Narcissist’s Grim Fairy Tale
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the concept of shared fantasy in narcissism, drawing parallels to fairy tales and the psychological dynamics involved. He delves into the role of fantasy in the narcissist’s mind, the interplay of good and bad objects, and the impact on relationships. Vaknin also explores the work of Bruno Bettelheim and the therapeutic aspects of fairy tales in addressing existential problems. Ultimately, he emphasizes the narcissist’s perpetual struggle with the death voice and the pursuit of a semblance of life through the shared fantasy.
Masked Narcissist: Private Vs. Public Personas
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the concept of the narcissist’s persona and mask. He explains that the narcissist’s persona is a facade, a shell, and a mask that the narcissist uses to interact with the world. He delves into the psychological theories of persona, impression management, and individuation, and how they relate to the development of narcissism. Vaknin emphasizes that the narcissist lacks a true self and is essentially a collection of interchangeable masks, with no core identity. He also highlights the narcissist’s inability to be a member of the audience in social interactions, leading to a lack of genuine connection and a perpetual need for attention and validation.
When Narcissist Is Rejected By Peers
The text discusses the etiology of pathological narcissism, focusing on the impact of peer rejection on children who are already facing challenges such as autism, obesity, or gender dysphoria. It explains how peer rejection triggers cognitive dissonance and leads to the development of narcissistic defenses, such as fantasy, dissociation, and displaced passive aggression. The author also delves into the impact of conflicting parental messaging and the role of intimate partners in the narcissist’s life. Ultimately, the text highlights the inner battle within the narcissist’s soul and the crisis they face when they have to shed their perceived divinity.
Narcissist’s 10 Body Postures, Psychopath’s Physique
The text discusses the body language and body image of narcissists and psychopaths. It delves into the complex relationship these individuals have with their bodies, including how they use body language to manipulate and control others. The text also touches on the treatability of body dysmorphic and somatoform disorders through therapy.
Two Inner Children Parentified In Narcissist’s Shared Fantasy
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the concept of the inner child in the context of narcissistic relationships. He explains how narcissists regress their partners to a childlike state and then coerce them to parent the narcissist. This dynamic leads to dysfunctional behaviors and mental illness. The professor also criticizes psychology as a pseudoscience and emphasizes the importance of maintaining a connection with the inner child while avoiding regression.
Study: Narcissists Cheat MORE? Only Partly True! (And Why They Cheat)
A study on narcissism and infidelity found that grandiose narcissistic women are more likely to have favorable attitudes towards infidelity, while their male partners are less likely to cheat. Vulnerable narcissists, both male and female, are more likely to have favorable attitudes towards infidelity. Additionally, the number of premarital partners is linked to higher rates of divorce and infidelity, with those having nine or more partners being at a higher risk. Narcissists cheat for reasons such as seeking narcissistic supply, avoiding intimacy and commitment, and asserting control. They may also use infidelity as a way to rejuvenate their primary relationship.
Why Dating Narcissists is Addictive (With Diana and Mari)
The conversation is a recording of a discussion with professor Sam Vaknin about narcissism. The participants express gratitude for his insights and discuss their experiences with narcissistic abuse. Vaknin explains the inability of narcissists to love and the complexities of relationships with them. He also discusses the concept of narcissistic abuse and its increasing prevalence in society.
Taker, User Narcissist Feels Loved, Vindicated
Narcissists and psychopaths are users and takers due to their upbringing in environments where they learned to give minimally and conditionally. They lack positive emotions and empathy, so they view relationships as transactional and seek to maximize their returns while minimizing their investment. They perceive taking as a substitute for love and feel entitled to receive love through material goods, services, and power. They exploit and devalue others, using them until they have nothing left to offer, then walk away. The narcissist deludes themselves into believing their shared fantasy is real, while the psychopath is fully aware it’s a manipulation. Both lack empathy and use others for their own gain.
Competitive Victimhood: Dark Triad ADHD Activists ( Literature Review)
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the subversion of public discourse by victimhood movements and identity politics. He argues that many social and political activists are mentally ill, particularly narcissistic and psychopathic, and that victimhood has become a competitive identity. He reviews several studies that link virtue signaling to dark triad personality traits and explores the consequences of the tendency for interpersonal victimhood. Vaknin also discusses the surprising political activity of individuals with ADHD and the impact of victimhood on social and political dynamics. He warns of the dangerous implications of victimhood and calls for a collective fight against it.
New Light on Victims of Narcissistic Abuse (With Macy Nelson)
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the dynamics of narcissistic abuse and cluster B personality disorders. He emphasizes the prevalence of victimhood as a proxy for identity politics and the need for self-accountability. Vaknin delves into the psychological defenses of victims and abusers, the cycle of idealization and devaluation, and the challenges of forgiveness and self-forgiveness. He also highlights the inherent inability of cluster B personalities to experience empathy and emotional resonance.