Envy is Destructive Narcissism (Jealousy, Romantic Jealousy are NOT)
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the destructive nature of envy, distinguishing it from jealousy and romantic jealousy. Envy is driven by shame, humiliation, and the idealization of the envied person, leading to a need for control and ultimately destruction of the envied object. Envy is linked to narcissism and aggression, and its resolution is the destruction of the envied object. Vaknin emphasizes the urgent need to address envy as a root cause of mental illness and societal conflicts.
How I Experience My False Self
The speaker describes being held hostage by a false self, created as a coping mechanism in response to childhood trauma. The false self gradually took over, leaving the speaker feeling empty and disconnected from their true self. They developed a deceptive persona to protect themselves and cope with their experiences, but ultimately feel imprisoned by it. The speaker longs for love and understanding, hoping it will set them free, but ultimately feels there is nothing left of their true self.
Enmeshment Types Narcissist’s, Codependent’s, Borderline’s
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the dynamics of enmeshment, engulfment, merger, fusion, and symbiosis in relationships with individuals with cluster B personality disorders. He explains the differences in these dynamics between narcissists, borderlines, and codependents, highlighting their unique approaches to intimacy and control. Vaknin also challenges common misconceptions about these behaviors and their underlying motivations.
World After Pandemic: Society and Economy (Interview Kanal 77)
Pandemics are self-limiting and have a social and economic rebound. The aftermath of pandemics is always the same, with an explosion of extraversion and an economic rebound. However, the pandemic will lead to income inequality, with the rich getting richer and the poor getting poorer. The workforce will be divided into two segments, with 90% of workers being low-income and unskilled, and the remaining 10% being highly skilled and educated. The pandemic will lead to a revolution, but it will fail because the masses are too heavily invested in the same system that the elites benefit from.
Why Narcissists Love Borderline Women and Why They Hate Them Back
Narcissistic mortification is a challenge to the false self, which crumbles and is unable to maintain defenses and pretensions. Narcissists use two strategies to restore some cohesiveness to the self: deflated and inflated narcissist. Narcissists engage in mortification, a form of self-mutilation, to feel alive and free from commitment to their false self. Narcissists seek out borderline women to mortify them and experience the unresolved primary conflict with their mother.