Militant Feminism, Teen Sexual Grooming, Borderline Types (Interview Excerpts)
Classic borderline women become secondary psychopaths when faced with rejection and abandonment, while covert and psychopathic borderlines become primary psychopaths in intimate settings. The rise of militant feminism in the 1960s led to a divide between men and women, with both adopting toxic traits of the opposite gender. This has resulted in a decline in marriage rates and an increase in single individuals. Lastly, grandiose narcissists are now believed to be a form of psychopathy, with true narcissists being compensatory in nature.
Reframing YOU in Narcissist’s Shared Fantasy
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the suggestions he’s received to change his name, but ultimately decides to remain Sam Vaknin. He then addresses questions about relationships with narcissists, one-night stands, and the psychology of young people, expressing concern about the emotional and mental health of today’s youth. He also delves into the psychological dynamics of one-night stands, sexting behaviors, and the narcissist’s perspective on a promiscuous partner.
Trust Your Gut: Victimized, not Victim (Interview with Caroline Strawson)
Caroline Strawson, a trauma-informed therapist and coach, interviewed Professor Sam Vaknin, an expert on narcissism. They discussed the complexities of narcissistic abuse, the importance of understanding the abuser’s background without excusing their behavior, and the need for victims to focus on self-love, setting boundaries, and trusting their instincts. Vaknin emphasized the dangers of victimhood as an identity and the societal trend towards tribalism and aggression. He advised against retaliating against abusers, as it perpetuates the cycle of abuse.
Narcissist’s Checklists: Mortification, Shared Fantasy
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the concept of shared fantasy in narcissistic relationships and provides checklists to identify behaviors and symptoms of narcissists. He explains that narcissists seek relationships to create an illusion of normalcy and control their partners. However, they often become sexless and push their partners to cheat, which allows them to maintain their victim stance and moral superiority. Narcissists may remain in abusive relationships due to past failures and the need for a shared fantasy to avoid decompensation and depression.
Push Narcissist’s 4 Secret Buttons: Gamma Man or Agent of Chaos, Madness?
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the four secret buttons of the narcissist, which are the operating system of the narcissist’s internal landscape. He explains how to push these buttons to manipulate or detach from a narcissist. Additionally, he delves into the debate about IQ tests and their limitations, and discusses the concept of gamma males in the social sexual hierarchy. He also explores the discomfort and chaos that narcissists bring into relationships.
Fake Doormat Narcissist Self-implodes
Narcissists often refuse to commit, invest, or compromise in various aspects of their lives, leading to negative outcomes and losses. This behavior is driven by six psychological reasons: entitlement, magical thinking, schizoid tendencies, grandiosity, imposter syndrome, and self-destructive behaviors. These factors lead to a rejection of life and its offerings, causing the narcissist to become a victim of abuse and mistreatment. The narcissist’s negative behaviors and self-destruction are desperate attempts to connect with the world, as they are unable to form positive, functional relationships.
Mortify, Exit: Red Pill Narcissistic Abuse (Relationship Awareness Theory)
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses various concepts such as indigo children, star people, and mortification in the context of narcissistic abuse. He delves into the psychology of mortification and its impact on the narcissist’s internal objects. Additionally, he explores attachment styles, shared fantasy, and the relationship awareness theory. Ultimately, he emphasizes the importance of modifying the narcissist as a means of liberation for the victim.
“Twin Flames” and Their “Empaths”: Danse Macabre
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the dangerous dynamics of the “twin flame” relationship, warning that those who believe they have found their twin flame are likely being manipulated by a narcissist or psychopath. He explains how the twin flame idealizes and controls the individual, leading to a state of merger and fusion that compromises personal autonomy. Vaknin also criticizes the self-aggrandizing label of “empath,” cautioning against falling into a pattern of grandiosity and dependency. He emphasizes the detrimental effects of allowing the twin flame to control one’s emotions and thoughts, leading to isolation and paranoia.
Self-states, Unmet Needs in Narcissists, Borderlines
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the concept of the self, internal objects, and self-states. He explains how the self is a privileged internal object that communicates with all other internal objects, introducing order and structure. He delves into the formation and function of self-states, emphasizing their responsiveness to unmet needs and their permeability. Additionally, he touches on coping strategies in individuals with personality disorders, such as narcissistic and schizoid solutions, and the dialogues between internal objects and self-states.
Narcissist’s Femme Fatale – or Mother?
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the confusion of states of mind in narcissism, particularly possessiveness, romantic jealousy, and mortification. He explains the triggers and reactions of possessiveness and romantic jealousy, and the introspective nature of mortification. He also delves into the different types of intimate partners that provoke these reactions in narcissists. Ultimately, he emphasizes the potential for mortification to lead to self-analysis and transformation in narcissists.