Narcissism Revisited (with Iranian Psychoanalyst Ali Reza Bornamanesh)
Summary: The conversation covers the classification of narcissism, the differential diagnosis between antisocial personality disorder and covert narcissistic personality disorder, the challenges of treating personality disorders, and the dominance of CBT in psychotherapy in Iran. The discussion also delves into the difficulties of practicing psychoanalysis in Iran, including the cultural barriers to free association in therapy. The conversation ends with an agreement to have a second meeting to further explore the topic of psychotherapy in Iran.
Borderline=Failed Narcissist: Intermittent Mother, not “Dead” (EXCERPT)
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the complex dynamics of relationships involving covert borderline and borderline personality disorder individuals. He delves into the origins of these disorders, their impact on relationships, and the interplay between them. Vaknin also explores the psychological defenses and behaviors exhibited by individuals with these disorders, shedding light on their intricate interactions.
Ideal Love Fantasy Borderline And Covert Borderline ( Odd Couples Part 3)
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the complex dynamics of relationships between covert borderlines and individuals with borderline personality disorder. He delves into the diagnostic criteria for borderline personality disorder and the impact of covert borderlines on their partners. The covert borderline’s grandiosity, need for ideal love, and communication style are explored, as well as the challenges in maintaining stable relationships. The professor also addresses the impact of the covert borderline’s behavior on their partners and the potential outcomes of these relationships.
Psychology Of ( Israeli Palestinian) Conflict
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the Israeli-Palestinian conflict, delving into the psychological dynamics of the parties involved. He highlights the trauma, grandiosity, impaired reality testing, and the need for enemies to define one’s identity. Vaknin emphasizes the importance of empathy and the recognition of shared humanity as a means to resolve the conflict.
How Covert Narcissist Deceives Covert Borderline And He Loves It ( 2nd In Odd Couples Series)
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the dynamics of a relationship between a covert borderline and a covert narcissist. He explains the characteristics and behaviors of each type and how they interact in a relationship. The covert borderline is a hybrid of borderline and narcissistic traits, while the covert narcissist has a false sense of grandiosity and struggles with shame and inadequacy. The relationship between the two involves manipulation, envy, and a struggle for control, leading to a tumultuous and often destructive dynamic. The covert borderline seeks ideal love and is willing to deceive himself, while the covert narcissist provides a fantasy of perfection that the covert borderline becomes addicted to.
TIPS: When Your Children Are Flying Monkeys (Parental Alienation)
The text discusses the manipulation and abuse of children by narcissistic parents, who use them as tools to inflict trauma and pain on the other parent. It explains how the abuser recruits and controls the children, and the long-term effects of such abuse on the children. The text also provides advice on how to behave and what to do in such situations, emphasizing the importance of being a positive role model for the children and trusting them to make the right choices as they grow up.
Narcissist’s Relationships Via Two Pets (True Stories)
Narcissists may show more affection and empathy towards their pets than their human relationships. The speaker shares personal stories about their pets, a snail and a goldfish, and how these experiences reflect their marriages. The snail’s demise symbolizes the breakdown of the speaker’s first marriage, while the struggles of the goldfish mirror the challenges in the second marriage. The pets’ experiences serve as metaphors for the complexities and failures of the speaker’s relationships.
Psychopathology of “I am a Victim” Mentality (NEW Intro+Compilation)
Sam Vaknin discusses how to differentiate between narcissists who claim to be victims and actual victims. He provides several tests to distinguish between the two:
1. Splitting: Narcissists engage in all-good or all-bad thinking, while real victims have a nuanced understanding of their experiences.
2. Non-discrimination: Narcissists generalize negative experiences across groups (e.g., all ex-partners were abusive), unlike real victims.
3. Self-pity and goal orientation: Narcissists wallow in self-pity and use their victimhood to achieve goals, such as gaining attention or resources.
4. Alloplastic defenses: Narcissists never accept fault and always blame others, whereas real victims engage in self-reflection and acknowledge their role in events.
5. Automatism: Narcissists have automatic, rehearsed responses to situations, lacking genuine introspection or growth, unlike real victims who learn from their experiences.
Vaknin emphasizes that narcissists convincingly present themselves as victims, making it challenging to discern the truth. He warns that many who claim victimhood, especially online, may be narcissists using victimhood as a manipulative tool.
Incest, Emotional Infidelity, Reality therapy (RT), Our Introjects, Music Triggers
The text is a Q&A session on various topics related to narcissism, including the influence of the dual mothership principle on the narcissist’s sex drive, the impact of emotional cheating versus physical infidelity on narcissists, an overview of reality therapy, and a discussion on interjects and their role in relationships. Additionally, the text touches on the triggering effect of music on narcissists, linking it to early childhood experiences of verbal abuse and entraining.
Politics as Conspiracy
The discussion covers the prevalence and impact of conspiracy theories, including their psychological and societal aspects. It delves into the role of social media and cognitive biases in reinforcing these beliefs, as well as the influence of conspiracy theories on modern psychology. The text also touches on the concept of false selves and the need to make sense of an uncertain world.