Loving the Narcissist: Shared Fantasy to Discard
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the phases of a narcissist’s relationships, including the shared fantasy, interstitial, and anti-fantasy phases. He explains the narcissist’s behavior and the impact on their partners, focusing on topics such as cognitive dissonance, cheating, and the narcissist’s emotional detachment. He also delves into the concept of object constancy and the narcissist’s use of defense mechanisms.
Pandemic as Collective Narcissistic Injury: Headless and Chickens
The pandemic is a collective narcissistic injury to all of us because we were living in a narcissistic civilization. We have developed a civilization that was highly narcissistic and highly psychopathic, where values such as ambition, competitiveness, defiance, hatred of authority, despising the intellect and expertise, promiscuity, lack of impulse control, faking it till you make it, always became the core values of our civilization. The pandemic caused a collective narcissistic injury to all of us, and we are all developing post-traumatic stress disorders. We need to be humble and realize how fragile we are, how ephemeral, how transient.
womanmotherNarcissist’s Partner: Admire Me, Play with Me, Mother Me
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the three stages of a narcissist’s interaction with women: admirer, playmate, and mother. Narcissists are incapable of adult intimacy with women and instead seek a mother figure, as their only experience of intimacy with a woman was with their own mother. When women refuse to adopt the role of a mother, narcissists resent them and may push them away. Narcissists are more focused on possession and control than romantic jealousy, reacting like a child when their partner shows interest in other men.
A-social Media: Fracking Mankind (Champagne Sharks Podcast)
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses various aspects of social media addiction, narcissism, aggression, language control, and the impact of social media on society. He explains how social media platforms are designed to be addictive and encourage constant comparison to peers, leading to conditioning or addiction. Social media enhances grandiosity, cognitive biases, and cognitive deficits, which are typical of narcissists. Social media encourages aggression, ridicule, and derision, and creates a new type of reality that is self-sustaining and solipsistic. The conversation also touches on the positives and negatives of social media, and how it is designed to be addictive.
COVID-19: Nature’s Revenge, Culling, or Eugenics? (and Homosexuality)
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the concept of nature and its relationship with human society. He explores the impact of urbanization on biodiversity loss and the COVID-19 pandemic’s effects on cities and wildlife. Vaknin delves into the philosophical and ethical aspects of disease, health, and evolution, challenging traditional views and emphasizing the interconnectedness of human beings with their environment. He also critiques environmentalism, discussing the politicization of environmental concerns and the need for a rational approach to climate change.
Pandemic Slaves and Their Neo-feudal Masters: Envy-fuelled Insurrection
The text discusses the impact of the pandemic on entrepreneurship, income inequality, and the economy. It predicts a future of economic downturn, deflation, and a shift towards financial markets. The author also explores the causes of recessions and the potential long-term effects of the pandemic on the economy.
Love Your Sex, Hate Your Gender: Women, Men, and Me
Sam Vaknin discusses the complex dynamics of gender roles, sexuality, and relationships in modern society. He suggests that traditional gender roles are being subverted, leading to confusion and a disconnect between men and women. Vaknin argues that women are increasingly adopting male behaviors, leading to a unigender culture where traditional femininity is disappearing. This shift has implications for sexual orientation, relationship dynamics, and societal structures, potentially threatening the future of family institutions and the human species itself.
Brain, Brawn, Body, Bluff: Narcissists, Somatic, Covert, Cerebral, and Classic
Narcissists can be either somatic or cerebral, depending on whether they use their physical appearance or intellect to obtain supply. While there is no constancy, there is type dominance, with cerebral narcissists emphasizing their intellect and somatic narcissists emphasizing their physical appearance. Narcissists are competitive and ambitious in sex, using their partner’s body as an animated dildo or masturbatory object. Covert narcissists, who are mostly women, tend to be largely asexual due to deep-set inferiority complexes and body dysmorphic disorders. They may engage in body-altering behaviors such as surgeries and look-maxing, which is more prevalent among covert somatic narcissists. Altruism can also be a form of ostentatious narcissism.
Covert Narcissist = Borderline+Psychopath+Passive-Aggressive
Sam Vaknin discusses various aspects of narcissistic personality disorder, including the difference between covert and overt narcissists, the lack of empathy in narcissists, and the formation of empathy in early life. He also explains the characteristics of cerebral and somatic narcissists and the impact of narcissistic behavior on intimate partners. Additionally, he delves into the concept of covert somatic narcissists and their views on sex and intimate partners.
ET to the Rescue: Narcissists and Psychopaths as Aliens – Part 2
In this transcript, Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the parallels between narcissists and psychopaths and aliens in science fiction. He argues that narcissists and psychopaths are like alien lifeforms, lacking the basic apparatus for comprehending and identifying with other human beings. Vaknin also outlines several fallacies in science fiction, such as the assumptions of life, structure, communication, location, separateness, transportation, will and intention, intelligence, artificial versus natural, and leadership. He suggests that these fallacies can help us rethink and reconceive of narcissism and psychopathy.