims of childhood sexual abuse often dread intimacy, sexualize love, and struggle with setting boundaries in adulthood. They may employ defense mechanisms such as self-objectification, dissociation, and self-punitive choices in intimate relationships. These experiences can lead to a complex and challenging dynamic for intimate partners of childhood sexual abuse survivors.
Should Lovebombing Be Criminalized? Not Always! (TalkTV with Trisha Goddard)
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the evolution of the definition of coercive control in cases of domestic abuse, particularly focusing on the concept of love bombing. He emphasizes the need for precise definitions to avoid criminalizing normal behaviors and highlights the role of intermittent reinforcement in manipulative control. Additionally, he addresses the applicability of coercive control in workplace situations and the importance of expanding the definition to encompass various relationships.
YOU In Mind Of Narcissist, Borderline
The narcissist perceives others through internal objects in his mind, constantly negotiating and reconciling them with external reality. The narcissist’s lack of boundaries and empathy leads to confusion between internal and external objects, resulting in a form of hyper-reflexivity and psychosis. The narcissist’s interactions are primarily with internal objects, projecting their mental states onto external objects. The narcissist’s attachment is to internal objects, and they maintain control and possession over external objects through introjects. The narcissist’s relationship with a borderline personality can lead to a powerful bond, with the borderline encouraging the narcissist’s internal object interactions.
Self Supplying Narcissist Miracle Cure
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the use of self-supply as a therapeutic strategy for narcissists, arguing that it is superior to current treatment modalities. He explains that self-supply involves the narcissist becoming their own exclusive source of narcissistic supply, leading to reduced anxiety and depression, stabilization of self-worth, and the potential for healing and integration. Vaknin emphasizes the need for mental health practitioners to transition from manipulative dependency on external supply to teaching narcissists to rely on self-supply, ultimately leading to better social behavior and a sense of secure base.
How Narcissist, Borderline Overperceives YOU (and Reality)
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the concept of overperception, a cognitive bias where individuals exaggerate or misperceive the intentions, emotions, and behaviors of others. He provides examples of overperception in various mental illnesses, such as narcissism, borderline personality disorder, and paranoia. Vaknin also explores the evolutionary basis and adaptive value of cognitive biases, as well as their impact on decision-making and emotional regulation. He emphasizes the role of cognitive distortions in shaping individuals’ perceptions and internal states, and discusses the implications for therapeutic interventions.