Envy is Destructive Narcissism (Jealousy, Romantic Jealousy are NOT)
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the destructive nature of envy, distinguishing it from jealousy and romantic jealousy. Envy is driven by shame, humiliation, and the idealization of the envied person, leading to a need for control and ultimately destruction of the envied object. Envy is linked to narcissism and aggression, and its resolution is the destruction of the envied object. Vaknin emphasizes the urgent need to address envy as a root cause of mental illness and societal conflicts.
Why Cerebral Narcissist Becomes Somatic ( Aging, Death)
Cerebral narcissists are individuals who redirect their entire libido and eros into intellectual pursuits, using their mind, intellect, and intelligence to secure favorable outcomes from the environment. This is due to sublimation, which involves converting drives, urges, and instincts into socially acceptable activities that consume the energy that should have gone to these drives, urges, and instincts. However, cerebral narcissists can transition to become somatic sex addicts following something known as narcissistic collapse, when they can no longer obtain supply in the classical traditional habituated ways. This transformation is very destabilizing for the narcissist, and they become very mournful, grieving, and furious, sometimes even suicidal.
Dark Pentagram Personality: Dark Triad/Tetrad and Beyond
Professor Sam Vaknin suggests a new construct called the dark pentagram personality, which includes Machiavellianism, subclinical narcissism, subclinical psychopathy, covert narcissism, and borderline personality. He argues that the dark triad and dark tetrad are redundant, as their components are all facets and manifestations of psychopathy. Vaknin believes that sadism should not be included in the dark personality constructs, as it is too similar to psychopathy. Instead, he proposes adding subclinical covert narcissism and subclinical borderline personality to create the dark pentagram personality.
Narcissist Dreads Change, Uses Sex to Reduce Anxiety
Narcissists are change-averse due to their belief that they already know everything and their lack of curiosity about themselves and others. They also confuse their internal and external environments, leading to a fear that any change in the external environment will result in self-destruction. To reduce anxiety, narcissists engage in unusual psychosexuality and seek intimate partners to legitimize their sexual preferences. As society becomes more narcissistic, these behaviors become more prevalent, especially among women who conform to male stereotypes to gain attention and validation.
Why Narcissists Love Borderline Women and Why They Hate Them Back
Narcissistic mortification is a challenge to the false self, which crumbles and is unable to maintain defenses and pretensions. Narcissists use two strategies to restore some cohesiveness to the self: deflated and inflated narcissist. Narcissists engage in mortification, a form of self-mutilation, to feel alive and free from commitment to their false self. Narcissists seek out borderline women to mortify them and experience the unresolved primary conflict with their mother.
Narcissist: Drama Queen in Pathological Narcissistic Space
Narcissists have a deep-seated need for excitement and drama to alleviate their boredom and melancholy. They create an imaginary environment called the pathological narcissistic space, where they seek admiration, adoration, approval, applause, or attention. Narcissistic supply substitutes for having a real vocation or avocation and actual achievements. The narcissist’s two mechanisms of establishing a morphological narcissistic space and the urge to move continuously are completely incompatible, leading to the narcissistic condition.