How Narcissist/Psychopath Sees YOU, his Victim, and Why Borderlines Adore Them
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the inner experiences of narcissists, psychopaths, and borderlines. He explains how narcissists idealize their partners to reinforce their own grandiosity, while psychopaths manipulate and discard their partners for entertainment or personal gain. Borderlines exhibit a complex mix of traits from other personality disorders and may transition between narcissistic and psychopathic behaviors in response to frustration. Vaknin also clarifies that cheating is just one example of a behavior that can mortify a narcissist.
From Grooming to Discard via Shared Fantasy: Cheat, Mortify, Exit
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the cycle of relationships with a narcissist, which follows a pattern of five phases: grooming, shared fantasy, interstitial one with two options, mortification or anti-fantasy, and interstitial two. The narcissist creates a shared fantasy to extract sex, supply, and services from their partner, and the shared fantasy allows them to avoid true intimacy and commitment. Cheating is an option for women who want to escape the shared fantasy and create an alternative sanctuary with another man. The fourth phase, the anti-fantasy phase, occurs when the partner tries to transition from the shared fantasy to reality, and the narcissist becomes indecisive and approach avoidant. Mortification is crucial to end the shared fantasy, and the narcissist switches to internal or external mortification
Victim: How to Avoid Becoming a Psychopathic Narcissist
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the controversial topics of victims abusing narcissists and the concept of racism. He delves into the impact of trauma on victims, the contagious nature of narcissism, and the development of complex post-traumatic stress disorder. He also explores the behaviors and reactions of victims in extreme circumstances, such as trauma bonding and the challenges of forming new relationships after abuse.
Racism and Stereotypes: Useful or Bad? Blacks, Jews, Gay, Women, and Other Cats
Stereotypes can be seen as a way to encapsulate information compactly and efficiently, providing a survival value in an age of information overload. While many stereotypes are self-reinforcing and can lead to discrimination, not all stereotypes are negative. Stereotypes can evolve to reflect changing societal roles and values, and can promote understanding of social and historical processes. As long as people think in terms of groups, stereotypes will exist, and they can be useful if they are based in reality and acknowledge diversity.
Boomers Pandemic, Millennials Cost, Bubble World – Part 1 of 2
The COVID-19 pandemic has forced people to retreat into bubbles, exposing the fault lines and fractures in society. The pandemic has created an intergenerational conflict between the old and the young, with the younger generations paying the price for the failures of the older generations. The pandemic has led to the normalization of mental health pathologies and the loss of value of common goods that rely on cooperation and social conventions. Millennials and zoomers have experienced slower economic growth, lower earnings, and delayed home ownership, leading to economic scarring that will last a lifetime.
Boomers Pandemic, Millennials Cost, Bubble World – Part 2 of 2
The Great Recession damaged young workers to such an extent that they have never succeeded in recovering. Millennials were affected by structural changes in the economy, leading to a two-track labor market with high-paying jobs going to college graduates and postgraduates, while others make a pittance. Millennials are the most educated, diverse, and responsible generation, but they are still screwed by their elders who are nothing of the sort. The pandemic has exposed that if you’re young, a minority, a woman, or part of an imaginalist group, you’re screwed.
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Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the concept of demon possession and its relation to narcissism. He explores the historical and linguistic context of demon possession, comparing it to the vocabulary used in psychiatry. He delves into the psychological traits and behaviors associated with demon possession, drawing parallels to narcissism, psychopathy, and borderline personality disorder. Additionally, he examines the impact of brain injuries on personality disorders and the role of the false self in the narcissist’s psyche.
Narcissism, Demonic Possession as Morality Plays
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses demon possession and its similarities to narcissism, as well as the concept of possession in different religions and cultures. He argues that pathological narcissism is the source of all personality disorders and that narcissists and psychopaths lack empathy and emotions, making them not human in any sense of the word. Vaknin also discusses the false self in narcissists and how it becomes dominant, leading to a loss of identity. He also talks about the structural abnormalities in the brains of individuals with narcissistic personality disorder and the therapist’s role in reconstructing a functional self.
From Borderline to Psychopath to Narcissist: Abuse of Language and Self States
Sam Vaknin discusses the concept of personality disorders, particularly cluster B disorders, as facets of an underlying dissociative process. He suggests that these disorders may be self-states or alters of each other, all stemming from a common dissociation. Vaknin also explores the role of language and speech in these disorders, as well as the development of false selves and the transition between different personality disorders. He proposes that all known personality disorders, especially cluster B disorders, are forms of malignant self-love, and that ultimately there is only one cluster B personality disorder.
Webinar: Have Hope and Resilience in times of COVID-19
The transcript is a record of a webinar on mental health and resilience during the COVID-19 pandemic, featuring presentations and discussions by various experts in the field of psychology and mental health. The speakers shared their insights, personal experiences, and professional expertise on topics such as acceptance and commitment therapy, the impact of the pandemic on mental health, the importance of resilience and empowerment, and the need for a paradigm shift in the approach to therapy and societal organization. The webinar also included a panel discussion where the speakers engaged in a dialogue about the challenges and opportunities presented by the pandemic for mental health practitioners and society at large.