Social isolation with a narcissist can be compared to a hostage situation, with the victim experiencing trauma bonding. In this situation, the narcissist becomes paranoid and develops a need for control, which is displaced onto their spouse or intimate partner.
In this lecture, Professor Sam Vaknin discusses two pandemics: COVID-19 and the meaninglessness of life in abusive relationships. He argues that the COVID-19 pandemic is not growing exponentially, but rather in a linear progression, and that the pandemic is largely
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the twin pandemics of COVID-19 and borderline narcissistic couples. He addresses misconceptions and misunderstandings about COVID-19, such as confusing case fatality rate with mortality. He then delves into the dynamics of borderline narcissistic couples, where one
The coronavirus pandemic is seen by some as a solution to the ills of modern society, with the hope that it will restore solidarity, family, friendship, community, and harmony. However, this nihilistic state of mind has resulted in people violently
In summary, Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the psychology of borderline women, focusing on splitting, self-destructive behaviors, and substance abuse. Splitting is an infantile defense mechanism that leads to idealization and devaluation of others. Self-destructive behaviors can include risky sexual encounters,
Partners of narcissists often deny the signs of their sexual behavior, which can be pretty open, including consuming pornography, having lovers, and trying to convince their partner to participate in threesomes and group sex. The rejection of the narcissist’s sexual
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) and its similarities to narcissism. BPD is currently thought to be a female manifestation of secondary psychopathy and involves dissociation. Borderlines often have a diffuse identity and rely on their intimate partners
The panic and mass hysteria surrounding COVID-19 is due to a confluence of factors, including ignorance, social media, distrust of authority, and narcissism. The virus itself is relatively harmless, with a case fatality rate of 0.7%, and has killed only
Narcissists and borderlines have archaic wounds, and they cater to each other’s pathologies by activating or provoking these archaic wounds and then solving them. The borderline’s focus on her intimate partner constitutes narcissistic supply, and the borderline’s concentration, intensity, dedication,
Narcissistic women have different sexual fantasies than narcissistic men, with women focusing more on narratives and context, while men focus on body parts. Narcissistic women tend to have fantasies of domination and control, often involving violence and extreme BDSM practices.