Narcissist’s Grandiosity, Borderline’s Promiscuity: 3Ss+E2A
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the demands of a narcissist in a relationship, the compensatory cerebral narcissist, and the complexities of borderline personality disorder, including the distinction between formative and situational promiscuity. He also addresses the likelihood of a borderline transitioning to a stable, long-term, sexually-exclusive relationship.
Women, We Miss You, Please Come Back! Signed: Your Men
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the changing roles of men and women in society. He argues that women are becoming the new men, as they are more educated, employable, and have skills that are more relevant to the postmodern world. However, he also notes that women are beginning to phase men out, outsourcing their needs to other women or technology. Vaknin observes that younger generations of women are emulating psychopathic bullies and predators, which threatens the existence of the species. He urges women not to give up on men, as the majority are good, helpful, and supportive.
Narcissist (NPD) Hijacks Borderline (BPD), People-pleasing, Casual Sex
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the comorbidity of narcissistic and borderline personality disorders, explaining that the only way to reconcile the two is by assuming the existence of semi-dissociated self-states. He also talks about people-pleasing behavior, which can stem from anxiety or social phobia, and how it can lead to self-defeating and self-trashing behaviors. Lastly, he discusses the current state of sex and gender in the West, where casual sex has become the dominant sexual practice, and how this has led to a separation between men and women, as well as a decline in intimacy and meaningful relationships.
Think You Know Narcissists, Borderlines? Think Again! (With Ruan de Witt)
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the distinction between narcissistic traits and narcissistic personality disorder, emphasizing that narcissism is a coping strategy that has become more common in today’s society. He explains that narcissism can manifest differently in men and women and delves into the warning signs of narcissistic behavior in relationships. Vaknin also explores the concept of shared fantasy and trauma bonding in relationships with narcissists, and the impact of narcissistic abuse on individuals. He also touches on the different subtypes of narcissism and the potential for individuals to undergo a process of self-discovery and authenticity. Ultimately, he suggests that narcissism has no cure and that individuals may need to accept or leave the situation.
Right to Suicide: Teen, Adult, State, Prevention (2nd Webinar on Mental Health and Suicidal Risk)
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the link between social media and teen suicide, stating that social media platforms are designed to be addictive and can lead to withdrawal symptoms and self-destructive behavior. He argues that suicide is a personal choice and should not be limited by the state, but society should focus on addressing loneliness and disconnection to help prevent it. Vaknin emphasizes that suicide is a symptom of a social disease, not an individual act, and should be treated as such.
Talk That Defies a Title (Assembly of Silence Radio Hour (ASRH))
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses various topics including his views on narcissism, the impact of psychology on society, and the potential of artificial intelligence (AI). He criticizes psychology as a pseudoscience that promotes solipsistic and atomized views of individuals, leading to a society where people are treated as objects. Vaknin sees AI as a hopeful solution, as it operates as a pure network concept that cannot be corrupted and has self-correcting and self-learning capabilities. He also touches on the changing nature of human relationships and the decline of intimacy among younger generations. Vaknin believes that integrating AI with human systems, with proper safeguards, is the only hope for addressing the challenges posed by narcissistic and psychopathic behaviors in society.
Where Have All the Wo/Men Gone?
Professor Sam Vaknin argues that women have become increasingly narcissistic and psychopathic due to their newfound powers and liberation, leading to a collective pathology. This has resulted in a mass psychopathology that is causing terrifying numbers of suicide rates, depression, and anxiety. Vaknin suggests that we need to acknowledge the truth about casual sex and stop being politically correct to confront the issues bravely and courageously. He believes that we need to rewrite the sexual scripts and restore distinct, clear, and boundaried gender roles to save ourselves from the collapsing gender roles that brought the narcissism pandemic and now the borderline secondary psychopathy pandemic.
Collective Narcissism and Its Leaders: Case of Macedonia (with Nikola Ristevski)
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses his doctoral thesis, which aimed to rewrite physics using a minimal language. He also talks about his involvement in Macedonia, where he worked as an economic advisor to the government and helped set up the stock exchange and privatization. In addition, he discusses the influence of emotional vulnerability on leaders and how it can create contagion and infect the whole nation. Finally, he discusses the political situation in Macedonia, describing political parties as networks of patronage and clientele, and advises young Macedonians to create a parallel state, opting out of existing power structures and establishing their own power structures.
OK, Boomer: Want to Be Young Again?
Professor Sam Vaknin argues that today’s youth are facing a dystopian world and have given up on life, intimacy, and relationships. He claims that young people today engage almost exclusively in casual, drunk sex with strangers, lack basic skills for intimacy and relationships, and are incapable of forming long-term attachments. Vaknin blames older generations for creating a world without meaning or a future for the youth, leading them to reject life and reality. He believes that hope lies in much younger generations, and that older generations must carry on until those younger generations are old enough to take the torch and continue the march of humanity.
Hookups Trap: Bad Sex, Female Raw Deal (Literature Review)
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the cultural shift from traditional dating to the prevalence of casual sexual encounters, known as hookups, among young adults, particularly in college settings. He highlights the psychological and emotional consequences of such encounters, including feelings of regret, shame, and increased rates of depression and anxiety. Vaknin also points out the role of alcohol and drug use in facilitating hookups and the discrepancy between the actual desires for intimacy and the behaviors exhibited due to peer pressure and societal expectations. He warns of the potential long-term negative impacts on mental health and relationship formation.