When the Narcissist’s Parents Die
The death of a narcissist’s parents can be a complicated experience. The narcissist has a mixed reaction to their passing, feeling both elation and grief. The parents are often the source of the narcissist’s trauma and continue to haunt them long after they die. The death of the parents also represents a loss of a reliable source of narcissistic supply, which can lead to severe depression. Additionally, the narcissist’s unfinished business with their parents can lead to unresolved conflicts and pressure that deforms their personality.
Narcissist: Irresistible Charmer
Narcissists use charm to manipulate and control others, seeking attention and admiration. They use their charisma to exert power over people and view those they charm as objects for their gratification. Pathological charm can involve sadism and is used to maintain object constancy and fend off abandonment. Narcissists react with rage and aggression when their charm fails to elicit narcissistic supply, revealing their true predatory nature.
Narcissistic Serial and Mass Killers
Serial killers and malignant narcissists share a lack of empathy, grandiose fantasies, and a sense of entitlement. Both objectify people and treat them as extensions of themselves. Serial killers seek to render their victims immobile to avoid abandonment or humiliation, and they believe they are improving their victims by killing them. The narcissist’s life is a repetition complex, and the serial killer’s murders recreate earlier conflicts with meaningful objects. Both represent a dual failure of their own development and of the culture and society they grew in.
Erotomanic Stalker
The erotomaniac stalker believes they are in love with their victim and will go to great lengths to prove their devotion, including making legal, financial, and emotional decisions for the victim without their consent. They ignore personal boundaries and intrude on privacy, and may even force themselves on the victim sexually. Coping strategies include ignoring the stalker, not responding to any communication, returning gifts, and avoiding any contact with the stalker. Any contact with the stalker is seen as a sign of love, so it is best to avoid them completely.
Narcissist as Eternal Child
Narcissists often refuse to grow up and remain in a state of infantilization, avoiding adult responsibilities and functions. This is because remaining a child caters to their narcissistic needs and defenses. Narcissists are often envious of children and try to emulate them, as children are forgiven for narcissistic traits and behaviors that adults are not. By remaining a child, the narcissist can indulge in these behaviors and not be punished for them.
Asperger’s Disorder Misdiagnosed as Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD)
Asperger’s Disorder can be diagnosed in toddlers as young as three years old, while Narcissistic Personality Disorder cannot be safely diagnosed until late adolescence. However, Asperger’s Disorder is often misdiagnosed as Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Both types of patients are self-centered and engrossed in a narrow range of interests and activities, with severely hampered social and occupational interactions. The gulf between Asperger’s and pathological narcissism is vast, with the narcissist switching between social agility and social impairment voluntarily, while the Asperger’s patient’s social awkwardness is an inevitability.
Narcissistic Supply: Narcissist’s Drug
Narcissistic supply is the attention, admiration, and adulation that a narcissist seeks from others to regulate their sense of self-worth and self-esteem. The narcissist projects a false self, which is everything they are not, to elicit constant interest and reactions from others. There are two types of narcissistic supply: primary, which is attention, and secondary, which includes leading a normal life. The sources of supply are those who provide the narcissist with narcissistic supply on a casual or regular basis. Narcissistic supply is the fuel that runs the narcissist’s machine and is the drug to which they are addicted.
Body Language of Narcissistic and Psychopathic Abuser
Abusers emit subtle signals in their body language that can be observed and discerned. They adopt a posture of superiority and entitlement, and they idealize or devalue their interlocutors. Abusers are shallow and prefer show-off to substance, and they are serious about themselves. They lack empathy, are sadistic, and have inappropriate affect. They are adept at casting a veil of secrecy over their dysfunction and misbehavior, and they succeed in deceiving the entire world.
Narcissist and God: Love-Hate Relationship
The narcissist has a love-hate relationship with God, who is everything the narcissist wants to be. The narcissist alternately idealizes and devalues authority figures, and God is the ultimate authority figure. The narcissist maintains a facade of love for God even when disillusionment sets in because religious authority allows the narcissist to indulge in sadistic urges and exercise their narcissistic supply. The narcissist becomes God vicariously by the proxy of their relationship with him, idealizing, devaluing, and abusing him in the classic narcissistic pattern.