Narcissists need their victims to suffer to regulate their own emotions and feel a sense of control. They keep a mental ledger of positive and negative behaviors, with negative behaviors weighing more heavily. Narcissists need counterfactual statements to maintain their
The text is a transcript of a speech by Professor Sam Vaknin about the beliefs, tenets, and credo of a narcissist. He describes himself as a narcissist and explains that he is superior, opinionated, and entitled to be grandiose. He
Satisficing is a concept in decision-making theory where one prefers the minimally satisfactory or barely acceptable option. It is linked to narcissistic and psychopathic behavior and was discovered by Nobel Prize-winning economist Herbert K. Simon. Satisficers have low self-esteem, external
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the question of whether narcissism is inherited or acquired. He explores the history of narcissism and personality disorders, the influence of genetics and environment, and the emerging field of epigenetics. Vaknin emphasizes the complex interplay between
In this video, Professor Sam Vaknin takes the viewer on a tour of his narcissism through his poetry. He warns that the imagery may be disturbing and triggering, and that his experiences are typical of narcissists. He discusses his childhood
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the psychological impact of the COVID-19 pandemic, including signs of mass psychosis and hysteria. He highlights the cultural aspects of how different societies view the body and how this affects their reactions to the pandemic. Vaknin
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the nature of narcissists and psychopaths, emphasizing that they are users, takers, and exploiters who do not form committed, long-term, or emotional relationships. He explains that they operate within a pathological narcissistic space and seek novelty,
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses attachment styles and disorders in various personality disorders, including narcissism, psychopathy, and borderline personality disorder. He emphasizes the impact of childhood experiences on attachment styles and the role of relational schemas in guiding behaviors and relationships.
Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the connection between trauma, including external shocks such as the pandemic, and reactants, or disproportional reactions to daily triggers. He reconceives personality disorders as post-traumatic conditions, with all personality disorders in cluster B starting as trauma
The text describes a relationship with a person who is emotionally unavailable and causes pain and rejection. The person craves love and intimacy but pushes the other person away and hurts them first. The relationship is described as a form