Narcissist Pays Heavy Price For Betrayal Fantasy
The Narcissist Betrayal Fantasy is a strategy used by narcissists to get rid of their intimate partners by pushing them to cheat or betray them. This allows the narcissist to maintain the high moral ground and dissolve the shared fantasy, which is highly addictive and difficult to break. The narcissist experiences pain in the form of narcissistic injury or mortification due to the misinterpretation of their actions by others, but this short-term cost is outweighed by the long-term benefits of a victimhood narrative. This strategy is also applied in other relationships, such as friendships and work collaborations, by engineering situations that set people up for failure and then pointing to their misbehavior as justification for ending the relationship.
Narcissist’s Betrayal Fantasy Painful Mommy Separation
The narcissist pushes their intimate partners to betray them in order to fulfill their betrayal fantasy, which stems from their early childhood experiences with their mother. This betrayal allows the narcissist to separate from their partner, who they have turned into a mother figure, and experience the pain of betrayal, which they believe will make the separation irreversible. The narcissist’s self-destructive behavior is a form of emotional disinvestment, allowing them to detach from the fantasy and move on. However, this cycle often repeats itself with new partners, as the narcissist is unable to fully separate and individuate.
Women=Wrong Men: Toxic Unigender (TalkTV with Trisha Goddard)
The census for England and Wales has recorded the number of transgender and non-binary people for the first time, with 262,000 people identifying as a gender different to their sex registered at birth. The census also recorded sexuality for the first time, with 1.5 million people aged over 15 or 3.2% identifying as gay or lesbian, bisexual or other sexual orientation. Professor Sam Vaknin, a clinical psychologist, believes that the emergence of a unigender is part of a historical process, with the two world wars creating a shortage of males and capitalism transitioning into a paradigm of eternal growth, which required the introduction of women into the workforce and as consumers.
Why Narcissist Never Says “ I Am Sorry”
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the narcissist’s inability to apologize or feel remorse, attributing it to their grandiosity, sense of entitlement, and lack of empathy. He also delves into the sources of the narcissist’s immunity to consequences, including their false self, magical thinking, and manipulative skills. Vaknin argues that narcissists should be held accountable for their actions, as they are aware of right and wrong but simply do not care about others enough to refrain from harmful behavior.
Savior/Rescuer as Entitled Narcissist (Excerpt)
Narcissistic saviors, healers, fixers, and rescuers are often predators who hide behind a facade of empathy, compassion, and altruism. They are grandiose, covert, and often move around in couples with someone who is honest and straightforward. They prey on vulnerable, heartbroken, sad, crying women and label someone as an abuser to pose as a savior or rescuer. They are fake friends who engage in perfidy, betrayal, and backstabbing. They are dangerous, sadistic predators who are much more dangerous than overt, open abusers.
How Narcissist Abuses Your Love, Rejects It ( Borderlines, Codependents, People Pleasers, Too)
Bad object internalization is common to narcissistic personality disorder, borderline personality disorder, dependent personality disorder, codependency, people pleasers, and parentified children. The bad object is a cluster of introjects, internal representations of significant others, that coalesce and if the messages are negative, it can lead to a child internalizing a bad object whose main message is “you’re not lovable.” These children learn to associate love with rejection, pain, hurt, humiliation, public shaming, shame, guilt, and negative affectivity. Later in life, these adults become slaves to the bad object, and the bad object becomes the Northern Star, the Lord Star, the guiding light.
Best New Year Resolution: Fake Friend Out!
Fake friends are not your friends, they are your enemies. They enable your dark side, your self-destructiveness, your self-harm. They are envious of you and are always parasitic. Fake friends are covert, have no moral compass, and are feral, savage, antisocial, psychopathic, and narcissistic. The best thing you can do for yourself this coming New Year is to rid yourself of their presence.
How Codependent Sees YOU (Intimate Partner)
In this video, Professor Sam Vaknin discusses how codependents see their intimate partners. Codependents are clingy and needy, and they insist on repeating sentences that border on brainwashing or indoctrination. They leverage learned helplessness into an art form and use emotional blackmail to get what they want. There are five categories of codependency stemming from the respective etiologies, including co-dependency that aims to fend off anxieties related to abandonment, co-dependency geared to cope with the co-dependence fear of losing control, vicarious co-dependency, borderline co-dependency or borderline narcissism, and counter-dependency.
Borderline-Narcissist Dance: How They See Each Other
The speaker discusses the dynamics of relationships between borderlines and narcissists, and the impact of these dynamics on the individuals involved. The speaker also delves into the narcissist’s point of view and perception of the other person in the relationship. The text covers various aspects of the narcissist’s mindset, including idealization, blame-shifting, victimization, and the perception of the other person as a persecutory object. The speaker also touches on the narcissist’s internal struggles and the impact on the relationship.
You Don’t Deserve To Be Happy, Loved ( Bad Object)
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the concept of the “bad object” and its impact on individuals’ self-perception and behavior. He delves into the role of harsh inner critics and how they instill feelings of unworthiness and self-loathing. Vaknin also explores how individuals may reject happiness and embrace misery due to the influence of the bad object, leading to self-sabotaging, self-defeating, and self-destructive behaviors. Additionally, he examines the connection between masochism and narcissism, as well as the emotional investment and catharsis in narcissistic individuals.