Should Lovebombing Be Criminalized? Not Always! (TalkTV with Trisha Goddard)
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the evolution of the definition of coercive control in cases of domestic abuse, particularly focusing on the concept of love bombing. He emphasizes the need for precise definitions to avoid criminalizing normal behaviors and highlights the role of intermittent reinforcement in manipulative control. Additionally, he addresses the applicability of coercive control in workplace situations and the importance of expanding the definition to encompass various relationships.
How To Get Your Narcissist to Therapy (“Granny Fanny Cris” Method)
The text discusses how to get a narcissist to attend therapy, emphasizing the importance of not directly confronting the narcissist’s grandiosity and instead using strategies such as co-opting their grandiosity, appealing to their self-conception, and leveraging crises to motivate them to seek therapy. It also highlights the challenges of therapy with narcissists, including their resistance and the need for therapists to collaborate with their grandiosity and fantasy defenses. The text also addresses the different types of crises that may drive a narcissist to therapy, such as ultimatums, mental disorders, and suicidality.
Borderline Demonizes Partner, Pathologizes Narcissist (Or Herself)
The text discusses the dynamics of borderline personality disorder and narcissistic personality disorder in relationships. It delves into the borderline’s paranoid ideation and the need to justify withdrawing from a partner. It also explores the concept of persecutory dynamics and the interplay between the borderline and narcissistic partner. Additionally, it touches on the narcissist’s devaluation and discard phases and the impact on the internal object.
YOU In Mind Of Narcissist, Borderline
The narcissist perceives others through internal objects in his mind, constantly negotiating and reconciling them with external reality. The narcissist’s lack of boundaries and empathy leads to confusion between internal and external objects, resulting in a form of hyper-reflexivity and psychosis. The narcissist’s interactions are primarily with internal objects, projecting their mental states onto external objects. The narcissist’s attachment is to internal objects, and they maintain control and possession over external objects through introjects. The narcissist’s relationship with a borderline personality can lead to a powerful bond, with the borderline encouraging the narcissist’s internal object interactions.
Histrionic Personality Disorder (HPD): Overview and Issues
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses histrionic personality disorder, its comorbidity with other personality disorders, and the various adaptive solutions that collapsed histrionics and narcissists resort to when faced with deficient narcissistic supply. He also delves into the dynamics of histrionic women’s interactions with men and the conflicting inner voices they experience.
Why Narcissists Commit Suicide? To Be Great Again!
Narcissistic personality disorder is associated with a high risk of suicide, especially during narcissistic mortification. Suicide in narcissists is not driven by depression, but rather by a desire to restore a sense of grandiosity and control. Suicidal ideation in narcissism is suffused with grandiosity and reflects an underlying cognitive distortion. The characteristics of suicidal behaviors in narcissistic personality disorder include perfectionism, lack of self-disclosure, dissociation, body hatred, and inconsistent self-representation. Suicidal ideation in narcissists is a form of acting out and a way to assert control over themselves and others.
Self Supplying Narcissist Miracle Cure
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the use of self-supply as a therapeutic strategy for narcissists, arguing that it is superior to current treatment modalities. He explains that self-supply involves the narcissist becoming their own exclusive source of narcissistic supply, leading to reduced anxiety and depression, stabilization of self-worth, and the potential for healing and integration. Vaknin emphasizes the need for mental health practitioners to transition from manipulative dependency on external supply to teaching narcissists to rely on self-supply, ultimately leading to better social behavior and a sense of secure base.
Women Narcissistically Mortified More than Men: Mortification not Injury (with Daria Zukowska)
Sam Vaknin discusses the concept of narcissistic mortification, distinguishing it from narcissistic injury, wound, and scar. He explains the process and its effects on narcissists, including self-awareness and suicidal ideation. Vaknin also addresses the potential coping mechanisms and the association of shame with narcissism.
How Narcissist, Borderline Overperceives YOU (and Reality)
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the concept of overperception, a cognitive bias where individuals exaggerate or misperceive the intentions, emotions, and behaviors of others. He provides examples of overperception in various mental illnesses, such as narcissism, borderline personality disorder, and paranoia. Vaknin also explores the evolutionary basis and adaptive value of cognitive biases, as well as their impact on decision-making and emotional regulation. He emphasizes the role of cognitive distortions in shaping individuals’ perceptions and internal states, and discusses the implications for therapeutic interventions.
ChatGPT: Grandiose Pathological Liar (aka Psychopath), Confabulator (aka Narcissist)
Professor Sam Vaknin conducted a test with ChatGPT, an AI chat agent, asking 55 factual questions about himself. He found that ChatGPT provided 6 correct answers, 12 partially correct answers, and 37 disastrously wrong answers. Vaknin argues that ChatGPT’s responses are filled with fabrications and false information, presenting them as authoritative and factual. He accuses ChatGPT of manipulating users and misleading them, and calls for its removal from search engines due to its high rate of incorrect answers.