UP TO YOU How People Treat You: Change Your Messaging, Signaling
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the behavior of narcissists and psychopaths, emphasizing their inability to internalize moral reasoning and their lack of capacity for love. He explains that people’s treatment of us is influenced by the information we transmit about ourselves and encourages us to cultivate dignity and self-respect. Vaknin advises against seeking validation by altering ourselves and instead advocates for authenticity and self-assertion as a means to change how others treat us. He concludes by emphasizing that we have the power to transform our lives by changing the way we present ourselves to the world.
Body Narcissism: Tattoos, Gym Rats, Bodybuilders, Fashionistas, Sex Fiends
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the conflicted relationship people have with their bodies, which is amplified in narcissism. He explains that both somatic and cerebral narcissists regard their bodies as a persecutory object, an enemy, and react with compulsive rituals and dissociation. Somatic narcissists derive narcissistic supply by using their bodies in various ways, such as through extreme sports, bodybuilding, and sexual activities. On the other hand, cerebral narcissists derive supply by displaying and leveraging their intellect. The lecture also delves into the concept of “othering” and its impact on narcissistic development, as well as the differences in the relationship with the body between somatic and cerebral narcissists.
Secret of Narcissist’s Romantic Attraction: How YOU Self-destruct
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the reasons why individuals are romantically attracted to narcissists. He explains the differences between sexual and romantic attraction and delves into the psychological processes involved in romantic attraction to narcissists. Vaknin outlines various reasons for this attraction, including the narcissist’s ability to manipulate and create a shared fantasy, the presence of a bad object within the individual, and the narcissist’s role in providing external regulation and punishment. He also touches on the concept of projective identification and the complex nature of the relationship with a narcissist.
Grandpa Sam’s Thoughts for a New Year
The text discusses various topics including New Year’s greetings, narcissism, relationships, intelligence, impulse control, and societal issues. It emphasizes the importance of changing one’s environment, addressing toxic relationships, and striving for personal growth. The text also delves into the dynamics of narcissistic shared fantasies and the impact of early childhood experiences on personality development. Additionally, it touches on the concepts of faking kindness, the fear of positive emotions, and the pursuit of contentment. The author concludes by encouraging readers to initiate positive changes in their lives and strive for inner and outer peace.
Gender Firewalls in Unigender Vertigo
The text discusses two recent studies on gender relations and the author’s analysis of them. It also delves into six trends that have led to a growing hostility and conflict between men and women. The trends include the adoption of traditional masculine traits by women, the erosion of gender roles, and the rise of self-objectification and detachment in relationships. The author also highlights the impact of these trends on intimacy, sexuality, and mental health.
Narcissist: Til Uniqueness Do Us Part
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the concept of uniqueness and its relation to narcissism. He explains how narcissists struggle with their own sense of uniqueness and seek external validation to confirm it. He also delves into the distinction between the basic and complex components of uniqueness, as well as the role of societal judgment in determining an individual’s uniqueness. Additionally, he explores the narcissist’s reliance on external feedback to maintain their sense of uniqueness and their tendency to compare themselves to historical figures to bolster their self-worth.
Does the Narcissist Envy YOU? (READ THE DESCRIPTION)
Narcissists do not envy your positive qualities or care about who you are as a person. They only value what you can provide to them, such as attention, services, and safety. Your kindness and empathy mean nothing to them, and they view your expressions of love and support as manipulative or fake. Ultimately, the narcissist sees you as either weak and deserving of contempt or as a threat to their control, leading to devaluation and discard.
Why Can’t You Breakup with the Narcissist?
Self-styled experts online exploit victims of narcissistic abuse by pandering to their desire to be seen as blameless victims. They profit from perpetuating victimhood and validating the victims’ feelings. Victims may stay with narcissists for selfish reasons, such as seeking validation, feeling needed, or benefiting from the relationship in various ways. The narcissist’s control and the victim’s own psychological needs contribute to their reluctance to leave the relationship.
Evolutionary Psychology: Redpill, Manosphere Nonsense
Evolutionary psychology is criticized for being a pseudoscience, with its main claim being that psychological adaptations are reactive to the environment. The field is discredited for its problematic claims, lack of replication, and inability to account for individual behaviors. The professor argues that evolutionary psychology is unscientific, overly deterministic, and fails to consider alternative explanations for human behavior. He also criticizes evo-devo psychology for misrepresenting biological phenomena as psychological adaptations. Overall, the professor dismisses evolutionary psychology as pseudoscientific and lacking in credibility.
You! Be GRATEFUL, HONORED That Narcissist Lets You Serve, Witness Him (Sacrificial Entitlement)
The text discusses the concept of sacrificial entitlement in narcissists. It explains how narcissists believe they are sacrificing their divine qualities to be with their partners and expect gratitude and obedience in return. The text also delves into the narcissist’s perspective on the breakup, viewing it as ingratitude from the partner. It highlights the narcissist’s belief that they have given their partner everything and the partner’s rejection is seen as a form of devaluation.