From Idealization To Discard, It Is All Abuse!
The text discusses the concept of the shared fantasy in narcissistic abuse. It explains how the shared fantasy triggers abusive behavior and why narcissistic abuse ceases only when the shared fantasy is definitively over. The narcissist’s abuse is reframed as tough love or a reaction to the partner’s behavior, and it is driven by the need to idealize the partner and avoid love, which is associated with negative outcomes. The abuse is intended to mold the partner to fit the narcissist’s idealized image, and it is emotionally infused with paternal or maternal feelings. The text also explains that the abuse stops when the shared fantasy is truly over and the partner’s internal representation in the narcissist’s mind loses its power. The cycle of abuse can be reactivated if the partner is re-idealized by
Two Ways To Injure A Narcissist Narcissistic (overt) Vs. Self Efficacy (covert) Injury
Sam Vaknin discusses the different ways covert and overt narcissists experience injury and self-regulation. He explains how covert narcissists self-supply and endure self-efficacy injury when failing to deceive others, while overt narcissists depend on external sources of supply and experience narcissistic injury when failing to deceive others. Vaknin also delves into the role of crisis and drama in narcissism, highlighting their use as defenses against depression and anxiety.
How Narcissist Deceives YOU ( Aggressive Mimicry Predator Faking Prey)
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the various forms of mimicry used by narcissists, focusing on aggressive mimicry. He explains how narcissists mimic other species or individuals to deceive and attract their prey, using signals to lure and captivate their victims. The mimicry involves deception, behavior modification, and selective advantage for the narcissist. The predatory behavior of narcissists is compared to mimicry in the animal kingdom, highlighting the impact on the prey and the model. Defensive mimicry and various types of mimicry are also explored in the context of narcissistic behavior. Mimicry is presented as a predatory strategy used by narcissists to manipulate and deceive their victims.
Get Parasite Narcissist Out of Your Colonized Mind
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the concept of shared fantasy as a form of paracosm, an alternative reality constructed by narcissists to manipulate and control their intimate partners. He delves into the intricate mechanisms of how narcissists hijack the minds of their victims through processes such as entraining and dissociation. Vaknin emphasizes the importance of memory recovery and the distinction between authentic emotions and those implanted by the abuser. He also explores the role of trauma and dissociation in perpetuating the effects of abuse.
Protecting Us From Ourselves Defense Mechanisms
Insight from psychoanalysis suggests that we are our own worst enemies due to our capacity for self-deceit. Defense mechanisms are widely thought to be the main instruments of self-deceit, and they serve to separate internal reality from external reality in order to reduce anxiety. These defenses can be successful or unsuccessful, and they play a role in normal psychic structure formation. Additionally, there are various types of defenses, and they can evolve and transform as the ego matures.
How Borderlines Abuse Themselves ( DBT)
The lecture discusses the victimization of borderline patients, focusing on their self-destructive behaviors and internal struggles. It delves into the concepts of inhibited grieving, unrelenting crisis, active passivity, apparent competence, emotional vulnerability, and self-invalidation in the context of borderline personality disorder. The speaker emphasizes the intense emotional experiences and the difficulty in regulating emotions that borderlines face, leading to self-criticism and self-victimization. The lecture also touches on the potential transition from the self-state of a borderline to that of a psychopath.
How Narcissist Borderline Child Experiences World
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the development of narcissistic and borderline personalities in children, focusing on the impact of parental behavior on the child’s perception of self and others. He delves into the concepts of primary narcissism, object splitting, and the role of the mother in shaping the child’s psyche. Vaknin also explores the theories of Sigmund Freud and Carl Jung, highlighting their perspectives on narcissism, introversion, and the shadow self.
How To Get Your Narcissist to Therapy (“Granny Fanny Cris” Method)
The text discusses how to get a narcissist to attend therapy, emphasizing the importance of not directly confronting the narcissist’s grandiosity and instead using strategies such as co-opting their grandiosity, appealing to their self-conception, and leveraging crises to motivate them to seek therapy. It also highlights the challenges of therapy with narcissists, including their resistance and the need for therapists to collaborate with their grandiosity and fantasy defenses. The text also addresses the different types of crises that may drive a narcissist to therapy, such as ultimatums, mental disorders, and suicidality.
Histrionic Personality Disorder (HPD): Overview and Issues
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses histrionic personality disorder, its comorbidity with other personality disorders, and the various adaptive solutions that collapsed histrionics and narcissists resort to when faced with deficient narcissistic supply. He also delves into the dynamics of histrionic women’s interactions with men and the conflicting inner voices they experience.
Why Narcissists Commit Suicide? To Be Great Again!
Narcissistic personality disorder is associated with a high risk of suicide, especially during narcissistic mortification. Suicide in narcissists is not driven by depression, but rather by a desire to restore a sense of grandiosity and control. Suicidal ideation in narcissism is suffused with grandiosity and reflects an underlying cognitive distortion. The characteristics of suicidal behaviors in narcissistic personality disorder include perfectionism, lack of self-disclosure, dissociation, body hatred, and inconsistent self-representation. Suicidal ideation in narcissists is a form of acting out and a way to assert control over themselves and others.