Covert, Women Narcissists Make It Into NEW DSM 5-TR
The DSM-5 acknowledges covert or vulnerable narcissists and accepts parity between women and men in terms of being diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder. However, the DSM-5 is still disappointing and the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual Committee is still somewhat influenced by the insurance and pharmaceutical industries. The DSM-5 introduces dimensional models for personality disorders, which represent maladaptive variants of personality traits that merge imperceptibly into normality and into one another. The DSM’s alternative model for narcissistic personality disorder specifies typical features of narcissistic personality disorder are variable and vulnerable self-esteem, with attempts at regulation through attention and approval seeking, and either overt or covert grandiosity.
Mass Shooters: Mentally Ill or Show-off?
Mass shooters are typically young, white males who engage in mass shootings as a spectacle and a way to gain immortality and control. They often have a strong presence on social media and are driven by grandiosity, negative emotions, and perceived grievances. The psychology of mass shooters differs from that of terrorists, as they are not ideologically motivated. Preventing mass shootings requires threat assessment, intervention, and addressing the issue of gun control.
Do We Create Reality, Is It a Hive Mind? (with Benny Hendel)
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the idea that reality is observer-dependent, and that the mind creates reality via the process of intentionality. He suggests that the observer is not naive and does not collapse the wave function, but rather, the observer is not capable of seeing anything else but the collapsed state. Vaknin proposes that the universe has a DNA of order and structure, and that the role of human beings is to observe the universe and via the act of observation, to collapse it, creating order and structure. He suggests that with every act of collective observation, we are cementing the past of the universe, not just the present.
We are Nothing but Time: Chronon Field Theory (with Benny Hendel)
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses his work on chronome field theory, which aims to simplify physics by using time as a force with a field and a single particle called a chronon. The chronon has different excitation states that correspond to various aspects of physics, such as mass and energy. By using these two principles, Vaknin claims that all existing theories in physics can be derived, including string theory and quantum field theory.
Mentally Ill: Bail Out, Save Yourself – Not THEM!
Mentally ill people often emotionally blackmail others into becoming their rescuers, and once they have, they want to infect them with their illness. This is because they want to share their pain and feel accepted. However, mentally ill people do not want to be helped, and they have strong resistances and defenses against healing. Therefore, it is important to harden your heart and walk away from mentally ill people to save yourself.
How Borderline Lures, Captivates You
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the strategies that borderline personality disorder women use to keep their partners hooked. He explains that the borderline woman is multifarious, ephemeral, and shimmering, and that she uses drama, approach avoidance, idealization, triangulation, and other tactics to keep her partner addicted to her. He also notes that the borderline’s neediness and clinging cater to the partner’s grandiosity, and that the borderline’s ability to impair the partner’s reality testing is essentially unlimited. Finally, he warns that relationships with borderlines are exceedingly destructive for both parties.
Vaknin Rips Into Feminist: Genders, Sex, Relationships (Excerpts)
The speaker expresses strong opinions about feminism, particularly third-wave feminism, and its impact on women’s empowerment. They argue that contemporary women are disempowered, burdened with debt, and engage in self-destructive behaviors due to the influence of third-wave feminism. The speaker also criticizes the lack of intimacy in modern relationships and the negative effects of casual sex culture. They express contempt for younger generations and their perceived entitlement. The conversation ends abruptly after the speaker is provoked with the phrase “OK, boomer.”
Lovebombing: Infatuated with Your Idealized Image (EXCERPT)
Sam Vaknin explains that when someone falls in love with a narcissist, they are actually falling in love with an idealized version of themselves that the narcissist projects onto them. This can be the first time that someone experiences self-love. However, the narcissist is an entity of absence, and the person is essentially falling in love with themselves. Saying goodbye to a narcissist can be difficult because they have made the person infatuated with themselves through their eyes.
Feminism: From Equity to Psychopathy
Third and fourth wave feminism has led to three dead-end solutions: standardization, emasculation, and masculinization. These solutions have resulted in a gender war and a decline in relationships, marriage, and childbirth rates. The focus on career and casual sex has left both men and women ill-equipped for long-term committed relationships and traditional gender roles. The current state of feminism does not offer viable solutions for a healthy balance between men and women in society.
Why Won’t S/he Grow Up: Precocious Adulthood Syndrome (PrAS)
In this lecture, Professor Sam Vaknin proposes a new clinical entity called Precautious Adulthood Syndrome, or adultification, which is brought on by three vectors: chronic illness, sexual abuse in early childhood to early puberty, and parentifying or instrumentalizing the child. Adultification can lead to compensatory infantilism, known as the Peter Pan syndrome, coupled with imposter syndrome. Adultified children grow up feeling responsible for everyone around them, become control freaks, and are self-reliant. They trust no one and always get involved in conflicts as arbiters or peacemakers. Adultified children resemble borderlines in that they engage in compensatory behaviors that are not calibrated and not proportionate.