Reality Or Shared Fantasy Your Choice (from Best Offer To The Matrix)
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the concept of reality and fantasy, using examples from popular movies such as The Truman Show and The Matrix. He delves into the idea of living in a dissociative state and the construction of narratives in our minds. Vaknin also explores the ethical implications of imposing happiness on others and the philosophical implications of virtual reality and simulation. He concludes by connecting these concepts to narcissism and shared fantasy in relationships.
Dead Parents Clone Narcissists (and Codependents And Borderlines)
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the three types of trauma: self-inflicted, reality-inflicted, and parental-inflicted. He emphasizes the critical role of mothers in personal development and the impact of trauma on growth. Vaknin also explores the concept of nothingness as a healthy narrative and expresses skepticism about the likelihood of a shift away from narcissistic narratives in society.
Mental Illness: Network or Hierarchy? (World Psychiatrists and Psychologists Conference Webinar)
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the application of network theory to mental health disorders, emphasizing the interconnectedness of symptoms and the need to incorporate both internal and external factors in understanding mental illness. He explores the symbiotic relationship between hierarchies and networks, and the impact of going viral on mental health. Vaknin also delves into the role of networks in generating meaning and value for individuals with mental illness, highlighting the positive adaptations that allow them to function in chaotic life circumstances.
Narcissist: Your Pain is his Healing, Your Crucifixion – His Resurrection
Narcissists need their victims to suffer to regulate their own emotions and feel a sense of control. They keep a mental ledger of positive and negative behaviors, with negative behaviors weighing more heavily. Narcissists need counterfactual statements to maintain their delusion of being special and superior. The grandiosity gap is the major vulnerability of the narcissist, and they are often in denial about their limitations and failures.
Narcissism Hereditary, Acquired, Or Epigenetic ( Diathesis Stress Models)
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the question of whether narcissism is inherited or acquired. He explores the history of narcissism and personality disorders, the influence of genetics and environment, and the emerging field of epigenetics. Vaknin emphasizes the complex interplay between nature and nurture in the development of personality disorders, and the need to consider the environment as an integral part of the individual. He also challenges traditional distinctions between mental and physical health, and the subjective nature of defining health and illness.
Sam Vaknin: Through My Poetry (link in description)
In this video, Professor Sam Vaknin takes the viewer on a tour of his narcissism through his poetry. He warns that the imagery may be disturbing and triggering, and that his experiences are typical of narcissists. He discusses his childhood abuse, his protective instincts towards his siblings, his private religion, and his relationships with women. He also reflects on his age and his life, and ends with a poem about loneliness and beauty.
Insider View Of Narcissists Shared Fantasy With YOU (+ Psychopath’s)
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the nature of narcissists and psychopaths, emphasizing that they are users, takers, and exploiters who do not form committed, long-term, or emotional relationships. He explains that they operate within a pathological narcissistic space and seek novelty, and that they view women as either mothers or whores. Vaknin also highlights the importance of understanding these concepts and the role of abuse and sadism in their interactions. Narcissists and psychopaths have three types of shared fantasies: with a man, with a woman, and with creative work. The critical point in a shared fantasy is what’s in it for the narcissist or psychopath.
Insecure Attachment Styles In Cluster B Personalities ( YOU, The Dead Mother)
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses attachment styles and disorders in various personality disorders, including narcissism, psychopathy, and borderline personality disorder. He emphasizes the impact of childhood experiences on attachment styles and the role of relational schemas in guiding behaviors and relationships. Vaknin also introduces the concept of “flat attachment” and highlights the dysfunctional coping mechanisms and distress associated with psychopathic and narcissistic behaviors. He argues that these behaviors are rooted in attachment issues and the fear of being loved or loving.
Your Role in Narcissist’s Shared Fantasy is Why He Hates You (hint: you make him feel himself – and human)
In summary, the narcissist’s intimate partner plays a crucial role in the shared fantasy by fulfilling the roles of admirer, playmate, and mother. This allows the narcissist to experience maximal grandiosity and feel safe enough to separate and individuate. However, the intimate partner’s presence also leads to the narcissist’s self-hatred and inability to maintain meaningful communication with both the outside world and himself. The intimate partner ultimately becomes a threat to the narcissist, as they make the narcissist feel human, which is something the narcissist does not want to be.
How to Overcome Pandemic’s CPTSD (Keynote Speech Covid-19 Global Summit)
Professor Sam Vaknin discussed the psychological implications of the COVID pandemic, focusing on trauma psychology models. He explained that the pandemic has caused a collective trauma, leading to a potential increase in mental health issues and personality disorders. The pandemic has disrupted our ability to create meaningful narratives and has attacked our core identity, causing dissociative symptoms and identity disturbance. Vaknin suggests that mental health practitioners must help facilitate the healing process for individuals affected by the pandemic.