How Narcissist, Borderline Morph Into Each Other
Professor Sam Vaknin announces his extended appointment as a professor at CEOPS and his new role teaching management studies. He then delves into the debate on the relationship between narcissism and borderline personality disorder, discussing the views of prominent scholars and offering his own perspective. He explains how narcissism is a defense mechanism against the core problem of emotional dysregulation, and how both narcissism and borderline personality disorder involve dependency on others. He concludes that both disorders are on the same spectrum, with different solutions and defenses for the same core issue of emotional regulation.
Why Narcissist MUST Sacrifice YOU to False Self
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the dominance of the false self in narcissism, explaining that the false self is a primitive, savage, parental deity that demands human sacrifice. The false self is a compensatory process that conflicts with and rejects anyone who enters the narcissist’s life and becomes a maternal figure, leading to the sacrifice of the individual to the false self. The shared fantasy is a reenactment of the failed early childhood separation and individuation, and the devaluation and discard are symbolic reenactments of separation from the original mother. The narcissist remains stuck with the maternal introject, creating dissonance and perpetuating inner conflict.
Incest, Emotional Infidelity, Reality therapy (RT), Our Introjects, Music Triggers
The text is a Q&A session on various topics related to narcissism, including the influence of the dual mothership principle on the narcissist’s sex drive, the impact of emotional cheating versus physical infidelity on narcissists, an overview of reality therapy, and a discussion on interjects and their role in relationships. Additionally, the text touches on the triggering effect of music on narcissists, linking it to early childhood experiences of verbal abuse and entraining.
Narcissism= Toxic Masculinity, Capitalism?
Sam Vaknin discusses the collapse of traditional gender roles and the rise of toxic masculinity, which is now prevalent in both men and women. He connects toxic masculinity to Darwinian jungle capitalism, urbanization, consumerism, and spectacle, all of which emphasize escapism and the denial of reality. Vaknin argues that capitalism has transitioned from manufacturing and consumption to spectacle and addiction, making it a form of narcissism. He concludes that narcissism is the organizing principle of the modern world, extending to gender relations, capitalism, and the attention economy.
Narcissist’s Selfish Genes
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the role of genetics and heredity in narcissism, emphasizing that heritability does not imply gene specificity and that narcissistic personality disorder is not localized but all-pervasive. He reviews studies on the genetic components of narcissism, highlighting the lack of conclusive evidence for specific genes associated with narcissism. Vaknin also explores the impact of genetics and environment on the development of personality disorders, emphasizing the complexity and interplay of these factors.
“Bipolar” Narcissist Euphoric, Dysphoric Fantasies
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the role of fantasy in regulating the moods of narcissists, distinguishing between euphoric and dysphoric fantasies. He explains how cognitive distortions protect the narcissist’s fantasy defense mechanism and delves into the connection between narcissism and post-traumatic conditions. Additionally, he announces a new channel with translations of his videos into Portuguese and provides links to other translated channels.
BEWARE! Toxic Self-help Myths, Predatory Coaches, Gurus, and “Healers” (Compilation)
Summary of the text:
1. Abusive behavior in relationships can be linked to high levels of love and commitment, as it may indicate a greater motive for controlling or retaliating against a partner.
2. Parents with children at home are generally less happy than childless individuals or those whose children have left home.
3. Stress can have natural benefits, and changing one’s mindset about stress may turn it into a positive influence on one’s life. However, mindfulness and meditation can sometimes worsen conditions like depression and anxiety.
4. The marshmallow test, which suggested that children who could delay gratification would be more successful later in life, may not account for cultural influences on behavior. Children’s ability to delay gratification is heavily influenced by their cultural upbringing and societal conventions.
Latest On Psychopathy, Antisocial Personality Disorder
Antisocial personality disorder is the official diagnosis, with no mention of psychopathy in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual. The extreme end of antisocial personality disorder is considered psychopathy by some, but not all. The disorder is difficult to reverse and is linked to aggression, violence, and substance abuse. There are no current diagnostic standards, and treatment options are limited. The disorder is associated with a lack of remorse and disregard for the rights of others.
How Mentally Ill Cope With Anxiety
Anxiety is an irrational fear that can be exogenic (from the outside) or endogenic (from internal processes). Mentally ill people cope with anxiety in five ways: externalizing anxiety via aggression, conflating external and internal objects, reframing reality and impairing reality testing, reciprocal inhibition, and dissociation. These coping mechanisms can be seen in various personality disorders, such as borderline personality disorder, where dissociation is used to avoid unbearable anxiety. It is important to consult a licensed therapist or psychologist if any of these coping mechanisms are identified in oneself.
You Don’t Deserve To Be Happy, Loved ( Bad Object)
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the concept of the “bad object” and its impact on individuals’ self-perception and behavior. He delves into the role of harsh inner critics and how they instill feelings of unworthiness and self-loathing. Vaknin also explores how individuals may reject happiness and embrace misery due to the influence of the bad object, leading to self-sabotaging, self-defeating, and self-destructive behaviors. Additionally, he examines the connection between masochism and narcissism, as well as the emotional investment and catharsis in narcissistic individuals.