Push Narcissist’s 4 Secret Buttons: Gamma Man or Agent of Chaos, Madness?
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the four secret buttons of the narcissist, which are the operating system of the narcissist’s internal landscape. He explains how to push these buttons to manipulate or detach from a narcissist. Additionally, he delves into the debate about IQ tests and their limitations, and discusses the concept of gamma males in the social sexual hierarchy. He also explores the discomfort and chaos that narcissists bring into relationships.
Dark Triad Victims, Animal Empathy, Alpha Male (+Schizotypals, Freud)
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses a variety of topics, including schizotypal personality disorder, victim movements, and the infiltration of victim movements by dark triad personalities. He also delves into the concept of empathy in animals and the connection between emotions and empathy. Additionally, he explores the work of Sigmund Freud and the potential revival of interest in his theories in light of recent discoveries in neuroscience. Finally, he shares an excerpt from the book “Cast: The Origins of Our Discontents” by Isabel Wilkerson, discussing the concept of true alpha males in the animal kingdom.
Fake Doormat Narcissist Self-implodes
Narcissists often refuse to commit, invest, or compromise in various aspects of their lives, leading to negative outcomes and losses. This behavior is driven by six psychological reasons: entitlement, magical thinking, schizoid tendencies, grandiosity, imposter syndrome, and self-destructive behaviors. These factors lead to a rejection of life and its offerings, causing the narcissist to become a victim of abuse and mistreatment. The narcissist’s negative behaviors and self-destruction are desperate attempts to connect with the world, as they are unable to form positive, functional relationships.
Is Narcissist Self-aware, Introspective? (Global Meeting on Stress Management, March 2021)
Narcissists often have a false self that takes over their true self, leading to a lack of self-awareness and an inability to change. They may gain cognitive understanding of their disorder, but without an emotional connection, this knowledge does not lead to transformation or healing. The narcissist’s introspection is often emotionless and focused on maintaining their false self, rather than addressing their true emotions and experiences. As they grow older, their sources of narcissistic supply dwindle, leading them to withdraw further into a dreamland of grandiosity and potentially develop paranoia.
Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI): Fortune Cookie or Reliable Test?
The Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI) is a widely used and contested personality assessment test with various versions and millions of users worldwide. It is based on Jungian theory and classifies individuals into one of 16 personality types. While some studies have found the MBTI to be valid and useful, others criticize its dichotomous nature, lack of reliability, and deviation from Jung’s original theory. Despite these criticisms, the MBTI remains popular and can provide insight, raise self-awareness, and help individuals understand their past experiences and relationships.
How Narcissist Is Mortified
Narcissistic behavior can be modified through treatment, but pathological narcissism is unchangeable. Narcissists have empathic aphantasia, meaning they cannot visualize other people in an empathic way. The misinformation effect is a bigger problem for narcissists than for normal people because they have severe problems with their memory and are dissociative. The longer the delay between the presentation of the original event and the post-event information, the more likely it is that individuals will incorporate the misinformation into the new memory.
Sorry State of Psychology: NOTHING AGREED! (38th Global Psychiatry & Mental Health Conference)
Professor Sam Vaknin argues that psychology is not a true science due to its lack of agreement on fundamental concepts, ethical limitations in experimentation, the psychological uncertainty principle, and the uniqueness of psychological experiments. He believes that psychological theories are more akin to art or literature than science, and that using mathematical language does not make a discipline scientific.
Dangerous Shared Fantasies: Coercive Control and Collusive Infidelity
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses shared fantasy, object constancy, mortification, enabling in codependency, toxic masculinity, and coercive control. Coercive control is a pattern of controlling behaviors that create an unequal power dynamic in a relationship, resulting in physical violence. Projective identification and collusive infidelity are also discussed. Vaknin suggests that a state legislature could create a new offense based upon the fraud-like nature of coercively controlling behavior.
How I Experience My Narcissism: Aware, Not Healed
Sam Vaknin discusses his experience with narcissism, how it has affected his life, and how it has become a part of his identity. He explains that narcissism is a personality disorder that defines the narcissist’s waking moments and nocturnal dreams. Despite his self-awareness, Vaknin admits that he is powerless to change his narcissism. The narcissist experiences their life as a long, unpredictable, terrifying, and saddening nightmare.
Mortify, Exit: Red Pill Narcissistic Abuse (Relationship Awareness Theory)
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses various concepts such as indigo children, star people, and mortification in the context of narcissistic abuse. He delves into the psychology of mortification and its impact on the narcissist’s internal objects. Additionally, he explores attachment styles, shared fantasy, and the relationship awareness theory. Ultimately, he emphasizes the importance of modifying the narcissist as a means of liberation for the victim.